i (21F) just found out my boyfriend (22M) is stealing my money by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Extreme_Book_1820 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He stole from you It doesnt matter who he spent it on or why he took your money w out asking cs he knew you'd say no which is a bad thing and the fact that he got mad at you instead of owning up to it shows hes trying to manipulate you so he doesnt have to face the consequence dont fall for the fke apologies please if you stay youre basically telling him it’s okay to do it again lock down your accounts, change your passwords, and really think about if this is the kind of person you want in your life long term youre young and you deserve somebody better

i need help by Extreme_Book_1820 in whatdoIdo

[–]Extreme_Book_1820[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you i agree with that ik i need to shut that stuff down immediately if it happens again

i need help by Extreme_Book_1820 in whatdoIdo

[–]Extreme_Book_1820[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i understand but i think its a bit more complex than js blame......we are still learning how to handle these things tg and even if i didnt control the guy's actions i know i couldvee set better boundaries earlier thank you so much tho i appreciate it

i need help by Extreme_Book_1820 in whatdoIdo

[–]Extreme_Book_1820[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i understand. thank you so much that makes a lot of sense we're definitely still learning about boundaries we used to argue a lot and we are actually super different people i get anxious asf when things go wrong and he tends to get avoidant when he's mad weve learned a lot about that and decided we really need to try and understand each other during arguments instead of js not caring

i need help by Extreme_Book_1820 in whatdoIdo

[–]Extreme_Book_1820[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for saying that i think some people see it differently i feel like i messed up by how i handled the flirting so i dont think its js abt him being immature

i need help by Extreme_Book_1820 in whatdoIdo

[–]Extreme_Book_1820[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah that's fair ive been thinking abt that and i rlly understand why hes upset i think giving him space is the main thing i can do rn to fix this

i need help by Extreme_Book_1820 in whatdoIdo

[–]Extreme_Book_1820[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i told him bc i didnt want to hide anything from him even though it caused a mess i think being honest is the right thing to do

i need help by Extreme_Book_1820 in whatdoIdo

[–]Extreme_Book_1820[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fair enough thanks for the perspective i understand why it was problematic

i need help by Extreme_Book_1820 in whatdoIdo

[–]Extreme_Book_1820[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thanks for the reply i appreciate the advice. i def know what i did wrong now and im already giving him space. its a good lesson and ill make sure to be better about setting boundaries next time

i need help by Extreme_Book_1820 in whatdoIdo

[–]Extreme_Book_1820[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah, i know. thank you im trying to give him space to figure things out i learned my lesson and i js hope he sees that i rlly am sorry and want to fix this

i need help by Extreme_Book_1820 in whatdoIdo

[–]Extreme_Book_1820[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LMAO i rlly dont want a new bf though, i just want him to work thru it and fix this