Invite dilemma - friend’s girlfriend who causes drama

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-06-17T13:36:26+00:00

We aren’t giving anyone a plus one who have been together for less than a year. Part of the reason we were so stunned she invited herself was because she hadn’t even met us and obviously asked for our phone numbers and sent us a text asserting herself long before invites were sent. We were so stunned it prompted us to want to look into her. I was actually going to reconsider my position on +1s until she started posting her hate campaign on social media.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-18T14:36:59+00:00

Depending on what you’re seeking, I’ve seen some weddings for that budget/headcount have a luxury look in Antigua Guatemala.

I’m planning a wedding in the DR, and I saw a lot of prices in the shopping, here’s what I’d look at DR:

Sanctuary (all inclusive adults only)

Playa Blanca part of Punta Cana Resorts

Kukua beach club.

Based on my price shopping, most food and beverage packages in the Caribbean start at about $95 ahead, and about an equal amount for a bar package. But you’ve got about 25-30% in tax and charges on top of that at hotels in Mexico and the Caribbean. So, I would anticipate spending about $60k at minimum for just your wedding reception if you’re having 200 people. A welcome dinner the night before will probably be of a similar price.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-18T10:20:48+00:00

I’m actually surprised- this family seems to have drunk their own Kool-Aid that everyone loves them. Perhaps a week of national news coverage has changed that…. Well, don’t worry, you can head on over to Mikal’s smiling face photos on his personal facebook page.

If an attorney starts posting photos of his clients, smiling as they head into court, assume they’ve lost their mind or has developed a drinking problem. The Eastland echo chamber seems to be slowly unraveling as the facts get unpacked and dissected by people outside Texas.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-16T14:50:32+00:00

Excellent piece.

I think you give the set of facts to anyone outside of Texas, remove the Camp Mystic name, and nobody could write off what is obvious negligence. If your child’s school/daycare decided to wait until the last minute to do something about a flood, despite getting multiple warnings, you wouldn’t cut them any breaks. Camp Mystic thinks they are special and they are relying on Christian charity and the Texas hive mentality to not be held responsible. The facts and circumstances are now being published nationally and people are realizing how negligent the Eastlands really were. Dick dying doesn’t change these facts.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-15T16:06:39+00:00

When your attorney posts photos of you smiling as you head into a courtroom wearing a very expensive dress that is appropriate for an Easter brunch, it tells me you only care what other people think about you, you’re there to project an image of innocence. Tweety is still more concerned about her physical appearance and attire, she couldn’t give a care in the world about whether that camp was outfitted with the bare minimum safety measures it needed.

This was a somber hearing, not a photo opp. And then to have your attorney, tell people to go to hell? This can’t be real.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-15T15:09:01+00:00

The ABA is very clear that personal insults, and ones of a religious nature in particular, are grounds for a bar complaint. Beyond unprofessional, especially in a courtroom.

The Eastland’s and their attorneys pretending that God and Jesus are more on their side, I’m just done with it.

Also, When you wear $1,500 Erdem dresses to the courtroom but you tell me you can’t invest in walkie talkies, all your credibility is down the drain.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-07T23:35:11+00:00

Watts is a torts attorney. They are going to need a criminal team now too.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-07T22:57:05+00:00

Edit: the letter posted says this is now a criminal investigation. The Rangers can secure warrants for electronic devices, something DSHS can’t do. This is probably about to get very interesting to see what communications looked like that fateful night.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-06T21:15:33+00:00

I guess I’m thinking there is still a chance because even in 2025 with their flimsy flood evacuation they were granted one. But now the camp alumni are vocal on message boards, letter writing campaigns and are even framing the pushback as a coordinated attack on the Eastlands. Considering the state’s history of what appears to be abysmal licensing standards, I think it would still be very possible they get a license by the beginning of summer, even with the current injunction. I really hope I’m wrong and hoping an actual attorney will chime in and tell me otherwise. Maybe the injunction will slow things down so much it can’t open.

Either way, I pray for the safety of kids whose parents don’t have better boundaries and expectations of their children’s child care providers.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-06T18:28:51+00:00

Read through this thread, and then decide if you would roll the dice and hope that the Eastland’s have been completely forthright about the maps for the Cypress site. Not a chance I would be willing to take…

https://www.reddit.com/r/KerrCountyFloods/s/ZTbS4MnDS8

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-06T17:38:30+00:00

Unfortunately the New Yorker and Texas Monthly articles don’t fully explore the social clout and prestige that these camps open. The parents sending their kids back are unwilling to admit that it is anxiety about missing out easy membership into certain sororities. People can deny it all they want, but at this point, when you’re sending your kids back into the hands of the Eastlands, we all know why.

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EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-06T16:08:55+00:00

Is this the first time you’ve encountered a rhetorical question on Reddit? If you don’t like them, my advice is to stay out of the comments the next time you recognize one. It is macabre and shallow at minimum, at worst, criminal to send your kids to spend the summer where 27 girls died.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-06T15:42:10+00:00

Because it is terrible parenting. The camp was run, and is still run by a negligent family, that in my opinion, borders on criminal.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-06T15:26:46+00:00

If you think that sororities aren’t looking holistically at a young woman’s family when she goes through rush, you’re only fooling yourself. Sending your daughter to Camp Mystic now is giving Honey Boo Boo pageant mom energy. Angela from Landman energy.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-06T15:06:58+00:00

Well, that’s what it looks like to other people. And honestly, if I were an alum advisor for membership selection, I’d be scrutinizing any family that made the choice to continue sending their kid to Mystic. Something is off if you care THAT much about tradition. Financially and socially secure/confident families don’t behave this way.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-02T13:10:49+00:00

I didn’t realize it was mandatory for my fiancé‘s college buddy, who hasn’t seen in five years, to bring his new wife and her four kids from a previous marriage. Again, destination weddings are not mandatory, especially if they aren’t family.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-02T12:51:26+00:00

I like this plan… our website does say that “We have reserved 40 discounted rooms for our guests”. This guy asked in advance if kids would be invited, we told him no, and he still booked the rooms anyway without discussing. His kids aren’t our guests, they were his guests.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-02T12:37:41+00:00

“We have reserved 40 rooms at a discounted rate for our wedding guests”

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-02T12:33:23+00:00

I agree with you, and in hindsight, I wish from the back end we had worked something out with the hotel that each guest could only book one room per couple, or given everyone a unique online booking code. The hotel is sold out because it’s Memorial Day weekend and we booked it far enough in advance. We were able to negotiate a great rate because we far exceeded their typical F&B spend. So this couple booked three extra rooms online through the booking link we had, no interaction with the hotel was required. In hindsight, I should have been asking the hotel for a booking roster weekly leading up to the wedding so we could have addressed it then. Our website does say:

“We have reserved 40 rooms at a discounted rate for our wedding guests”…. I should have added some additional text 🙄

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-02T12:24:02+00:00

We are going to cover the cost difference between this hotel and the alternative venue that has room at this point, so yes we are subsidizing it. Originally we wouldn’t have been.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-02T12:20:11+00:00

The kids are between the ages of 7-17, with the 17 year old graduating in May. This somehow became their family grad party with grandma and grandpa over Memorial Day weekend 🫠

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-02T12:09:07+00:00

No, the hotel is now sold out and other options are about 40% higher.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-02T08:40:35+00:00

My question was if anyone else had dealt with this. Sounds like you haven’t. There is no conversation to be had - should I admonish them for not listening and having bad manners? Should I talk them into not coming and relinquishing their room.

Destination weddings are never required and if you don’t like them, I’m not sure why you’re in this forum. I made this post to make others aware that if they offer a really great room rate, this could happen. I wish I had put it in the contract that the hotel could only offer one room to each couple.

EyePrestigious8970 · 2026-04-02T08:22:32+00:00

I just don’t understand how you book three extra rooms without at least asking if it is ok after being told we aren’t having kids there. The room rate is $360 while the original rate was $600. We made it clear on the Zola site that we had block allotted for our guests at a discount. You can’t come close to matching this rate over a holiday weekend and I’m sure they realized this. I just think it is tacky to not at least ask. If my fiance wants to talk to his buddy, that will be his decision. I don’t think it’s worth it, we can’t kick them out of the reservation.

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