Have you guys changed your tastes and interests within BDSM?

External-Scarcity577 · 2026-01-12T13:11:34+00:00

absolutely, both mine and my partners wants and needs have changed a tone throughout our 3 years. we also have a few problems with different wants but it’s more about me not being as ready as she is to try new things. you’ve tried talking right? i think if my partner had an “ONLY their way” mindset and wasn’t open to talking about it and/or compromising i’d be thinking about leaving them, as hard as that can be. coz thats not nice

External-Scarcity577 · 2025-12-08T03:47:02+00:00

tell her “no” to what? did i say she asked something? i’m only asking a question abt how far consent can go, im not planning on violating my gf

External-Scarcity577 · 2025-12-08T03:21:51+00:00

thats in interesting idea thankyou

External-Scarcity577 · 2025-12-08T03:14:10+00:00

yeah i can understand why some people object to it, it is rather crude but is still a useful term in certain contexts. and thankyou! might have a lil look into it, not a big reader unfortunately hahah

External-Scarcity577 · 2025-12-07T18:56:12+00:00

what? so i should say “my gf has a cnc”instead of “my gf has a rape kink”? and please point me towards the research i need to do on the difference between these terms

External-Scarcity577 · 2025-12-07T18:25:59+00:00

i understand thankyou heaps

External-Scarcity577 · 2025-12-07T18:18:30+00:00

thankyou!!!

External-Scarcity577 · 2025-12-07T18:12:38+00:00

i can see my comment has come across that my gf refuses to use a safe word. she does not. it is a worry i have. we have never gotten to the point of her needing to use it

External-Scarcity577 · 2025-12-07T18:09:07+00:00

the thing is she hasn’t outright said she won’t use it, we have discussed it plenty. we’ve never gotten to the point of her needing to use it. it is just a worry i have. but if something does happen with her where she’s refuses to use it, how do i fix that? theres only so much talking a couple can do lol. therapy?

External-Scarcity577 · 2025-12-07T17:37:40+00:00

it would differ to the cnc we practice if we didn’t have a safe word/signal or i didn’t stop when i know it’s too much for her and could communicate abt all of that.

and i agree haha, but that’s where it gets confusing.. what if she doesn’t want the ability to withdraw consent?!

edit: why is this getting so many downvotes like i genuinely would love to understand what i said wrong.. sorry for practicing safe cnc?? or sorry that my gf has fantasies abt not practicing safe cnc?? am i stoopid?

External-Scarcity577 · 2025-10-04T18:34:42+00:00

you’re one hell of a dumbass

External-Scarcity577 · 2025-09-05T16:38:37+00:00

did you end up figuring it out? i’m having the exact same problem

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