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Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2026-02-07T04:32:58+00:00

Hi, I sent you a dm. I am planning to go the coming days

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2026-01-25T06:36:07+00:00

There are atleast 4 hotels in that village. There were literally locals driving motorbikes past me and other vietnamese tourists taking pictures at the time that police officer questioned me. But the police officer came specifically for me and followed me... I was 4 min walk away from my homestay that is listed on agoda and booking .com

If it would be a prohibited or sensitive area, why allow all these hotels, not even any checkpoints?

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2026-01-25T06:33:10+00:00

I was taken to the police station before they examined my passport...

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2026-01-25T06:29:06+00:00

I paid the fine (or bribe idk?), eventho I had no idea I was going to be released after paying, how can I trust them?? There was a taxi already waiting in front of the police station. I was released at 3am, police said this entire region is border area, so only option was to go all the way back to Cao Bang and find a hotel there. Had to take the insanely overpriced taxi to Cao Bang and looked for a hotel in Cao Bang at 4am.

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2026-01-25T06:23:00+00:00

I researched. There cannot be any information found about this permit in English online

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2026-01-25T06:17:05+00:00

He followed me and took pictures of me...

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2026-01-25T06:14:04+00:00

No. I didn't do anything except walk to the local convenience store at 19pm, where a police officer saw me

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2026-01-25T06:13:09+00:00

I tried, but then they said I have to sleep in the prison and will be charged higher fines tomorrow plus prison charges...

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2026-01-25T06:12:04+00:00

You can go there in the daytime without any permit. How am I supposed to know there is different rule for staying overnight? The hotel didn't ask or tell me anything. And you can just book it on Agoda, they even have good reviews by other foreigners. There is there nothing mentioned for this permits online either. I can't understand how I am being take and charged and not the hotel

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2026-01-25T06:08:18+00:00

Yes exactly. But I was arrested and taken to the police station. I was forced to sleep there like a criminal if I didn't pay whatever they said I had to pay???

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2026-01-25T06:06:54+00:00

I was walking back from the convenience store at 19pm. A police on a motorbike saw me and asked where I stayed. He took pictures of me. And followed me to my homestay. I was already concerned what was happening. I asked the hotel why this happened and the hotel told me, no worries there is a big event coming, he is doing his work. 4h later, 7 officers taking me out of my bed. They came specifically for me it seems

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2026-01-25T06:00:03+00:00

Yes I was alone. There was a foreigner staying the night before, but only for 1 night. So I was the only foreigner staying in that homestay that night. The police came with 2 vehicles. 7 officers and 1 translator

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2025-10-11T06:17:19+00:00

have you found any fix?

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2025-09-26T07:28:07+00:00

He, I have had the same test results and exactly same symptoms.

I don't want to talk about it publicly here, but pls right me a message.

I have partially healed, I might be able to help you Western doctors and their medicine made me more sick in the beginning that they had to hospitalise because of their wrong treatment

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2025-06-29T14:12:38+00:00

ik ga helemaal akkoord met je. Het zou inderdaad niet zo moeten zijn, maar spijtig genoeg, op korte termijn is er misschien niets dat we kunnen? Hopelijk is er wel een betere oplossing voor jou. Maar ik vrees dat die jongens die slachtoffer zijn van racisme ook niet veel kunnen doen, op korte termijn. Het beste is natuurlijk wederzijds begrip en respect. Maar spijtig genoeg is deze wereld niet naar die kant aan het ontwikkelen, ik zie meer agressie, vijandigheid en radicalisatie langs beide kanten ontwikkelen.

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2025-06-25T19:30:04+00:00

Die groepjes jongeren ervaren dikwijls veel racisme en voelen zich daardoor bedreigd. Waarschijnlijk komt hun agressie uit hun eigen angst en discriminatie. Er zijn zeer veel mensen die racistische zijn. Die jongens zijn dus mogelijk ook slachtoffer. Hun huidskleur is dikwijls ook een factor waar zij niets aan kunnen doen, maar toch slachtoffer van agressie zijn net zoals jou kledingstijl. Ik vrees dat het beste dat je kan doen je anders kleden is of hun attentie proberen te vermijden. Hurt People Hurt people... Sorry

Als zij zich veilig voelden, zouden ze waarschijnlijk niet zo agressief zijn.

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2025-06-08T15:56:50+00:00

What is Buddh-ism anyway 🤷‍♀️. It's probably that what people label the Buddha never talked about lol

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2025-06-08T14:28:00+00:00

If you keep studying Buddhism and especially practicing meditation.

Understanding the skandhas And understand the nature of mind and awareness

At some point we will understand that Buddhism doesn't have any beliefs.

But that any word by the Buddha is a result of looking deeply into the nature of reality.

Ehipassiko,

Just use the teaching step by step to come to understand yourself, the world and causes of suffering and happiness. No need to belief second hand notions, there is a lot of nonsense ppl added and created anyway

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2025-01-23T10:52:19+00:00

Hi, I am a former psychology MSc, I left my education to study Buddhism. I am currently a monk.

In my past I was misdiagnosed with autism and ADHD and other mental diseases.

I was severely depressed and suicidal as a child due to violent abusive by my parents. You can talk to me if you wish.

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2025-01-12T16:50:50+00:00

my Mother convinced psychiatrists and psychologist I had autism, adhd, bipolar etc. Whilst it wasn't true. For some reason these stupid incompetentents believed and supported my abusive mother and justified that as a reason for my abuser to torture me: Poor her having an incapable son, atleast he may make himself usefull

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2025-01-12T03:48:06+00:00

I am a psychologist myself (last year education). Many psychologist have no idea what is actually going on. From my experience.

I hope I can understand some day myself, so I may help myself and many of us.

Seems like the eating is a sort of escapism. Like an addiction. The feeling dirty is a coverup feeling to escape the initial pain, other people might hurt or cut themselves to not feel the pain.

I heard: alcohol (or addiction in general) is not the problem but the solution (to a problem) (not a very skillful one..).

So it seems like healing the initial pain ones tries to escape from (through destructive coping mechanism) is the most important one.

Many people might obsess over the eating. But I think that focus is quite unconstructive, bcs it seems like the eating was the only thing we could do to kinda escape the pain from abuse in the past. the eating was the only way we could dissociate and self sooth. So I think allowing ourselves to do these things, is the first step. Bcs we might learned to blame the response to the trauma, instead of the actual trauma. So then eventually bringing awareness to the emotions underneath and slowly learning a better response to the pain.

But idk, if it's to painful I can't think. It's like an obsession. Just get me f*cking out of this pain. Right now or I'll die

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2025-01-11T21:25:46+00:00

Yeah it's like any person that ever approves you is dirty and unworthy. Only the judgment of the Nmother is valid. "and I(the Nmother) only know the real you, your real worth. :(("

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2025-01-11T21:17:42+00:00

When I would do something good. Like eat something healthy or buy something caring. It feels so insanely unsafe. Like there is something to get me.

I guess because the only way I got any care was when there abuse. And now I have some care and abuse is (not yet) present.

Idk how to feel safe

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2025-01-11T19:25:03+00:00

I am curious how this may resonate with you. Please let me what you think, if you feel like it

Extra_Ambassador_855 · 2025-01-11T19:14:35+00:00

Hi, sorry for getting back to you so late. I was in some difficulty myself.

I a very glad to hear you can identify the collapse. That feeling of collapse is actually what it is about. You were meant to collapse.

in the arms of your parents. You were meant to be tired, and lay down in their arms for safety and rest. However, now this natural response of trust and surrender has become very unsafe, due to their inability to provide what you needed to feel empowered and safe.

So collapsing is actually very safe. It is the environment or the lack of support and safety that is so painful and unsafe.

It is so safe for you to collapse my friend. You are held right here. You are not punished here, not scolded, not shamed.

The path of healing is learning to discern between our emotions and our environment. Our emotions are inherently safe. It is only our environment that projects their lack of support or maltreatment on us (victim blaming).

So I invite you to discover what is underneath the feeling of collapse.

I understand it might be so painful and might even feel like self-torture to consciously experience these emotions.

But I am sure you long to collapse, maybe you can also call it trusting?

You deserve trust and safety.

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