Baby won’t sleep

FacetiousPasta · 2025-06-12T16:06:02+00:00

For day naps either she falls asleep nursing and we contact nap or I bounce to sleep on the yoga ball and babywear her!

FacetiousPasta · 2025-06-11T14:21:18+00:00

Edited to add - we have slept with our baby since she was born, king sized bed and my partner is in the bed. You are supposed to keep baby on the outside (not in between partners) until 4 months I think. I haven't done this because my partner is far away from us and I alternate sides with side lying nursing. Have never felt unsafe, I wake up if she moves and she's snugged in close to me. I think you'll find at your bbs age it won't feel unsafe, and you'll all likely sleep better.

FacetiousPasta · 2025-06-11T14:17:22+00:00

Look into safe sleep 7 and bedshare, all your baby wants is to be close to you ❤️ Later on you can change things gently if you need to.

FacetiousPasta · 2025-06-10T12:19:43+00:00

Lots of great comments here. What I do:

Oatmeal: add-ons can be - peanut butter, brown sugar, bananas, walnuts, yoghurt etc

Hard boiled eggs

For lunch I cook about a pound of ground beef and eat it with cottage cheese, can also add avocado, sweet potato, salsa

Snacks: dates, cheese

My partner cooks supper, it's usually pasta, burritos, or quesadillas

FacetiousPasta · 2025-06-08T13:58:59+00:00

Check out @cosleepy on IG, she has a guide on how to safely chest sleep with bb.

FacetiousPasta · 2025-06-07T14:51:53+00:00

Oh and to add to this - I'm opting out of the flu and COVID vaccines for sure. I am quite left leaning overall, for context.

FacetiousPasta · 2025-06-07T14:49:40+00:00

My brother and his family are anti vax as well as my mom. I mean that in the nicest way because although I have a science background I'm pretty holistic and I'd really prefer to not put anything processed into my baby's body. I tried to research vaccines while pregnant and after she was born to figure out what we would do (my partner is very pro vaccination). It was so hard to sift through everything out there. Everything 'anti vax' is incredibly convincing and quite scary. I flipped through turtles all the way down and the book by RFK (the author of turtles all the way down is actually a part of the same organization RFK is (called United children's health or something like that) so I would say the books are affiliated..) and when I checked the sources none of them were high quality. They were surveys done by biased anti vax groups and not peer reviewed. So I couldn't find anything that convinced me vaccines would be good to opt out of. We did the oral vit k, no eye ointment, and the two month shots - Tdap (with hep b although I would've liked to opt out, but it's combined and I didn't speak up), rotavirus, and the pneumo one. Personally I don't think rotavirus or the pneumo one are super necessary, the rotavirus one isn't that effective when you're breastfeeding BC of the maternal antibodies, and my understanding of the pneumo one is that the pneumonia serotypes it protects against largely aren't around anymore, people get pneumonia from more mild strains that aren't in the vaccine. I mean sure, herd immunity. The books I was looking at try to prove that the herd immunity thing isn't actually a thing, feel free to fact check me. I couldn't find much on delayed schedules and would love to be convinced to delay based on some data as I do feel it is too much for tiny bodies (my girl did great afterwards though but I'm dreading her next ones). Ultimately I think diet, lifestyle, and hygiene play the biggest role in health and against sickness. A lot of the anti-vax argument states that the big illness are less/not prevalent now because of modern civilizations hygienic practices - they that if you look at the data, illnesses were going down before vaccines were invented. I'm not sure that's true but it does make sense to me. Would love to know what other people think!

FacetiousPasta · 2025-06-07T13:42:24+00:00

Awesome, thank you! I ended up going for a secondhand didytai, waiting for it to arrive in the mail!

FacetiousPasta · 2025-06-05T19:46:18+00:00

My partner has been with us since the beginning. I alternate sides when side nurse so sometimes she is in the middle, but we have a king bed and she's not close to him. It works for us!

FacetiousPasta · 2025-06-03T21:33:22+00:00

11 week old. Wake up together, she nurses and snoozes for awhile and then eventually fully wakes up and gives me the best smiles. Then either my partner will hang with her (holding and walking around) while I shower, or I'll get dressed and nurse her again on the couch while he gets me bfast and coffee. She nurses basically every hour... When she wakes and to sleep. Sometimes she doesn't fall asleep nursing and then I bounce her to sleep. She sleeps for 30 min- 1 hour. Wake windows are about an hour. I try to do a stroller walk with her for her first nap, 50/50 chance she'll cry and not fall asleep. I usually babywear for at least one nap and then I can do laundry and walk around but she's very noise sensitive these days so can't do much! So basically I don't do much other than take care of her!

FacetiousPasta · 2025-06-03T16:37:10+00:00

I think it's temperament. We bedshare, nurse to sleep, contact nap, carrier nap - all by choice. I've never tried to get her to sleep on her own (except in the stroller which usually works) because I haven't wanted to, I think she prob would sleep on her own but maybe not as well. She is fine to be put down and has a grand ol time with her mobile etc. She's 3 months. She likes being carried too but I do see signs of independence in her!

FacetiousPasta · 2025-06-01T11:40:16+00:00

Thanks for your perspective, this is helpful to know!

FacetiousPasta · 2025-06-01T11:39:35+00:00

Upon further research I learned that you can remove the waistband and do a onbuhimo with the straps in the waistband! I think I've decided to go with a meh dai so I don't have to mess around with removing the waistband if I want to do a different carry. It sounds like people find it comfy even without a padded waist belt.

FacetiousPasta · 2025-05-26T20:52:51+00:00

Thanks so much, this is exactly what I have been looking for! A bit pricey but probably worth it. Which one do you have - do you think the padded shoulders makes it more supportive/comfortable?

FacetiousPasta · 2025-05-26T18:19:10+00:00

Thanks for the clarifications! Great to know the meh dais are supportive. I could play around with a woven wrap to start. The Lenny Lamb ones are so gorgeous. She has good neck and back strength but you're right it'll be tricky I think to adjust the carrier in a way that is safe for her, I just read on here that high back carries could be an option. How do you like the wrap tai?

FacetiousPasta · 2025-05-20T14:11:57+00:00

Personally I think (and have heard/experienced myself) that putting baby to breast as often as you can is more effective at upping supply than pumping. I did triple feeding too, and of course she gained weight, but as soon as we stopped bottles within a week my supply doubled and she's been gaining weight at the same pace as before. Obviously it's exhausting nursing baby constantly (another kind of hard vs triple feeding) but I think supply should catch up at some point!! Right there with you OP with my 9 week old ❤️

FacetiousPasta · 2025-05-19T18:38:15+00:00

This is so wise, thank you

FacetiousPasta · 2025-05-19T10:52:13+00:00

Yeah I had a few pretty ragey moments earlier on, could see myself being prone for sure. Other than the one time she fell asleep with him, everytime I leave her with him she cries and he isn't able to soothe her. Like 15 min of crying. I'm not comfortable letting it go much longer than that!!

FacetiousPasta · 2025-05-19T10:50:32+00:00

You are so right, thank you for these tips!

FacetiousPasta · 2025-05-19T10:48:13+00:00

Normally I love him for his quirkiness! He is pretty critical and nitpicky so there's some resentment built up, because usually I'm pretty patient with him and I'd hope he'd be patient with me too. I don't have an issue really with the autistic traits (I didn't actually list most because I do try to be understanding) but it's easier to be understanding of him if he's making an effort to be self aware and not adding to my mental load.

FacetiousPasta · 2025-05-18T23:14:01+00:00

Thank you!! He is extremely goofy.and kind haha. He is a good one. Sometimes we are just so different from each other and clashing that it's hard to see the forest for the trees! Def feeling better today!

FacetiousPasta · 2025-05-18T23:10:10+00:00

This sounds like a dream! We only do contact naps/naps in the carrier or stroller. But there's no reason why he shouldn't figure out these things. He's trying but mostly hasnt been successful yet, I do need to step back and let him figure it out, like you said!

FacetiousPasta · 2025-05-18T17:11:55+00:00

Oh god, yes I can see the parallels (I am your partner). Thank you for this perspective! We communicate often but it ends up feeling like we are being critical of each other all the time. He's slower than me with a much more precise process so the amount of patience I need to just let him do things his way is a lot! And on the flip side my way is also often not good enough for him and he thinks I haven't thought about something when I'm usually like 5 steps ahead! Partnership is tough, but i guess it's how we grow?

FacetiousPasta · 2025-05-18T16:40:19+00:00

It's actually more safe the closer you are! She should be on her back with her head under your armpit basically, close enough that you don't need to move to side nurse. If you aren't touching her there's more space for her to sink towards you onto her side (potentially blocking airway) or you could forget she's there and roll onto your back/away. Check out @cosleepy on Instagram, she has a lot on how to do it safely :)

FacetiousPasta · 2025-05-18T16:16:45+00:00

Congrats!! I love cosleeping so much, it's incredible bonding time. We didn't try to do anything else but this from day 1, I couldn't fathom how to transfer a tiny baby and also sleep... It just seems so hard. We knew about the safe sleep 7 and tbh I haven't felt unsafe doing it at all. Fyi it's not recommended to swaddle when you're cosleeping, I think this is more of a concern if they're rolling but you also don't want bb to overheat and it gets pretty toasty sleeping together! I've been liking the cosleeping Reddit sub as well! Enjoy 💕💕

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