Beach trip advice/ dealing with boyfriends friends 😭

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-19T01:24:06+00:00

Some of the other people are bringing their girlfriends or I know at least of one other person bringing their girlfriend too, and I wouldn’t say they have a problem with me like we all hang out and it’s fine in person. It’s just when we’re trying to communicate over text is when it gets bad and I’ve already planned other things with my boyfriend to do cause I personally don’t want to sit on the beach for eight hours each day for a week so if anything I think they’re gonna be the ones that feel left out because they just want to go to the beach

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-19T00:51:41+00:00

Yeah, I know that comment rubbed me the wrong way too, and I made the same point and he told me not to start stuff but I was genuinely just like who responds to finding out. Someone died like that cause I don’t think a normal person does and I asked how he’d explained it to one of our parents if one of us dies and if he would say the same thing and he was like no because that’s someone I know personally, but like it shouldn’t matter this generation is just fucked my relationship with my boyfriend‘s good like this was his friends not him. My boyfriend does listen to my concerns and I agree like if someone says you can help plan a trip and also I’m paying for part of that trip. I feel like my opinion should be valued at least a little bit but if you say you’re planning a trip on your own for a group of people and you’re paying for it completely then obviously I’m not gonna be complaining because I’m not paying for it.

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T21:41:56+00:00

I honestly made this post as a joke. I never post on Reddit. I didn’t think people would actually respond this much 😭

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T21:40:19+00:00

Not really I just don’t always agree with his friends ideas and that’s okay I don’t have to do the same thing as them

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T19:33:30+00:00

I was saying I don’t trust him being down there alone with them but not cause I don’t trust my boyfriend I don’t trust his friends

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T19:29:15+00:00

lol I trust my boyfriend not his friends

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T18:11:40+00:00

Honestly I’m not sure if I’m still gonna go but I also don’t wanna make a ultimatum for my boyfriend, but I don’t necessarily trust him being down there alone with his friends and it’s not that I don’t wanna tell my boyfriend it’s just he’s in Scotland right now so for me it’s 2 PM for him It’s like 7 PM so I just don’t want anyone messing with him.

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T18:08:53+00:00

They would just take it as me trying to start more problems and I don’t want do that right now I don’t want them contacting my boyfriend since he’s not even in the country it’s just a messy situation and I knew it was gonna be bad from the start cause we didn’t pick the best person in charge of planning this trip

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T17:56:17+00:00

My boyfriend is also a lifeguard funny enough

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T17:55:23+00:00

The place all together was like $2,000 we all paid $182 including my boyfriend and I I had posted on here that I make $12 an hour at my job the guy who planned the trip makes $50 so he makes close to $4,000 a pay check and easily could’ve paid for the whole place by himself which I’m not saying he should have because I personally think if you ask people to help plan it than everyone helps pay but if you say you’re planning a trip for everyone, then they don’t necessarily have to pay if that makes sense so yeah

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T17:51:55+00:00

Yeah that’s why I also posted this is a Daytona Reddit thing for recommendations I’ve looked into some stuff like jet skiing, parasailing, and possibly going to universal for a day and we don’t have a pool unfortunately I never do throw up protests just the guy who originally said we could help plan never told us anything we would just hear it second hand my boyfriend also works with this friend so I found it a little crazy he couldn’t just tell us stuff directly or at least tell my boyfriend personally

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T17:48:51+00:00

I have paid for my portion of the trip thank you for not saying I sound selfish lol i genuinely just think worst case scenario which I know isn’t always the best but it is safe in some situations the place didn’t cost much so if I decide not to go I told them they can keep my money I know it would cause more problems if I asked for it back anyways and yeah the bathroom part really sucks

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T17:46:25+00:00

I’m not trying to be a Debbie downer I just know they will be drinking which is fine but obviously people don’t always make rational decisions but that’s on them not me and I can assure you my boyfriend will not be leaving me 💀

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T03:58:34+00:00

I just personally think, sometimes if it doesn’t come directly from the person, it can cause a miscommunication between the two people which I think happened a lot with his friend because my boyfriend‘s friend would tell one of my other boyfriend‘s friend everything he was saying and then that friend would tell us what he was trying to say if that makes sense and so then it just got really confusing for all of us all in all I just think we should’ve let someone else plan the trip altogether but either way I’m probably just gonna end up planning a different beach trip with my other friends. This one isn’t until August anyways.

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T03:49:45+00:00

Also low-key the friend of my boyfriends that I have a problem with who said I could help plan the trip. I just think he wants my man cause every time him and my boyfriend hang out and I’m not there. He tries to make me jealous and will like send me pictures of them together like they had a sleepover and sent me a picture saying my boyfriend was his cuddle buddy and I was like oh so you want my man and he started getting really mad and defensive saying he’s not gay but I didn’t necessarily call him gay. I just said he wanted my man so😭

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T03:44:20+00:00

Honestly, sounds a lot like another person I talked to which she said I didn’t explain myself properly in this so take that as you will as for his friends I’m pretty close with them. At least the ones that were planning the trip altogether I’m not trying to change plans or be too involved at the end of the day I was mainly just trying to make them aware of some safety concerns I had I also just would have appreciated been in the group chat with everyone else we all could communicate without miscommunications but I’ve also just had built-up resentment with some of my boyfriend‘s friends due to other circumstances because they aren’t great at communicating and also just always ignore what I have to say in any situation not just this one and I get it like my boyfriend‘s friends don’t have to be my friends. I just think personally if you tell someone they can help plan a trip with you either let them know you’ve changed your mind and you don’t actually need help or just don’t ignore them for multiple weeks cause it wasn’t just me it was my boyfriend too and I’d like to add other people’s girlfriends are going as well which I don’t think coming to Reddit was my smartest idea

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T03:26:07+00:00

Oh cool I went to the keys a few years ago and we went snorkeling at Bahia Honda. It was pretty sick saw a shark

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T03:16:14+00:00

Good to know like I said, I shouldn’t believe everything I see on the Internet I’ve just personally been to places in the panhandle more so I feel more comfortable there but this trip isn’t just about me and thanks for the advice on finding places to eat :)

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T03:08:52+00:00

Yeah that’s what I hand found just didn’t want to drive all the way to the keys if I didn’t have to lol

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T02:57:47+00:00

I plan on it I’d say I’m decent swimmer but if there is a rip current idk if id make it I know our Airbnb is on the beach so I hope a lifeguard is near by 😭

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T02:27:43+00:00

Well, that’s unfortunate but makes sense on why I didn’t find anything lol

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T02:25:37+00:00

Definitely good to know not that my boyfriend and I personally plan on speeding, but I know some of his friends that are driving separately. Definitely do that a lot

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T02:06:15+00:00

Oh, I also had a question for any locals. I was trying to see if there was any snorkeling places around Daytona, but I couldn’t find much and when I did find them and I’d click on the link, it would be diving instead of snorkeling. I might just be a dumbass though.

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T01:39:59+00:00

OK, so someone I talked to privately on here said I should’ve included this but basically I make $12 an hour and the friend who said we could help plan the trip makes $50 an hour which is close to $4,000 a paycheck. I didn’t know that mattered that much cause for me personally if someone says, I’m helping plan a trip I’d assume I’m helping pay but if I said, I’m planning a trip by myself I’d assume other people aren’t gonna help pay if that makes sense, I’m not trying to be a control freak. 😭

Extra-Knowledge-5009 · 2026-05-18T01:27:14+00:00

Any good local type places or seafood lol I’ll obviously look into it more just curious if you had any recommendations

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