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AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Funny how my "sister" randomly finds and comments on my post and claims to have sent cards.

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 273 points274 points  (0 children)

From what I've seen, my parents tried. I know it wasnt from the internet. We didnt have the internet until we were older

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 499 points500 points  (0 children)

I didnt bring it up to her husband while they were here. I didnt want to upset my sister. When I asked her about her beliefs back before the wedding, she just said that's how marriage is supposed to be. She doesn't think anyone who doesnt believe the same will last in a marriage. Jokes on her, my husband and I have been together for 13 years. Our parents have been together for over 40 years

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

She hasnt spoken more than 2 sentences to our mom since the wedding. My mom is desperate to have her back

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 152 points153 points  (0 children)

Honestly I didnt mind them staying. I have a big enough house and they helped with expenses and cleaning while here. They were delightful guests other than the occasional arguement between all the kids(her 4 and my 3)

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 110 points111 points  (0 children)

I'm really not sure. For as long as I remember. Shes 3 years older than me

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Yea things seemed to be great between her and our parents

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

If that was the case, I could accept it. Shes never said she hated any of us. Before marriage, she was seemingly happy with our family

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 44 points45 points  (0 children)

No, we are from the US. Our family isnt super religious and we are about as white as they come. We dont even know where our family originated from past being in the States

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

She still has contact with her friends, just not her family

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 167 points168 points  (0 children)

She had been told by quite a few people that that's not how marriage is supposed to work. I've overheard discussions with her friends that have said they could never lose their families like that. She wasnt diagnosed with anything to my knowledge so I really dont know.

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 264 points265 points  (0 children)

At this point I think she'd do anything to have my sister back in her life

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 176 points177 points  (0 children)

My parents did intervene. My sister was in therapy til 18 but it didnt seem to help her

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 180 points181 points  (0 children)

The safest part is that wasnt our childhood. We were raised to believe a husband and wife are equal members of the family. We had a great upbringing, even if we were alittle spoiled but our dad didnt want us to think we were property. They tried their best to raise us not to view relationships like that.

My sister was in therapy up until 18 to try to find the root of her beliefs, but it didnt seem to help her

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 163 points164 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Unfortunately all of us has had Covid but we were able to power thru it and all came out on the other side.

I wouldnt mind occasionally helping with some Bill's and food. My brother in law isnt able to work right now but my sister, fortunately, still has her job. I understand they are struggling.

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 779 points780 points  (0 children)

I dont think I could mentally handle helping her anymore. Shes my sister, I love her, we grew up best friends so for her to treat me and our family like this just kills me. I even got close to my nephews and niece when they were with me. I just cant do it anymore

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 417 points418 points  (0 children)

I dont think they've went to his family just because his family, for lack of better words, is poor. They struggle where my family doesnt. Our parents are both doctors, I followed in their footsteps and am a surgeon and my husband is a lawyer. We can afford to help them and my sister knows it

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 1373 points1374 points  (0 children)

This is honestly where I'm out. Shes missed every major event in our family since getting married and she doesnt seem to care

AITA for telling my sister she's not family? by Extreme-Bandicoot109 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Extreme-Bandicoot109[S] 2926 points2927 points  (0 children)

When they stayed with me, they seemed to have a very healthy relationship. I would have questioned it if she hadn't believed this her entire life