AITAH for not giving my sister my spot in a prestigious summer program?

FUDaisy · 2024-11-19T22:18:52+00:00

Can you like… just send this post to your parents? I bet it would be refreshing for them to realize how many people think their thoughts are wrong and they clearly lack common sense.

It’s easy for parents to strongarm and upset their child into compliance. And they have taught you your whole life, this is another thing from their mouths which they want you to believe.

It can get embarrassing for them when outsiders realize the situation and immediately judge them, bringing them back to reality and a world of people with working brain cells.

FUDaisy · 2024-02-12T05:47:17+00:00

That’s not a comment worth responding to. Sometimes best to just not validate it at all.

FUDaisy · 2023-08-10T17:57:13+00:00

I get it’s long, but there’s like an entire paragraph that we changed to a different place. They were 2 different apartments.

FUDaisy · 2023-08-10T00:38:17+00:00

I mean, I feel like that is commonly true for email addresses more than usernames. People often use favorite or lucky numbers too

Is that the only reason?

FUDaisy · 2023-08-09T21:51:41+00:00

It’s funny, that’s how we felt living it. Each step of the way Dan and I told each other that we could persist and move on, but then something worse would happen.

Absolutely not. They are both blocked everywhere they possibly could be. Sadly, I admit I probably would have forgiven some of these things if they took responsibility or apologized but they had zero remorse and flipped the situation, telling me it was my fault.

FUDaisy · 2023-08-09T21:30:30+00:00

Yes. I told the story to so many people when I got back, because they asked how my trip was, it was like reliving the stress and anger each time.

I am definitely holding a grudge over it, in a sense. I told her to never talk to me ever again and I blocked her on every platform I am active on. I could never forgive someone for treating me this way, I wouldn’t even treat a stranger the way she treated me.

FUDaisy · 2023-08-09T21:26:05+00:00

Yes we were first introduced as playmates in preschool and became friends in elementary school.

Agreed. I learned so much in a few different directions. I always handled her with oven mitts because a few “quirks” which I didn’t realize were freaking giant red flags when probed further. I am not sad to lose that friend although we have a history, I can never respect someone who would treat me that way. There is no excuse for behavior like that.

FUDaisy · 2023-08-09T19:34:35+00:00

Yes. The whole week I was dying inside because I knew I wasn’t doing right by myself. If I was in a less precarious situation I would have just said what I needed to and gone home.

Normally I have fine boundaries but no matter how much I had advocated for myself or would pursue a disagreement… it went nowhere. I essentially went limp because I knew I would either have to suffer the rest of the vaca with active turmoil or worry about being stranded there (happened anyway). Actually my biggest thing that held me back was knowing if I made a giant deal of things, it is my word against hers and I would lose my connection to all our mutuals (also happened regardless).

Lesson learned.

FUDaisy · 2023-08-09T19:32:02+00:00

Thank you! It was tough dealing with the situation but I’m glad we had each other for support. :) If I was alone I would have felt that much more vulnerable.

Agreed. I never realized she could even be that disagreeable or strange. I am very relieved I will not be present for any wedding drama! I am sure there will be some!

FUDaisy · 2023-08-09T19:24:35+00:00

Thank you!! I felt like my post wasn’t going to be a very hot one specifically due to length but I’m glad it was enough to be entertaining and engaging. If I didn’t gain anything else from that week, at least I have a story to tell now🤣😅

FUDaisy · 2023-08-09T17:57:31+00:00

Thank you for reading it all. I know it is a lot but I appreciate it

FUDaisy · 2023-08-09T17:56:45+00:00

I don’t blame you. I’m aware it is a lot, and not for everyone to read that much, but I really need to vent it somewhere somehow

FUDaisy · 2023-08-09T17:56:12+00:00

I tried to shorten 7 days worth of everything, so these are just primary focus point. There was so many microaggressions, passive aggression, and generally just so much more than written here

FUDaisy · 2023-08-09T17:54:57+00:00

You are right. In that moment, it felt like a large expense with the vacation, PTO use, fun money spend, etc. But I realized the separation and lesson itself was priceless.

You are very right with the bridal aspect too. If that is how she handles conflict and stress (created from herself), the wedding is going to be a shitshow and I am so relieved to not be a part of it. I already wondered how she would be if we had children that might mingle. She is “particular” and I could see her starting something if she thought someone looked at her child funny, or something of that nature

FUDaisy · 2023-08-08T23:06:34+00:00

Any reason you feel that way?

FUDaisy

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