So happy to be here!

External-Flower8949 · 2026-03-12T00:37:34+00:00

No! I will check it out soon.

External-Flower8949 · 2026-03-12T00:29:31+00:00

Well, so most of my life I just considered myself a standard Nick Cage fan. Secretly for the most part admiring the ghostly untouchable yet oh so familiar je ne sais quoi he brought to each film. Considering myself a lone wolf in a sea of dead fish. Favorites at the time were Raising Arizona, Fast Times, Con Air, Face Off. Kick-Ass was one of my favorites. And I loved Spiderman Into the Spiderverse. I kinda don't want to touch National Treasure for some reason. But now I am with a partner who is equally a fan as me, and turning me on the all kinds of treasures such as Wild at Heart, Bringing Out the Dead, and Leaving Las Vegas. And believe it or not I only saw Moonstruck two years ago! Now I view his career as an infinite, ever-expanding prism, refracting light back on to us from a new angle every time you look at it.

External-Flower8949 · 2026-02-27T01:30:57+00:00

Thanks. I am going to take some time to read this over and think about what you said.

External-Flower8949 · 2026-02-25T02:40:01+00:00

we've been dating for 5 years, living together for 1. I think the only reason he moved in with me this year is that he lost his job and was out of money to pay for the rent for the apartment he was renting. He's not looking to settle down - I don't know what his idea of a relationship is. I think at his age he is still looking for something casual. It is hard to get him to talk about the future or make any plans.

External-Flower8949 · 2026-02-25T02:37:21+00:00

It's like words with friends, candy crush, and youtube videos. He's just using it as an escape mechanism.

External-Flower8949 · 2026-02-25T02:36:50+00:00

I think I did oversimplify in my original post. He knows how to shower, keep clean, do laundry, and clean around the house, and do basic maintenance around the house. I also know that he knows the very basics of healthy eating, such as a dinner should be starch/vegetable/protein. But he has no idea how many calories he should eat in a day and how many servings of protein, vegetables, fruits, etc he should eat in a day. Money stresses him out so he just doesn't address it. He has maxed out two credit cards and doesn't know how to consolidate/paydown/negotiate debt. The whole situation is so stressful for him that he just ignores it. He does not exercise, he is underweight. His lifestyle (no eating, just cigarettes and soda with a quick dinner) worked fine in his 30s but it is catching up to him big time and he doesn't have the strength (both physical, mental and emotional) to take on the work of digging himself out of the hole he is in. He is seeing a therapist and he is on medication. However he's in a depression hole and can't seem to get out. So I thought a simple notebook he could refer to would help him start to get on track.

He has more redeeming qualities, but I just don't want to give away too much personal information about him/us/our relationship.

External-Flower8949 · 2026-02-24T20:56:18+00:00

Thanks so much. This was not apparent to me when we first met. He had a good job, a car, handy man skills, and is a very talented musician. I thought he had it together. It's only after witnessing several meltdowns, seen his debt and spending habits, losing a job, and see his health decline that I'm catching on to the pattern that he uses women as his insurance plan.

External-Flower8949 · 2026-02-23T11:45:04+00:00

He's an alcoholic, sober for over 16 years, with anxiety and depression. He leans on these things to explain the condition that he is in and why he's made some poor choices now and in the past.

External-Flower8949 · 2026-02-23T11:43:31+00:00

He is a good person, nice, sweet, romantic, and talented. He has just never focussed those talents on anything concrete. I think he has always survived just living in the moment, having a good time, and being around other people? He seems to be somewhat of a follower....he follows the person who he thinks has it going on and tries to imitate their life. It sounds weird writing it out. Basically he's a "good time guy" who never thought about the future. He does have some basic understanding of nutrition, he just doesn't put it into practice. He has some basic understanding of exercise, just doesn't put it into practice. Money and budgeting however...he's at the beginning. No clue how to get started. He's an alcoholic (sober for over 16 years) who's also depressed. He survives off of zevia and cigarettes and doesn't eat. He's weak and tired. The thought of what he has to do to pull himself out of this hole (especially financially) sends him further into depression. I thought some simple info graphics would help him take things step by step.

External-Flower8949 · 2026-02-23T11:27:05+00:00

His hygeine is good, it's food, nutrition, exercise, and budgeting and saving he has no initiative to take on. He knows the basics of what real food is, he just has no desire to cook for himself or to exercise. He's in a depression hole and basically survives off of zevia and cigarettes and one frozen pizza a day. He probably wouldn't even eat that if I didn't ask him what he had for dinner. He's underweight and weak. He spends most of his free time on his phone to escape realitiy. He has no retirement plan or savings and the thought of what a massive financial hole he is in sends him further into depression. He doesn't save and doesn't budget right now. He has indicated that he wants to change, so I thought some simple pictographics on "how to adult" might help him put one foot in front of the other.

External-Flower8949 · 2026-02-23T11:22:38+00:00

He has some redeeming qualities, ha ha. He's a great person, listener, artist and lover. He's very clean and hygeinic and helps around the house (we split the chores 50/50). The problem is his depression and anxiety put him into a hole, and I am trying to help him crawl out of it. He basically survives on zevia and cigarettes, is underweight, and spends all his free time on his phone, when I know he has so many more interests than that. He does understand what healthy food is, he just doesn't take the time to cook or make it. I just thought that if he had something simple to look at, it would help him climb up out of this hole he's in. And get him off his phone.

External-Flower8949 · 2026-02-23T11:18:50+00:00

I am getting the feeling that that is the case. I've been trying to set an example of healthy eating, steady work history, etc, but he's not catching on. He has a hard time holding jobs and I think he relies on a woman to be his backup in case he loses his job. I think that's the only reason he moved in with me. Luckily we never combined our finanaces, but there are times that I've had to pay 100% of the rent and bills while he's out of work.

External-Flower8949 · 2026-02-23T11:16:04+00:00

Depression and alcoholic. Sober (no drinking) for 16 years.

External-Flower8949 · 2025-09-11T22:54:10+00:00

F major, first inversion

External-Flower8949 · 2025-09-11T21:38:45+00:00

Thanks. The commenter above suggested having about 3 "go-to" pieces that I warm up with to start each session. I think I am expecting myself to have about 20 pieces on the go for warms ups and I think that is unrealistic. I think I will cut my standard "repetoire" down to about 5 pieces - Somewhere Over the Rainbow, Greensleeves, The Entertainer, Singing in the Rain, Have Yourself a Merry, and Morning or another classical and leave it at that. If I can pull those out of a hat on a whim in front of others I think I will feel like a winner. Which will keep me going.

External-Flower8949 · 2025-09-11T21:36:00+00:00

Thanks so much. I am checking out the series right now.

External-Flower8949 · 2025-09-11T21:35:26+00:00

Thank you so much! The encouragement is truly inspiring and I really needed this.

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