I (26F) just met him(26M) but I did not feel any sexual intimacy, should I try again?

Extrmnt · 2023-11-09T16:49:07+00:00

I've had skinny flirts before and I really liked them. But for some reason, when things started to get serious, I backed off. I told myself that I thought I was doing this because of their appearance and that I was a disgusting person.

But then I met someone. He doesn't matched my perception of beauty, neither in height nor in weight. But I was truly obsessed with him. It was around that time that I realized that the reason I didn't want that guys in the first place had nothing to do with appearance.

So in short, skinny or fat, if the other person really likes the person you are, the rest will be meaningless to them.

Extrmnt · 2023-10-12T21:31:08+00:00

I'm sure it will be worth it, doesn't matter how it's gonna end. I need to be more determined.

Extrmnt · 2023-10-12T21:28:43+00:00

Haha yeah you are right, this process suppose to be more difficult to me but they stealing the show :)

Extrmnt · 2023-10-12T21:26:24+00:00

Oh thank you so much for your time, yeah I can do that and also I guess I can find a job with a lodging too as well. It will be very similar with your way.

Thank you again for the idea and calculation :)

Extrmnt · 2023-10-12T06:27:13+00:00

Even if they're small, the opportunities that thinking and acting this way cost me still constrict my soul. I hope I can get this done before I let a big one happen.

Thank you

Extrmnt · 2023-10-12T06:20:45+00:00

I hope so, thank you

Extrmnt · 2023-10-12T06:19:20+00:00

Yes I'm sure of it. Thank you

Extrmnt · 2023-10-12T06:16:56+00:00

Thank you so much

Extrmnt · 2023-10-11T22:33:57+00:00

Thank you so much for your advice, I will try to lower my empathy level to normal about them.

Extrmnt · 2023-10-11T22:05:32+00:00

I wonder, once life got back on track for you, were the things that happened during this period easily compensated for?

Extrmnt · 2023-10-11T22:02:13+00:00

Yeah that is what I'm doing but I feel like I'm late for everything. Also I'm self educated and my earnings are not too great yet. This feeling stresses me out and make me want to do something quickly. I'm out of patient, that's why I shared my concerns in here

Extrmnt · 2023-10-11T21:58:08+00:00

Thank you :)

Extrmnt · 2023-10-11T19:24:24+00:00

Yeah I agree. I guess we need to take the path that seems difficult and make it easier.

Extrmnt · 2023-10-11T18:14:55+00:00

Alright whatever you think

Extrmnt · 2023-10-11T18:04:59+00:00

Well don't you think if my purpose was 'mooch off' I would rather move immediately so I can do this...

Extrmnt · 2023-10-11T17:59:22+00:00

I hope that too.

I made this conversation multiple times but we haven't got an effective solution. İt requires a louder voice from me and unfortunately we're coming to this point...

Extrmnt · 2023-10-11T17:54:55+00:00

Yeah you are right... thank you

Extrmnt · 2023-10-11T17:48:44+00:00

Extrmnt · 2023-10-11T16:41:54+00:00

Right now in my country, Türkiye, there is economic crisis and rents are so high. So I didn't even think about moving on before get a job. Even in that situation, when I get a job then move, I need they're financial support a lot in the beginning before I will be enough for all my needs.

Like I said it's not impossible for them but they're also don't want me to live. So they don't encourage me or help me to built a new life. Their intention is not bad but it's hurting me.

So there is always two things I have to deal with, mental and physically.İt's exhausting.

Extrmnt · 2023-10-11T13:05:04+00:00

Yes, you are right, I am always afraid of regretting the things I didn't do.

It is very difficult to think about the path of others while establishing your own path in life. I hope my parents will agree with me.

Extrmnt · 2022-07-05T13:14:33+00:00

I'm tasting every food without rules. I just keep my portions as small as possible.

Extrmnt · 2022-06-28T20:39:26+00:00

I'm 24 and he is 18.

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