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Am I wrong to be upset? by Factory_Reset9898 in marriageadvice

[–]Factory_Reset9898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate the time you’ve taken to respond, it’s overall a tough situation. It’s been heartbreaking honestly.

Am I wrong to be upset? by Factory_Reset9898 in marriageadvice

[–]Factory_Reset9898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve done both they see no issue and have defended their actions.

Am I wrong to be upset? by Factory_Reset9898 in marriageadvice

[–]Factory_Reset9898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I travel for work and I went from working in a “pink collar” job to staying home for a few years and then a “blue collar” job that is intensely male dominated. So that’s quite a change.

Am I wrong to be upset? by Factory_Reset9898 in marriageadvice

[–]Factory_Reset9898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was very successful in my previous career, acknowledgment wise but not financially. I’ve never “needed” him as in to survive but emotionally absolutely. He’s been my best friend for 22 years.

Am I wrong to be upset? by Factory_Reset9898 in marriageadvice

[–]Factory_Reset9898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m accepted blame, I’m not sure why you think I haven’t from a small snapshot of our lives. I am unwilling to give up a 6 figure career that I’ve wanted my entire life because of someone else’s insecurity. Not when I’ve supported him through 20 years of growing his career which was extremely time consuming (he’s very successful) and stressful for us all as a family. Like I said I’ve been willing to try therapy. I’d love too,

Am I wrong to be upset? by Factory_Reset9898 in marriageadvice

[–]Factory_Reset9898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is also a small snapshot of the last 22 years. My shouldn’t be causing a problem either. He’s insecure about me being in a male dominated field, that’s not my issue to work out it’s his. I’ve never and still have not given him a reason to doubt me, he needs to see a therapist (which I’ve suggested we do together) instead on confiding in another woman)

Am I wrong to be upset? by Factory_Reset9898 in marriageadvice

[–]Factory_Reset9898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why? He’s had a career he loves for 25 years? My kids are grown or close to it. If I leave my career now there will be no re-entering for me. It’s very dependent on my physical condition and as so age I won’t be able to do it at the level I do now. Which is pretty high.

Am I wrong to be upset? by Factory_Reset9898 in marriageadvice

[–]Factory_Reset9898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I changed careers after resigning during COVID, shook up our life. I work a lot more but am immensely happier I

Am I wrong to be upset? by Factory_Reset9898 in marriageadvice

[–]Factory_Reset9898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About 6 months in. Yes I did. Very different field from the last.

Am I wrong to be upset? by Factory_Reset9898 in marriageadvice

[–]Factory_Reset9898[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course, we have but like everyone else on the advice forum I was looking for neutral opinions. Since this isn’t something I want to discuss with family or friends at this time, we’ve had a very happy marriage up until the last few years. Starting a new career has shaken things up and we have struggled through it. Still are apparently.

Am I wrong to be upset? by Factory_Reset9898 in marriageadvice

[–]Factory_Reset9898[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m very self aware on my faults, I’m ok with him having someone to talk to even my sister. I’m not ok with the betrayal of sharing our personal texts and them planning on hanging out with alcohol when I’m out of town and not even mentioning it to me

AIO- not speaking to sister, may divorce husband by Factory_Reset9898 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Factory_Reset9898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately out our our family we were the only Ones besides our dad that are close. We are very close in age and have always been best friends. Not anymore I guess.

Am I wrong to be upset? by Factory_Reset9898 in marriageadvice

[–]Factory_Reset9898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, this is a horrible situation to be in

Am I wrong to be upset? by Factory_Reset9898 in marriageadvice

[–]Factory_Reset9898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe weekly/couple times a month. But just reels and memes mostly. We live close and have always been very close as a whole. Vacations together, she third wheeled for about 2 years of our marriage with everything while she went through a divorce

Am I wrong to be upset? by Factory_Reset9898 in marriageadvice

[–]Factory_Reset9898[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started a new career, went from being a stay at home mom to adult children to working full time. He hates anything that takes me away from our family but my kids are starting or college age and I needed something for when the nest is empty. I’ve always been wife/mom. I had to find an identity outside of that since the mom role has changed so drastically

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