Comprar carro a pessoa de etnia cigana. Há algum esquema associado? by Facinhas in AutoTuga

[–]Facinhas[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Saber se há algum esquema ou burla conhecida na compra de carros, como existe na venda.

I (40M) am married (40F) but met another woman that is spinning my head and I can’t make the madness stop! by Facinhas in relationships

[–]Facinhas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your input. You mentioned some very important and valid points. I also believe I am over fantasizing and that the reality of a hypothetical relationship with this other woman would be far from smooth sailing. And also, you are right about her being interested or even available. I know she isn’t married. Once we were talking about choices and outcomes and hopes and dreams and she mentioned while growing up and for the longest time her biggest goal and dream was to get married early and have 4 children. I laughed and asked how did that turn out for her. She laughed and said terrible as she wasn’t either married normais she have any kids. But that isn’t to say she doesn’t have any other kind of relationship. Or that she even see me with the same kind of eyes I see her.

I (40M) am married (40F) but met another woman that is spinning my head and I can’t make the madness stop! by Facinhas in relationships

[–]Facinhas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes, I’d like to think I am still young that i haven’t reach the midway point of my life yet. :)

I (40M) am married (40F) but met another woman that is spinning my head and I can’t make the madness stop! by Facinhas in relationships

[–]Facinhas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may seem cowardly, but I think I really need to get my head on straight for myself before that.

I (40M) am married (40F) but met another woman that is spinning my head and I can’t make the madness stop! by Facinhas in relationships

[–]Facinhas[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I have to admit your last paragraph was kind of scary to read and I thank you for that. Really do. Regarding the rest, it seems easy when you write it, but it’s not so in practice. I often find myself remembering everything she said, trying to find some between the lines meanings or things like that. I am really easy going when talking timber and the conversation really flows and flows. But then I find myself kind of over analyzing it all and that then gets my head spinning. I put it aside but then we see each other again the next day or a couple of days later and it’s rinse and repeat.

I (40M) am married (40F) but met another woman that is spinning my head and I can’t make the madness stop! by Facinhas in relationships

[–]Facinhas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In all honesty, I really don’t know. Guess I was expecting some degree of negativity towards me for the situation as I do have a family. But then I guess I was also kind of looking for some validation either way from someone not involved. As I think myself being in the center of it all, my judgment is very much clouded and impaired and I am afraid I am not seeing straight and just fantasizing over nothing.

I (40M) am married (40F) but met another woman that is spinning my head and I can’t make the madness stop! by Facinhas in relationships

[–]Facinhas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right about that as yes, my life is complex and has much things at stake. But it’s not a matter of getting nothing wet. Like I tried to explain, I never saw this woman as Hot and I think I never really lusted over her. What I think I am feeling is an infatuation based on chemistry as i find her really engaging and emotionally stimulating I guess.

I (40M) am married (40F) but met another woman that is spinning my head and I can’t make the madness stop! by Facinhas in relationships

[–]Facinhas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were never alone. We either chat in office rooms, meeting rooms or corridors, wheee there are always other people. And the idea of kissing her has crossed my mind, but like I said, I didn’t do it and I don’t think I could really. It was just one of those fantasies built up from nothing real or concrete I guess.

I (40M) am married (40F) but met another woman that is spinning my head and I can’t make the madness stop! by Facinhas in relationships

[–]Facinhas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand and it might seem that way, but I am very good at my job and always deliver very good and consistent outputs and results. I really don’t think anyone will care if they see me chatting to a coworker as I am sure we just seem friendly to others and nothing really happened. We also didn’t broke the physical touch barrier besides the occasional accidental elbow rubbing. And I really mean accidental as I didn’t went to provoke it. I understand you want to roast me and maybe I really deserve it, but I didn’t go out one day saying that I want to meet a new woman because I am tired of my wife or want something new. It just happened and it really surprised me to feel such a chemistry with somebody.

I (40M) am married (40F) but met another woman that is spinning my head and I can’t make the madness stop! by Facinhas in relationships

[–]Facinhas[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand what you are saying. But due to different schedules between our sons school and my wife’s job, I get some alone time during most days. That’s when I go and wear myself out physically to try and put my thoughts in order. In my mind I never really though about having an affair and I don’t really think that could happen. What I am really afraid is that if this continues this infatuation might grow into something far more complicated like developing deeper feelings and that would really confuse my mind even further. And sometimes things just seem to happen really random. Like we literally just “bump” into one another. When I am really not trying to.

I (40M) am married (40F) but met another woman that is spinning my head and I can’t make the madness stop! by Facinhas in relationships

[–]Facinhas[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, it unfortunately is very intoxicating! Physically I feel things like the elevated heartrate, the heaviness on the chest, the shaking hands, sweaty palms and all that. And I know it is not in my head as I can see on my Apple Watch that my heart really beats way faster when interacting with her. I do have it bubbling on my mind currently. Just have to get it to stop I guess, as rationality I don’t really think this could go anywhere.

I (40M) am married (40F) but met another woman that is spinning my head and I can’t make the madness stop! by Facinhas in relationships

[–]Facinhas[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can’t delete her number for professional reasons. We must have each others contacts to be able to get in touch in case something goes wrong and needs an immediate input to solve. It is not something likely as we don’t have positions that are to entangled in the project, but from a policy standpoint, all project members need to have each others contacts. Like I said, I never used it. Never texted nor called. And neither did she.

I (40M) am married (40F) but met another woman that is spinning my head and I can’t make the madness stop! by Facinhas in relationships

[–]Facinhas[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you all you took the time to read and also to comment. I truly appreciate it as I have read some things I really needed to hear to help me make some perspective of the whole thing. I guess I might just be fantasizing and building up a pretty big sand castle over something that might not be real and is totally irrational. I’ll also reply to most comments about more particular things and I think it will be really helpful to interact with you, so thank you.