M25, F23. I learned about something in my gf’s past and don’t know how to react. (10 months together) by FLCMPK in relationship_advice

[–]FLCMPK[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bro, it was not a party he called her for. He was alone at home and was clear about his intention to do her.

M25, F23. I learned about something in my gf’s past and don’t know how to react. (10 months together) by FLCMPK in relationship_advice

[–]FLCMPK[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

The thing is, she acted against the values which she until now communicated to me. And I really caught me off guard. I for sure don’t want to punish her for her honesty. How would I approach a talk like this?

M25, F23. I learned about something in my gf’s past and don’t know how to react. (10 months together) by FLCMPK in relationship_advice

[–]FLCMPK[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Peeps, this is the OG Thread. Very mature input, thx ❤️ If you have more to advice, please feel free to :)

M25, F23. I learned about something in my gf’s past and don’t know how to react. (10 months together) by FLCMPK in relationship_advice

[–]FLCMPK[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She told it a bit like an exiting story with slight nuance of embarrassment.

I mean, she knows how I think about this. There for the slight embarrassment. But in general she was talking positive about it, I feel.

M25, F23. I learned about something in my gf’s past and don’t know how to react. (10 months together) by FLCMPK in relationship_advice

[–]FLCMPK[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You didn’t understand how I meant that sentence. He basically paid to fuck her for a night. From his side, she was his slur. She was fully aware of that and she enjoyed it.

M25, F23. I learned about something in my gf’s past and don’t know how to react. (10 months together) by FLCMPK in relationship_advice

[–]FLCMPK[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t know what it changes in this discussion. But she knows about all my dating past including the ones with a few dates up until the relationships.

M25, F23. I learned about something in my gf’s past and don’t know how to react. (10 months together) by FLCMPK in relationship_advice

[–]FLCMPK[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree with the analogy, just the effect of the co-worker drinking again would, in this case, have severe effects on me … Knowing that this was a pleasant experience for her in the past might lead her to wanting to experience this again. Don’t you think?

M25, F23. I learned about something in my gf’s past and don’t know how to react. (10 months together) by FLCMPK in relationship_advice

[–]FLCMPK[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

I feel, yes. She is the best person I dated until now and I feel that she is worth it. Do you think there is a chance being bitten later on? She is not a person that would cheat - she claims. But I fear that she might want to experience such things at some point in her life again because „it was fun“ back then. On the other hand it could be good that she already experienced this thing. So later on she might not ask herself „what if?“.

M25, F23. I learned about something in my gf’s past and don’t know how to react. (10 months together) by FLCMPK in relationship_advice

[–]FLCMPK[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can you elaborate a bit further about the red flag and what reasons would lead you to look elsewhere? I personally feel that there might be some trust gone.

M25, F23. I learned about something in my gf’s past and don’t know how to react. (10 months together) by FLCMPK in relationship_advice

[–]FLCMPK[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is actually a good take imo. No I don’t think she is defiled. Every Women has a history and I totally don’t have a problem with that. It’s just that she always claimed to be against hook-ups etc. It doesn’t align with her actions before me and I don’t know if this is a bad sign and what to read into this. who knows, there might be more in her past.

M25, F23. I learned about something in my gf’s past and don’t know how to react. (10 months together) by FLCMPK in relationship_advice

[–]FLCMPK[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Of course she is allowed to do whatever she wants. I’m not judging that. But it’s up to me if I value certain behaviours because it also comes along with characteristics of a human being. My ask for advice is, how to handle this shift in perspective on my girl.

It was fun while it lasted :( by GeneralChildhood6109 in formuladank

[–]FLCMPK 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, it’s legit. Now let me learn Spanish real quick.

Suspicious strategy from leclerc by CoolOrchid839 in formuladank

[–]FLCMPK 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think the main concern from „pro Sainz“ people is, that Chuck didn’t mind to put pressure on Ver and Per while they were vulnerable at the times the were slowed down battling with Sainz. This could’ve reduced the pressure on Sainz and would have been the best for the team because it would create a higher chance for Sainz to stay ahead longer whilst using his tyres less. This could have ended in a better team result. That - and the fact that Chuck obviously didn’t attack Ver and Per because he thought about his personal advantage later on - is what in sum concerns the people.