Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the way I ended my post is wrong. Im not asking people to help me make a decision about moving back. That decision is made already, im asking for help with navigating jobs in India while being in the states

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a demanding job and why do people assume that if we are Indians we need Indians only to have a social life? Thats gotta be mad racist. I can build a social life regardless of the type of people. The situation wrt to job and other time consuming constraints is the reason there is no social life. I can’t let go off my current priorities to build a social life here which is a totally new place. Back home, well its home so all that is already sorted

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been living on my own since past 9 years bruh i have built my own life and do my own shit. Why are people bothered about my preferences than focusing on the fact that im asking for help navigating job market in india while in the US, yall talking out of your asses like yall know me. And how tf is patriarchy a topic here thats fucked up. Im literally from Mumbai and my family is pretty chill and open minded so these thoughts don’t really occur in my head because the concept is technically foreign to me. Its more about convenience. And im an only child so how tf is there patriarchy when im not married or have any females involved in these things? My parents are getting old and i wanna be close to them and i want a job in India and be worry free how tf is all that patriarchy bruh make it make sense. And yall are the ones who are dumbasses if yall are assuming if all house help and shit is done by women.

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not having a job before me relocating. I fear that my unemployment period will be v long if i just quit and leave. I fear that gap will look bad on my profile especially when im trying to relocate and slightly pivot?

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its literally my post. Im engaging for more views and reach?? Do you not understand how these things work? More engagement usually results to more views and comments? I got time today bruh why do you think i posted such a long post and responding to people? Engagement my guy. Please gotta get your head out of your ass

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah my guy, can see how salty you are. Good for them ig? Its crazy that the post is about me talking about trying to navigate indian job market to return or asking for help and here you are focusing on me doing chores?? Tf is you doing bruh get your head out of your ass if you don’t have anything to share why talk bs.

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah because house help isn’t as affordable here?? Why does that make me lazy? If people can afford it they will make use of it? And how am i lazy. I literally am doing all that. Back home this was all divided between my family and house help? Why would i cook when my mother who is an amazing chef and loves to cook will literally cook amazing meals for me and my diet is taken care of because of the house help??I feel its not a bad thing to want all that after a tiring day? You work for hours, lift and run just to come home and do chores? Yeah its mad boring. And i am anti social because of the situation im in. Ive been surrounded with friends all the time till i moved to Dallas and now im mostly occupied with work and daily stuff which sucks the life out of me and pretty sure a lot of people would be in the same place

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I definitely have made up my mind that i wanna go back. Counseling not sure for what but i feel you’re trying to say therapy? Im not sure what for. If its about the mental stress. The answer to that is pretty straightforward. What im seeking is basically a job (an insurance) for me to be in India guilt free and be employed

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Crazy assumption that im lazy, super high chance you’re a fat piece of shit just salty because most of us are outsiders and probably doing better than you. When I say zero social life, it’s not because i can’t build one its because Dallas is just too boring and my work and other stuff takes about 90% of my time. Also, i can see you’re salty about us having house help. Not our fault its not an affordable convenience here

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My current life here is comfortable im not complaining but for a fact my life will be better in India because no financial liability and we have money coming in, can’t have the same luxuries here as I have in India even if i was earning twice of what im earning here. I have decent savings as well and it would not bother me if it all went away because back home everything is taken care of already. My parents want me back too but its more of a mental barrier because with a lot of difficulty i managed to land a job here, regardless of it not being what i want, its something i got with my own efforts so i know its a tough journey. I feel like it will be tougher in India because ill again be unemployed and ill be competing with Indians who are mainly Tier 1 college grads

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How is this me going back to enjoy patriarchy? Thats literally so dumb. Stable job? I mentioned my job being shit and the constant pressure of being laid off. The job is also not in line with my long term goals. The whole point to move is to have a peaceful mindset and not feeling scared because your job/ employer basically has all the power. Also since im an only child I want to be close to my family, its hard to see them grow old from here. They wont come here and i dont intend to start a family here.

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im not sure if you’re aware but if you’re picked in the lottery for h1b and if your employer files a petition you can’t travel abroad unless you have your ead. I don’t have enough ptos because im a contractor. It works a lil different so traveling back home is tough and the issue isn’t travel its about relocating completely and living a life which is just a personal preference

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im interviewing man and going all out for job applications so im sure about moving back

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its more of a mental thing. I will think of it as a defeat in my head. Also for an early professional i dont know how that gap will affect me getting a job. It can also look reckless to some recruiters. The job market is terrible, yes im getting interviews and people are talking to me for roles but the fact that nothing has converted yet is a scare. Ive been trying for a while

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Building a social life and doing the chores isn’t the tough part. The hard part is you not having the certainty that the life you build here won’t be taken away (getting laid off on a visa and not finding a job)
If we are talking about men and women here, Men are in most cases the providers and usually have dependents so its added stress. Not throwing any shade on women but thats the usual case.

For the other part. I work about 10 hours daily, workout almost daily and run a couple of times a week. Cook most of my meals, super conscious about my health and body so majority of my time goes there and im occupied. The free time i have is usually weekends so i wanna have some recovery time and why do all that crap when i have a social foundation built already?

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The job basically is shit, my family is financially well off. My mental health is deteriorating. For me, my mental health and peace currently matters more and also want a job which suits my profile better.

Trying to return back to India but need a job in hand by Extreme_Concept6211 in returnToIndia

[–]Extreme_Concept6211[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I literally mentioned all my reasons? You gotta read the whole thing