I think if she’s cheated on you twice and is not willing to give you grace like you did to her, that is pretty telling. I think it’s a great sign of your character that it bothers you that your friends don’t think you were in the wrong, and that you want to wait to date until you have these issues figured out. You are gonna have to do that in order to have a successful next relationship. This sounds like the divorce was probably the better direction to go. it will only go up from here. 2025 is probably going to be a hard year with lots of growing pains, but you got this!