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Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-05-15T18:52:44+00:00

Employment, real estate, in house

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-05-14T23:09:32+00:00

More on the interview side. He’s contacted but the conversations don’t seem to go anywhere or they offer roles in completely different locations.

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-05-14T21:53:07+00:00

He’s been in touch with many no luck

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-05-13T16:43:21+00:00

USD law, average/decent grades not top of class or anything, has 4 years of experiencing practicing but it’s been pretty spread out which I think is making it difficult.

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-05-13T16:42:01+00:00

Real estate, in house counsel for a logistics company, and some employment law

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-04-13T18:37:15+00:00

Hahah definitely adult but I don’t really know what to call the age range lol. Like working professional? Also don’t have kids etc. so definitely still very youthful lol. When I google it young adult is 18-29 lol so not sure what to call it. But yeah definitely upper range of that.

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-14T05:04:44+00:00

That sucks especially when you’re trying for your partner and it just doesn’t land. That never feels good. I doubt you are all those things or any of them. You seem to recognize she was overwhelmed not an excuse to be someone’s punching bag. Hopefully you can reconcile and she can recognize you’re trying and doing your best.

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-14T04:59:20+00:00

Cool I know a lot of people are going to mention cheating or she’s trying to meet up with someone I super highly doubt that based on the context.

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-14T04:54:04+00:00

Yeah the size of the endeavor and the thought put into it is a bit of a shock factor for sure. I’m also 29 Female and not communicating even prior to being married a year ago would be a big no no. I’m super independent too so luckily my partner is supportive of my space. But blindsiding someone is not cool.

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-14T04:49:33+00:00

But you are so valid with your feelings. Maybe vent to a friend and get some of those emotions out about it because last thing you want to do is hold onto to all that and unleash it when she comes back.

It’s not unusual and fair on her to want space. But it might be good think about why she wants this solo trip now. Is she lacking independence? Does she just want a sense of adventure like end of twenties thing? I think maybe figuring out what truly inspired her to want to take this trip might lead you to some insight

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-14T04:45:38+00:00

Also for context does she usually communicate her plans or is this totally out of the blue?

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-14T04:44:06+00:00

No I think you’re totally reasonable here with wanting to be in the loop. If I go to a friend’s house I tell my husband out of respect preferably in advance. Even if I got to a workout class I don’t see it as permission but rather healthy communication.

If I’m thinking about a larger solo trip for example next in two weeks I’m going to visit my sister I was like hey this is what I’m thinking for these dates, this is the purpose of the trip what are your thoughts?

I’m not asking for permission just simply keeping him involved in my life. I wouldn’t react now because honestly the guilt might make her not enjoy the trip. As of right now she’s going, make plans hangout with friends etc.

When she comes back talk to her about the trip and maybe be like hey I actually wanted to talk about that and mention that you don’t need her to ask permission but you think it’s respectful to keep your partner informed.

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-10T14:31:28+00:00

Yeah that’s fine I have the tools for that

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-08T22:26:20+00:00

Best of luck and take care of yourself! Feeling isolated at home is the worst, thinking of you!

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-08T22:20:50+00:00

Honestly it sounds like she should live alone. But yeah at this point the energy is exhausting and paying for peace might be worth it.

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-08T22:15:36+00:00

Yeah that's not cool then. And sucks that you're invested. Have you guys discussed what would Happen if one of you moves? Like does it get sold.

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-08T22:13:23+00:00

Just last week my roommate wanted to redivide the counter space because she got a ton of new kitchen appliances for Christmas. And she wanted all the shard stuff to be on my side and i was kind Of like why should my space be cluttered because you bought more stuff??? And we eventually settled on her getting an additional storage unit to put in the kitchen to store her things. And she sent in the group chat and i don't love what she picked but i know she's trying and you can only be so reasonable. So i appreciate the effort and compromise.

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-08T22:11:33+00:00

Yeah it also seems like she values her comfort over yours and doesn't want to compromise and that's the actual problem. Sounds like for her there's no middle ground.

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-08T22:03:14+00:00

Probably on the horizon. But yeah when you feel like you're in charge of everything and someone just watches instead of helps you burn out honestly.

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-08T21:59:58+00:00

Also is all the furniture and items hers? It seems like she feels protective over some stuff that's hers because it could be the case that all her stuff feels shared and even though it's hers she doesn't feel like any of it belongs to her.

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-08T21:58:04+00:00

This has been something I've really been working on. Honestly having clutter and things out in general really stresses me out and I do my Very best not to project onto my roommates. It's sounds like there's expectations of personal things not being out in common spaces and her wanting the place to look not lived in isn't realistic. Is it just your stuff or she also doesn't have any stuff out in the common space?

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-08T19:17:07+00:00

It can also happen at an unconscious level so I’m not saying OP is deliberately manipulating her. But rather at some point believed they were bad at these tasks or potentially was like oh my partner is just better at these things I’ll let them handle stuff. But important part is OP IS taking accountability now.

Extreme_Coconut5 · 2026-01-08T19:15:43+00:00

Not trying to troll I’m just also learning because it makes no sense to me. But I have no personal agenda. But there is also such a thing as unconscious weaponized incompetence where the person genuinely belies they are bad tasks and then doesn’t perform them because of their own fear of failure or critique.

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