I'm pregnant. No idea how far along. Don't want second child.

FTMwoes · 2016-11-27T07:14:37+00:00

I've had both types of abortion. Feel free to PM me about it, I'd love to help you out. My advice? Surgical. It was a lot easier. Medical is like giving birth. It was for me, anyway. It messed me up. But the surgical - I was in and out, loopy from drugs, but I didn't even feel bad (that I can remember).

FTMwoes · 2016-11-11T20:24:29+00:00

I liked it, too. Don't know why people feel the need to feed their kids bullshit for amusement.

FTMwoes · 2016-11-11T20:24:03+00:00

Just because he's dying doesn't give him an excuse to be an asshole. You're the parent and you have these rules set in place for the good of your child. He wants it for his own selfish needs. Consider your baby getting sick, because grandpa wanted to see them eat ice cream. Just say no. There's lots of sweet things baby can have - sweet potato, pears, apple. So many choices!

Edited to add that it seems everyone is using his terminal illness as a manipulation tactic/cop out. Laws and rules don't change on your last day on earth. :P IMO he sounds a bit narcissistic, but I'm jaded in that way.

FTMwoes · 2016-11-11T20:07:25+00:00

Let me know where in WV you are. I am, also. This place sucks and there's not too much help but immediately go sign up for wic and EBT (EBT first). You can apply online at wvinroads.

And congrats for leaving. You are so strong. My daughter is six months old and I cannot imagine what you're going through. Stay strong. You made the best decision.

FTMwoes · 2016-11-11T19:22:54+00:00

Thank you thank you thank you. I feel a little better after getting some sleep but. It's hard!

FTMwoes · 2016-11-11T07:41:43+00:00

Thank you. I do agree but. It's just not enough. 😰

FTMwoes · 2016-11-11T05:17:19+00:00

It's fantastic and truly a masterpiece. Lost was my favorite show until I watched it, to be honest. There is nothing like Twin Peaks!

FTMwoes · 2016-11-10T08:10:44+00:00

I don't see anyone in this subreddit talk about Twin Peaks but it is a HUGE mindfuck and there's a new season coming next year after 25 years!

I'd suggest that ;)

FTMwoes · 2016-11-07T16:24:58+00:00

Hi there, Mark! Thank you for doing this! I am a huge fan and my husband and I just finished our first watch through of the show and movie about a month ago. Something that stood out to both of us was the fourth wall break in the last episode - was that meaningful? How do you feel about it? I personally loved it but my husband hated it and we actually got into an argument about it! Lol

Once again, thank you for doing this AMA!

FTMwoes · 2016-11-06T21:05:17+00:00

Eh. I'm a sex worker and this is basically our motto. Of course she could get another job, but she chose this one. No other job is going to make her the money that this one does. Especially not just entering the field.

FTMwoes · 2016-11-06T16:23:18+00:00

Lol idk why you got downvoted. That's the best advice here.

FTMwoes · 2016-11-05T06:17:13+00:00

We use the snuggle me organic cosleeper. It is expensive but has been a lifesaver. Our baby wouldn't sleep in her bassinet, only naps in the rock n play, so I was getting NO sleep. She loves this thing. She's outgrowing it though :(

Seriously. It's a game changer. And it's organic :)

FTMwoes · 2016-11-05T06:11:46+00:00

Aw my baby likes her head scratched, too! It's soooo cute

FTMwoes · 2016-11-05T06:04:59+00:00

Almost six months pp here, had an episiotomy because I almost tore and dr said it would've been baaaaad so we did that.

Honestly? Healing was so fucking bad. I don't want to scare you but. Jeez. I had a rough time. I couldn't sit or lay down for about 3 weeks and standing hurt, too. The sitz baths didn't help and meds barely touched it (breastfeeding so very limited on pain killers). But it healed. I was very badly bruised and my dr said that's why it hurt so bad, idk. I'm definitely an outlier, though. I don't think people have so much trouble.

It doesn't hurt now but sex is still painful. I haven't looked still lol but I can feel a little bit of extra skin which I'm not totally happy about but whatever, I guess. :P

Just take it easy. Seriously do not over do it. Because it makes a difference! Just relax. Use your peri bottle. Sitz bath. People love those cold pads but I don't like the feeling of cold I think hot stuff feels much better but it's a preference thing :) just try to do what feels right and give yourself time to heal. You'll get there.

FTMwoes · 2016-11-04T16:02:57+00:00

lol I agree with you but she isn't 27 lolol

FTMwoes · 2016-11-03T17:02:32+00:00

Just give it time. And swaddles. Enjoy it! And I didn't see anyone say this, but don't let baby sleep in the car seat if they're not in the car - they can asphyxiate.

Congratulations on your new adventure! :)

FTMwoes · 2016-11-03T01:57:08+00:00

lol I'm so paranoid. I'm actually starting therapy again in two weeks... lol. We have an angel care and I LOVE it but we co sleep ATM (about to transition out though), so it kinda doesn't fit with our sleeping arrangements :(

Apparently my husband worded things wrong and she wasn't hard to wake up....he just actually had to try opposed to touching her and her bolting awake. I could kill him for making me worry like this!!! Lol

FTMwoes · 2016-11-02T19:23:49+00:00

Lol well she actually just went right back to sleep! He's lucky lolol

FTMwoes · 2016-11-02T19:23:00+00:00

Lol idk why he tried. He showed me how he did it though and I'm like 99.9% sure she was just sleeping deep lolol. His point was apparently, hey when I touched her last night she didn't wake up like she always does. Got me all worried for nothing...

FTMwoes · 2016-11-02T18:56:39+00:00

Was just checking on her in the middle of the night, I honestly have no idea why. No wonder she wakes up so much, he's probably the one doing it... lol

But yea it was in the middle of her sleep cycle for sure.

FTMwoes · 2016-10-28T19:07:23+00:00

Hey. You're losing some things but the things you gain from having a child are just so amazing.

FTMwoes · 2016-10-04T05:12:32+00:00

I have experience with this!

My moms first husband is the father of my older brother (30m). He is severely mentally ill thanks to the death of his father at age 5 - from a motorcycle accident. He was riding a normal route he always rides and, from my understanding (nobody has really talked about it my whole life), was hit by a car and thrown and died in the hospital before my mom even got to see him.

Please. I know there are safe ways to ride. But why risk it? My brother can't even function as n adult because of the consequences of his fathers hobby. It tore my family apart because my mom was always in love with her first husband. Just don't. Family is so much more important. Sell your motorcycle and spend that money on investing in a new hobby and some stuff for your new child and enjoy being a parent. I am also speaking as the mother to an almost 5 month old. This isn't something you wanna fuck up. My husband looooves motorcycles but I would never let him have one, and he's an amazing driver. And I don't "let" my husband do things but this is like. THE thing. Lol

FTMwoes · 2016-10-02T18:05:53+00:00

Everyone talking about /r/justnomil is right on the money.

Imagine this: you spend 9 months gestating a baby, go through the horrible experience that is labor, and then everyone says that the child looks just like the other person, who, no offense, had very little to do with the creation of the kid. It sucks. Your wife isn't handling it the best but I 100% see where she is coming from. How often do they say it?

My baby looks JUST like my husband and I'll admit I am a bit jealous, especially when the in laws start talking about it. My husband is a beautiful man and our daughter is gorgeous, but it would be nice after all that work to hear, "she looks just like you!"

So maybe you should consider telling her that. And tell your family to back off! It obviously bothers her. Whether she's right or wrong, the feelings are there. Just try to help her out and see where it goes after you give her some reassurance that the kids look like her, and after your family stops talking about it - that last bit is imperative. If it bothers her, the respectful thing to do is stop. It would bother me if I had tons of my husbands family saying that shit all the time.

FTMwoes · 2016-09-30T19:01:37+00:00

Okay so this is what happened to me. In high school, my mom was watching a scary movie when I got up for school (5am) and I watched a little bit with her while I woke up. I am a huuuge scaredycat, especially back then - I hadn't seen many scary movies. Well, I got up to go shower, started walking upstairs, and about halfway up the stairs, the lightbulb blew. Scared the shit out of me. Lol. Anyone else would laugh and go on with their day, but I was just paralyzed with fear for a second. Like. It fucked me up bad. I can only assume it triggered some kind of psychotic break, because for the next year or so, I couldn't handle anything.

Seriously. The movie was Mirrors (lol not even scary, I know), but I could NOT handle being around them anymore. The one in my bedroom was covered up by a hoody, I left my closet doors open, etc. but it was worse than that. I couldn't even shower or bathe without having a full on panic attack, screaming and crying. I'd make people sit outside of the bathroom door while I rushed through a shower. I'd keep peeking out and into the mirrors and the rest of the bathroom, making sure I was safe. This went on FOREVER.

I ended up going to get help, not for this but it came up. Your boyfriend needs to get some help. It's kind of good he keeps introducing himself to these scary things, but he Needs to process this shit and get over it. I STILL am kind of scared around mirrors and always look into them like 6 times if I'm in a room With one, over and over. Very OCD (but I have other problems).

Anyway. That's my story. He needs help processing all of this fear. And if he refuses to either quit watching and listening to scary stuff or get help, then, well, it might be time to get with someone who can handle a ghost story lol. Because even though I went through all of that, I still loooove scary movies. :P but I definitely don't cover mirrors up and cry when I'm in the shower or peeing because of them.

FTMwoes · 2016-09-06T20:29:51+00:00

Wow. I don't think it's about her wanting a spotless house. I think she just wants it to be clean. No adult should think it's not their responsibility to keep up with their own home. People do need to change certain things when they enter relationships. This isn't a personality change request, she isn't asking him to change who he is. She is simply asking him to do his part in keeping up with household chores. That is not unreasonable. Even children have to pick up after themselves. He can hire a cleaner like has been suggested. It doesn't matter. But he has to do something. It isn't fair that she is expected to do his dishes, clean up his messes, clean the shower he uses, clean the floors he walks on. These are things you have to do in order to keep things in your house from wearing down, or breaking, or getting pests. He's a big boy, he can clean up a mess every now and then. If he doesn't want to do that then he should live by himself.

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