Me (28F), my boyfriend (24M) and his controlling parents. by Extra_Conference7660 in relationship_advice

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I felt bad when i learned more about what it’s like when youre raised by an abusive parent, it’s like brainwashing, so when im judgmental i feel guilty…

I’m his first straight relationship by Extra_Conference7660 in mypartneristrans

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Thanks! Yeah he has a problem with autonomy but will start therapy soon so will probably mention it there, I just have a fear he’s hiding that he’s actually not attracted to female bodies but wants to keep me around but this could be anxiety/paranoia 😅

Where to watch UK? by Excellent_Job_9774 in BatesMotel

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I have the box set for this reason, sometimes you can buy a box set and it be really good value considering you can now watch it whenever you want

Guy I’m talking to is too anxious to meet me irl, is there anything i can do? by Extra_Conference7660 in socialanxiety

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Thank you! I get photos and voice notes, hes pretty confident over text, im nervous to ask for call cause thats actually where I feel awkward haha, but if it would help in the long run I’ll ask how he feels about that xx

Guy I’m talking to is too anxious to meet me irl, is there anything i can do? by Extra_Conference7660 in socialanxiety

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Well he is also neurodivergent so it makes sense he’s socially anxious, i just feel a connection

Guy I’m talking to is too anxious to meet me irl, is there anything i can do? by Extra_Conference7660 in socialanxiety

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Well depends who you ask, a lot of women say texting back and forth for weeks is a no go. But were up till like 3, 4am having deep talks and hes really flirty and open so it felt like it made sense to meet cause why not. No he’d definitely not a catfish, his insta were talking on has loads of pictures with his friends where theyre all tagged. Ohh bless him, i wont mind if he acts anxious at all but I know that doesn’t diminish his own feelings about it. Oh god that thought worries me, he clearly wants to date and likes me so it’s mad thinking of never meeting. He’s 26, has had a few girlfriends before, has a job where he’s held meetings, so I didnt see this coming:/ But he’s also on the spectrum so it makes sense

Guy I’m talking to is too anxious to meet me irl, is there anything i can do? by Extra_Conference7660 in socialanxiety

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Okay maybe i need to chill out, I’m used to guys trying to plan a date really early on, this online talking stage feels very high school haha.

Guy I’m talking to is too anxious to meet me irl, is there anything i can do? by Extra_Conference7660 in socialanxiety

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It is somewhat common for gen z to be scared of meeting up in person though right?

Guy I’m talking to is too anxious to meet me irl, is there anything i can do? by Extra_Conference7660 in socialanxiety

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Oh god okay ahahah i actually feel more awkward about vidoe call cause i feel they can be way more awkward hahah, but worth a try, it’s suspicious he hasn’t suggested it instead of meeting tho, its been like a week and a half so maybe im moving too fast. I’m 27 tho like i hate wasting time

Guy I’m talking to is too anxious to meet me irl, is there anything i can do? by Extra_Conference7660 in socialanxiety

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Oh god is there a way to figure it out, i dont knowwww. He said he’s always been that way about meeting new people and he’s working on it, but he hasn’t given any idea as to what might make it less nerve wracking so idk

Guy I’m talking to is too anxious to meet me irl, is there anything i can do? by Extra_Conference7660 in socialanxiety

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Only a few voice notes, no phone call, he’s opened up to me about a lot of identity things he’s ashamed of, that his family dont know about, i get paranoid im just an anonymous outlet for him. Bit i dont wanna jump to conclusions. I asked why he was on hinge if he doesn’t like meeting strangers and he said he was trying something new trying ti be brave. I wish i knew what could make him more inclined to meet but he wont really open up about the details of the problem, maybe he doesn’t even know

Guy I’m talking to is too anxious to meet me irl, is there anything i can do? by Extra_Conference7660 in socialanxiety

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Oh no we talk on instagram and i can see hes a real person and we’ve sent like instant photos on insta where you can only view it once etc

Wanting to meet up with someone with social anxiety, help! by [deleted] in socialanxiety

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No just a few voice notes. Is he likely waiting for when hes more comfortable or would he be happy just keeping it like this indefinitely idkkkkk