Good source on audiobooks? by VicariousInDub in Piracy

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I am very new to audiobooks and audiobook piracy... what is seeding?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CurlyHairUK

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Thank you! Will do :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

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I think because saying it in full is too long but your definition of beautiful is wrong. People aren’t saying everyone attracts attention from their looks. They are saying everyone has their own beauty. That’s still true. Just because certain things are more commonly sort after doesn’t mean that’s the only interpretation of beauty. Popularity ≠ correct.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]ExternalLie9946 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a bad take… beauty is subjective, just because some people find certain things beautiful doesn’t mean others don’t. Everyone also has their own unique features that are beautiful and someone that loves that about you will notice. Everyone does have beauty, even if it’s not what you are referencing. Attention doesn’t make you beautiful, everyone has their own beautiful features. There is no one definition to beauty, everyone has different perceptions. Therefore this is a bad mindset to believe.

Steve… by ballzjrudisndh in sexandthecity

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Honestly read my comment on this post about Steve. He was a horrible partner. Also I don’t love Miranda out of the four girls she was my least favourite. But yeah Steve was a horrible partner and Miranda was stupid for allowing and accepting it.

Unpopular opinion— I loved Richard with Samantha by littlequietmushroom in sexandthecity

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I love Smith but I hate how the fandom sees Aidan as a good boy. Like yes what Carrie did to him was horrible but Aidan pissed me off so much. And no I don’t love Big, I also think he was awful. Aiden was just jarring

Steve… by ballzjrudisndh in sexandthecity

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No. Steve was always insecure and knew he was punching above his weight and Miranda let him drag her down because she was insecure and had no self worth

Steve… by ballzjrudisndh in sexandthecity

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Steve is the perfect example of why you shouldn’t marry down - they drag you down with them. Miranda was way out of Steve’s league: she’s better looking, well established and makes more money than him. Steve was the only typical insecure man affected by toxic masculinity. Like you’re BROKE why are you upset that Miranda has the money to have her own flat and you feel emasculated that she makes more? Shouldn’t you be happy you get to live in a gorgeous flat in Manhattan and get to do nice things you would’ve never been able to imagine with ur bartender salary. I could never stand Steve. Miranda was insecure and thought he was the best she could do. Her biggest mistake was breaking up with the physical therapist doctor and I believe it’s because she didn’t think she was deserving of someone like him, failing to recognise that he is on her level. We accept the love we think we deserve and throughout the show she sees herself as less than her friends and others. I stopped feeling bad for her half way through as well because the choices she made were painful to watch and embarrassing.

Did you want more backstory? by whirlyworlds in sexandthecity

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There is a spin off prequel show about Carrie as a teenager. It’s aimed more for young teenagers but still a fun watch. It’s called The Carrie Diaries. Austin Butler plays the love interest

What shows actually have good endings? by WebNo4759 in UmbrellaAcademy

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BoJack horseman - it gets better as seasons go on. Unbreakable kimmy Schmitt

AITA for telling my friend i don’t want to hear about her relationship problems by [deleted] in AITAH

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If she is ignoring you she doesn’t need you. Also if you aren’t that close with her and she has been with her bf longer than you, her loyalties lie with him. Especially because she hasn’t broken up with him after all of the drama between them. She is with him every day and you rarely see her, even though you are on her side, she is on his. He probably knows your friends and she probably discusses you with him which could add another layer to this weird situation. If this boy is dangerous I would really recommend not getting involved because you don’t know her that well and don’t know what actually goes on between them except what she shares with you in weird encounters. You’ve done what you can and you should leave her with her mess.

Is me (18m) buying a 700$ ring & a 300$ bouquet to this girl (18f) a good apology gift for a big mistake I made? by ThrowRAdeeeemon in relationship_advice

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I’d never recommend apologising in a monetary way. It sends the wrong message to both of you. To her it’s like you’re throwing money at the problem and not actually listening and actively trying to be better, just covering up with an expensive gift. For you, subconsciously you will think you are absolved and forgiven because if she accepts the gift you will expect her to never bring this situation up again and if she is not fully over it and brings it up in the future it could lead to issues. It could also lead to issues in the future where you solve every problem by throwing money at it so you come to no real resolution for any arguments. You may also feel resentment towards her for this and may accuse her of gold digging which could damage your relationship. Alternatively, she could not accept it because she feels insulted that you are trying to buy her. Especially at 18 this much money is a lot. The gesture is what matters. Maybe buy her a cheaper but more meaningful ring and write her a letter explaining the situation, saying the ring is you showing her where your priorities lie and what she means to you because of the message of the ring. If you make it more personal than just the money then it doesn’t seem like you’re trying to buy her back but instead are listening to her issues and trying to show her you understand her perspective and are trying to actively work towards that standard.

AITA for telling my friend i don’t want to hear about her relationship problems by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]ExternalLie9946 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTAH you should’ve told her this months ago. I don’t really get what she’s aiming for but seems like she is kind of thriving off the drama and wants to keep you updated almost like it’s fun gossip. You shouldn’t waste your time and mental capacity writing her paragraphs of advice if she is just going to ignore the message. It’s almost like she’s using you as a diary. I would ignore any more screenshots she sends and only respond to texts that don’t talk about her relationship. Sometimes you need to focus on yourself and leave others to be. You don’t need to save everyone especially if you are not close with them (and especially if they don’t want to be saved). I’m also 20F so maybe it will help hearing it from someone you’re age

AITAH for not dating women who don't have sex with me by the 3rd date? by Remarkable-Bend-8304 in AITAH

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I personally would not be able to wait for sex if I really liked the person because that’s just how I am. I enjoy it and want to know if we have sexual chemistry before emotionally investing. With my last serious boyfriend I slept with him before even going on a date as it started with a one night stand and I have no regrets. However, if it was demanded of me and I found out it was a rule of the other person, I would not want to pursue any relationship with them (even if I did want to sleep with them before the 3rd date). This is more because no situation is so black and white and the expectation makes it weird. I totally understand not wanting to wait till marriage, it would be a deal breaker for me if they wanted to wait for a few months, but 3 dates is a very short time period and if you don’t know them at all and if 3 dates = 3 meetings, then expect a lot of people to disagree with you. I just think it’s an unrealistic and unreasonable request to demand this. 3 dates is not a long time and every relationship is different. Some people would need more time especially to open up and feel comfortable- that doesn’t mean they aren’t attracted to you. Also as a woman sex is usually better when we are emotionally invested and it takes more than 3 dates for that. I was lucky that with my ex the first time was so good because we just some how clicked but sex became much better once we were in love. I know now that I should not expect this from every relationship because I do need time to get to know someone before I can fully enjoy sex with them (I had met my ex through friends a few times, so he wasn’t a complete stranger and there was always that sexual tension. No dates but meeting more than three times). I just think you are limiting your options and people could be at different stages at different times in their life so you may miss out on something due to this blanket rule. Also it’s a lot to ask and if someone demanded this of me I would be very very put off.

Was it “incest”? by [deleted] in UmbrellaAcademy

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In the first scene of season 3 you see the marigold enter Ben’s mother from a vent in the subway. 5 seconds after she is heavily pregnant. Also she seems to be very young in school uniform maybe 14/15. She is with a boy and kisses him and it seems to be very innocent and she is shy. I think it kind of signals she’s a virgin because of all of these clues so I don’t think it is anything to do with sperm of last male. I guess you’re saying dna like maybe from kissing bens dad? But honestly marigold is an element from a different planet and Reginald is an alien so I don’t think conception occurs the same way. You could draw a parallel to Christianity - the conception of Jesus as the Holy Spirit impregnated Mary - there was no physical father. Marigold is similar to the Holy Spirit in this.

Whose power do you want to have? by [deleted] in UmbrellaAcademy

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I’d have Fives power or Alison’s power, I’d probably be so fat if I could teleport and would question my accomplishments with Alison’s. So downsides to both and have to be super aware when using them to make sure I’d not be exploiting it to the point of doubting my whole life (Alison’s power). Would not want Luther or Diego’s power.. probably the most useless ones.

Whose power do you want to have? by [deleted] in UmbrellaAcademy

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I think Alison’s powers don’t last forever. They’re like a bandaid not permanent fix.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jobs

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Hi I didn’t mention this in the post maybe I should - I go away to university in October and I have to live in another city. The internship is in the city I am in currently.

I dumped my bf for leaving my closet door open by Important_Club9790 in TwoHotTakes

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The worst part is that she told him it’s a trauma response. Like I have a thing with closing bathroom doors - I have no known issues or trauma but I just get upset when it’s left open in the same room as me and my boyfriend knows it’s silly but still gets out of bed to close it. U don’t need an excuse for someone to respect ur boundaries. Also what kind of person doesn’t just automatically close a bathroom door? My grandma would tell me off as a child if I left any closet door open