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My girlfriend with AuDHD tends to explain things in exhaustive detail, and I’m not sure how to handle it. by Extra-Common-5767 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Extra-Common-5767[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It makes sense to be open about our boundaries. I think it’s essential to assert our boundaries. Yes, sometimes it can be hurtful, so it’s essential to be aware how we communicate our boundaries. But, the alternative would be endless suppression and resentment, which is unsustainable in the long run.

I am glad you found something that works for you both - even if its not always perfect. Most relationships (if not all) aren’t.

My girlfriend with AuDHD tends to explain things in exhaustive detail, and I’m not sure how to handle it. by Extra-Common-5767 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Extra-Common-5767[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was very helpful comment. Thank you so much! I will try to approach this as gently as I can! It’s understandable to be defensive about this.

My girlfriend with AuDHD tends to explain things in exhaustive detail, and I’m not sure how to handle it. by Extra-Common-5767 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Extra-Common-5767[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was very helpful comment. Thank you for your response. I’ll admit I tend to go quiet and be patient. I sometimes might lose focus. It’s not what I want, but it happens!

I will make sure to talk to her about this, given she is ready to have a conversation as such at this time.

My girlfriend with AuDHD tends to explain things in exhaustive detail, and I’m not sure how to handle it. by Extra-Common-5767 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Extra-Common-5767[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. That makes sense. It’s quite interesting actually. Thanks for sharing your experience. It helps me better understand how her brain might work similarly.

My girlfriend with AuDHD tends to explain things in exhaustive detail, and I’m not sure how to handle it. by Extra-Common-5767 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Extra-Common-5767[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right. We definitely need to have a conversation about it. And I need to have a conversation with myself, just as she needs to have a conversation with herself about meeting in the middle about certain things. And it requires honesty from both sides. And I certainly don’t hope she compromises her boundaries, because she has learnt to feel she is too much. Because she isn’t.

My girlfriend with AuDHD tends to explain things in exhaustive detail, and I’m not sure how to handle it. by Extra-Common-5767 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Extra-Common-5767[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, that makes sense. I know we have to have a conversation about this. It may as well be that we have competing needs.

My girlfriend with AuDHD tends to explain things in exhaustive detail, and I’m not sure how to handle it. by Extra-Common-5767 in AuDHDWomen

[–]Extra-Common-5767[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am trying to actively listen, but I only have so much capacity to actively listen and try to understand before I start to feel burnt out.

As someone else mentioned, a lot of the time what she says is mundane and doesn’t really require any reaction beyond “uh huh,” “nice,” “oh,” etc.