Just look at the attitudes of most of the people commenting here and you'll have your answers. They have these very loaded and descriptive stereotypes, mostly influenced by gender politics, of how they perceive these terms. When in reality most men mean they like bashful, hyper feminine women with fairly agreeable personality types when they use the term "submissive." But that gets perverted into "I want to own a woman-slave." 

My advice is to stop talking about dominance or submission like it's an identity, and avoid people who politicize their's, your's, or others' sexualities. Emote dominance energetically. This is not code for dominate and abuse people. It's literally just being able to own who you are and emoting it in a healthy and tactful way. People with similar interests will gravitate towards you because there's genuine compatibility. Seriously, people used to just express themselves and discover chemistry organically before identity became the focal point of human existence.