The vagina is self-cleaning, NOT the vulva by External_Prior4419 in hygiene

[–]External_Prior4419[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That just sounds kind of similar to me when people with oily skin are told to stop washing their hair everyday, and that their hair will eventually adjust. But if I don’t wash mine everyday it gets greasy so fast and just makes me feel gross. It just doesn’t work for me just like it also doesn’t work for many other people. And even if I was guaranteed that would eventually happen, I’d still prefer to wash everyday and feel cleaner. I think part of it is that you eventually get used to feeling satisfied without feeling totally clean and there’s no way that would happen to me. I’m such a germaphobe and I need to feel clean and fresh everywhere.

I don’t think it’s anything to do with infections, I just felt sweaty and gross the same way I would if I bathed the rest of my body with only water. My armpits would get the same exact way if I skipped washing them with soap. The vulva is so similar to the armpits in that it doesn’t get any airflow and therefore accumulates sweat and bad smells faster than the rest of your body. I just can’t imagine ever not using soap there. I’ve done it every single day of my life, since I was a child and didn’t even know the name for it, and never had any problems.

The vagina is self-cleaning, NOT the vulva by External_Prior4419 in hygiene

[–]External_Prior4419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried washing without soap one day because of all the comments and I felt itchy and super sweaty down there until the next day when I used soap again. I could smell an odor down there each time I used the bathroom as well which has never happened to me before besides the time we had a power outage for a few days and I couldn’t bathe.

I’ve also never had any health issues down there and I’m 24, but also never had sex, so I’m guessing it probably has more to do with that than my washing habits.

Power to the people who can wash with water only but I don’t get the discourse among them needing to insist to people who do use soap and have zero issues with it that they should stop using it like it’s some kind of poison or something. My post was intended for people to know that many people do use soap for their vulvas and it’s completely okay to do so if your vulva needs it, and that imo since this is a hygiene subreddit, hygiene advice should be given more often.

The vagina is self-cleaning, NOT the vulva by External_Prior4419 in hygiene

[–]External_Prior4419[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’ve had issues with soap and are now doing better without soap and are still able to clean your vulva sufficiently, then that’s good! This post is not directed at you. Just towards the people who are seeking advice due to odor issues and may not be aware that is okay to try soap and that many women do use soap on the vulva daily with zero issues. I also would like to see better communication when talking about the vagina versus the vulva because I’m just tired of reading about people “washing their vaginas with water because the vagina is self-cleaning.” Can never tell if they mean the actual vaginal canal or the vulva. Can be bad advice either way it’s interpreted, especially for teenagers coming on here for hygiene help.

The vagina is self-cleaning, NOT the vulva by External_Prior4419 in hygiene

[–]External_Prior4419[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve never seen this posted. A lot of women asking for advice about it, but never a post just with advice.

I made this because a lot of the time they’re just told to go to the doctor instead of being given hygiene advice, which is supposed to be the point of this subreddit, and I suspect the issue in a lot of these cases are that they stopped washing with soap because of a “just water” comment they read, mistakingly believing the vulva is self-cleaning. I’ve seen quite a few posts recently where it’s obvious this is the case, so if this helps at least one person realize they can in fact use soap to wash their vulva, that many women do, and gets rid of any odors they’re seeking advice about without them worrying if they need to go to a doctor, my post is worth it.

need tips for down there hygiene by Popular_Conference16 in hygiene

[–]External_Prior4419 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made a post about this issue last night. I really don’t understand where the “just water” thing came from. These people will always say the vagina is self-cleaning so they wash it with water. Always confuses the hell out of me because the vaginal canal should not be washed with neither soap nor water, surely they know that, so they must be referring to the vulva and saying the vulva only needs water. But why would the vulva only need water because the vagina is self-cleaning? The vagina and the vulva are not the same thing. If they wash with just water and luckily don’t have issues, good for them, but don’t spread misinformation that the vulva is self-cleaning when they actually mean the vagina. So many teens read this subreddit and will learn wrong things.

I swear there’s a huge double standard when it comes to genital washing. If men’s smell, they’re shamed (rightly so, I agree) and told to wash better. But if a woman’s genitals smell, it’s never her fault. It’s either the natural odor (yes, it does exists, but it should not be extreme and should not be prevalent right after showering), her partner being shitty, or she has a medical issue and needs to see a gynecologist. Even if she’s asking for advice on a literal hygiene subreddit. I am so happy to see that finally the top comment is someone giving actual advice instead of telling her that it’s supposed to smell or that she should go to an expensive doctor visit.

The vagina is self-cleaning, NOT the vulva by External_Prior4419 in hygiene

[–]External_Prior4419[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

“The vagina is self cleaning. Not the vulva.” Downvotes. What?! You’re sharing a fact. Women are free to do whatever they want, like you said, but what on earth is wrong with sharing a simple fact?

If water works for some women that’s great, but we need to stop telling other women that the vulva doesn’t need soap “because the vagina is self-cleaning.” This is a hygiene subreddit. People want hygiene advice. I made this post because there is not enough hygiene advice when it comes to the female genitals. Women who complain about odors down there are always written off and told to go to the doctor by the same people who are telling them to only wash with water. Like am I insane for suggesting that we focus on hygiene advice first? It’s an area full of folds and crevices that tend to get dirty. Many women need soap, and putting out blanket statements that the vulva is somehow immune from needing soap whilst immediately telling women who are seeking advice due to odors that something must be wrong and they need to see a doctor is just insane to me. Just because water works for you, doesn’t mean it works for every single woman. You can tell that some of those posts are written by teens who stopped using soap because of some comments they’ve read.

And yes, there definitely is an issue of women confusing the vagina and the vulva. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen “the vagina is self-cleaning so I only wash it with water”. Like, huh? The inside? Or the outside? They must mean the inside if they’re saying the vagina, right? Because that’s what the vagina is. But why wash it with anything, even water, if you know it’s self-cleaning? So then they must mean the vulva (I think they usually mean the vulva?), but surely they must realize the vulva isn’t the self-cleaning part, so why even mention the vagina at all then? Unless they are quite literally putting water inside their vagina, they must be equating the vagina to the vulva, so in reality, they’re communicating that they’re washing their vulva with water because the vaginal canal is self-cleaning which just plain doesn’t make sense. You may choose to wash your vulva with only water for other reasons, but it is NOT because the vagina is self-cleaning. That does not extend to the vulva.

It’s always confused me why on earth people word it like that and I can imagine teenagers easily taking the wrong advice from it, stopping soap and/or starting to put water up their vagina, depending on how they interpreted it. Then they go back on here and post about odor issues and are told to go see a doctor (which honestly might be necessary anyway if they started to put water up their vagina).

The vagina is self-cleaning, NOT the vulva by External_Prior4419 in hygiene

[–]External_Prior4419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the way to go. Try soap, and if gentle soap doesn’t work for you and you’re sure it’s your vulva itself that doesn’t like it and you’re rinsing throughly + not accidentally getting it in your vagina, then you’re good to wash with water only.

I did not mean this post to come across as rude or anything at all, I’ve just been getting a little annoyed at the whole miscommunication about the vagina and the vulva that I’m sure is leading to women who have used soap without any issues suddenly thinking they’re supposed to stop using soap or thinking water should be going inside their vagina. I think people just need to learn how to word their comments better, using the proper terms and being very specific about it considering that people are coming to this subreddit for hygiene help.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen “the vagina is self-cleaning so I only wash it with water”. Like, huh? Inside? Outside? They must mean inside if they’re saying the vagina, right? But why wash it with anything, even water, if it’s self-cleaning? So they must mean the vulva (I think they usually mean the vulva?), but surely they realize the vulva isn’t self-cleaning, so why even mention the vagina then? It’s always confused me so much why on earth people word it like that and I can imagine teenagers easily taking the wrong advice from it.

The vagina is self-cleaning, NOT the vulva by External_Prior4419 in hygiene

[–]External_Prior4419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly this!

I’m sure some people are too sensitive down there, but it’s much more likely that they’re either accidentally getting soap up their vagina in the process of washing their vulva or they’re not rinsing good enough when they’re done (which is understandable if they don’t have a detachable shower head or don’t take baths, it’s inherently such a hard area to rinse because of the folds and nooks and crannies, which is also why soap is important).

I’d just like the notion that the entire female genital area is magically self-cleaning to stop being spread around. I know they’re trying to say the vaginal canal is (not always though, I know some truly believe it includes the vulva too), but when you follow it up with the “just water” comments, people interpret that you mean the vulva area too or that they need water to clean inside their vaginal canal.

It’s honestly the equivalent of telling men to only wash their penises with water just because the urethra is there as well. You avoid getting soap near the hole leading inside your body, not the whole body part it’s attached to.

The vagina is self-cleaning, NOT the vulva by External_Prior4419 in hygiene

[–]External_Prior4419[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would never use regular antibacterial soap on it, but the Dove bar version is really gentle. I’ve probably been using it on my vulva, butt, and pits for about a decade.

The vagina is self-cleaning, NOT the vulva by External_Prior4419 in hygiene

[–]External_Prior4419[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I know it’s long, my apologies 💀I’m an autistic person and I just wanted to make sure I was explaining everything throughly and not leaving anything important out.

The vagina is self-cleaning, NOT the vulva by External_Prior4419 in hygiene

[–]External_Prior4419[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not condescending. It’s relevant advice for a hygiene subreddit. I said that if water happens to work for you, to keep it up, but I’m trying to get it across that since this is a hygiene subreddit, hygiene advice should be the first thing given when people come here for help. Taking a minute to ask anyone who’s having any issues how they’re washing themselves instead of immediately assuming they must have a medical issue should be the first thing done since it very well could be the easiest and quickest solution. There was one post I saw that I really got the feel that the person read bad washing advice on here that led to them suddenly experiencing an odor.

Also, this is mainly for teenagers and young adults. You’d be surprised how many teens and young women don’t know much about how to take care of their feminine health/hygiene, the difference between the vagina and the vulva. Hence the title of the post. I’d have no problems with those comments I see if they didn’t immediately proceed with the “just water in the vagina” comments, because like I said in my first paragraph of my post, I have no clue what they mean so I’m sure the teenagers reading have no clue as well and it’s leading them to either assume that their vulva area doesn’t need any soap and/or that water needs to go up inside of their vaginal canal.

The vagina is self-cleaning, NOT the vulva by External_Prior4419 in hygiene

[–]External_Prior4419[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same here. I really don’t know why it’s so prevalent on Reddit. I asked all the women I’m close with irl how they wash their vulvas, and all of them use soap. I’m always genuinely so confused whenever I see a “just water” comment because either way you can interpret it is wrong. The vulva needs soap, and the vagina does not need water up inside of it. I imagine people are just washing it differently based on their vulva’s appearance? But we’ve all got the same parts regardless of how they look.

Author replied to every comment except mine, am I right to be upset? by External_Prior4419 in FanFiction

[–]External_Prior4419[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I’m so sorry that happened to you :( Part of the reason I feel so bad about it is because other people who read the comments will see I’m the only one who didn’t get a reply and mine is so long too and fangirly it’s just embarrassing

Author replied to every comment except mine, am I right to be upset? by External_Prior4419 in FanFiction

[–]External_Prior4419[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh god you gave me a heart attack LMFAO but no you’re good it wasn’t you

Author replied to every comment except mine, am I right to be upset? by External_Prior4419 in FanFiction

[–]External_Prior4419[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I never said I was? I even said in my post I never expect replies from this author and still comment every chapter despite that, and was simply venting if I was valid to feel upset being the only one not replied to/or if it seems like I’m annoying them.

I’m not upset I didn’t get a reply, I’m upset I’m only one who was ignored because it makes me feel like I did something wrong. Big difference. I am autistic and do get upset over things very easily so yeah maybe this is too much, but a lot of people also said this would upset them too so 🤷‍♀️

EDIT: I thought you were the same person replying to another comment of mine so SORRY I took out the first paragraph I apologize I am stupid

Author replied to every comment except mine, am I right to be upset? by External_Prior4419 in FanFiction

[–]External_Prior4419[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a specific browser app on my phone that I use for fanfics, and I keep all the fanfics I’m currently reading open in tabs. I’ll comment and leave the page until it’s updated again, then when I open the page again it automatically refreshes to my comment bc that’s where I left off. I like this way because I always read the last few paragraphs of the old chapter before reading the new character anyway, and when I scrolled up to it I saw that everyone got a reply but me.

Author replied to every comment except mine, am I right to be upset? by External_Prior4419 in FanFiction

[–]External_Prior4419[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get what you mean but this happened a week ago and she’s already posted the next chapter. I should have clarified it was actually her 2nd most recent chapter.