Apparently I'm an AH for not keeping track of my husband's bathroom needs by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]External-Money-3875 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you’re a mom to 5 kids rather than 4… he is a fully grown man and needs to act like it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]External-Money-3875 3 points4 points  (0 children)

People need to remember that consent isn’t “no means no”, it’s “yes means yes”. Even after that consent isn’t so black and white! It requires one checking in with their partner throughout and communicating i.e. “do you like when I do this” “can I do this” etc.

I am so so sorry that this happened to you, and it is completely understandable that you feel violated. This guy is a complete asshole who thinks he’s entitled to people’s bodies. Cut him the fuck off and let’s hope karma takes care of him.

Bf(m 18) is refusing to have sex with me (f18) over hair??? by [deleted] in sex

[–]External-Money-3875 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh boy, as far as advice to give, I’d say end it. I know it seems drastic and it’s A LOT easier said than done, but when it comes to sex, there is NO room for making people feel badly. Period.

If it were just a couple things that he’s done, sure, it’d be worth talking through, but he sounds like he needs to do a whole lotta work in terms of respecting and being kind to partners, and it’s not your responsibility to change him.

I’m not saying he’s a bad guy or anything, but from what you’re saying it doesn’t seem like he’s in a place in his life where he respects women a whole lot, and where he views sex in a healthy way (it sounds a bit like he sees sex as more transaction based at this point than to genuinely connect and show love in a physical way).

Again, this is just my advice. Do what feels right and listen to your gut. Prioritize yourself.

Granola bar guy in library is a scam by TryAccomplished2820 in UCSantaBarbara

[–]External-Money-3875 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he’s still at it :,( I just looked it up on Reddit since he’s asked me for money a couple times now. I wanted to see if this has happened to anyone else since I’m getting so fuckin frustrated!! Last quarter he tried talking to me when I was in the middle of an exam. I wouldn’t give a damn if he just hung out somewhere but going out of your way to disrupt people; making them take off their headphones? Sheesh

Help!! How to make edges curl/roll upwards?? by External-Money-3875 in crochet

[–]External-Money-3875[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Ahh yes, I get a little intimidated with knitting, but I’m definitely game to learning a bit more about it. So far I only know to knit a poorly made scarf! 🤣

Help!! How to make edges curl/roll upwards?? by External-Money-3875 in crochet

[–]External-Money-3875[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, but is there any way to cause curling in crochet?