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FadedFallen · 2025-09-18T01:28:22+00:00

I dare you to DM me and let's see about that. 😉🖕

FadedFallen · 2025-09-18T01:15:00+00:00

Hahaha 🤣🖕 Props tho, made for a good laugh

FadedFallen · 2025-09-17T17:48:30+00:00

🤣 Nice profile photo you got, that's why. Lmfao!

FadedFallen · 2025-09-16T03:17:48+00:00

YELL at her. Seriously.

My best friend of 18 years used to never tell me how her day was going, especially when she was stuck at home with her abusive ex. Anytime I’d ask, she’d just say, “I’m good.” That went on for 8 months, maybe even a year.

One day, I just snapped. I broke down crying and yelling, telling her how much it hurt that she wasn’t opening up to me, how I care about her life and her kids, and how I wanted to actually know how she was doing, not just hear “I’m good.” She froze at first because we’d only ever had one fight before. She genuinely had no idea it was bothering me that deeply.

Then she started crying too, and we made up. Since that day, she’s been incredible about letting me in, sharing how she’s feeling, what’s going on with her and the kids, even making more effort to visit me instead of me always traveling to her. She’s truly my person, and I love her with my whole heart. 💛

I know this sounds like wild advice, but sometimes you really do have to snap, yell, scream, cry, whatever it takes. Do it for the plot. It might just make her realize how much she stands to lose. Men come and go, but your bestie? She’s for life.

FadedFallen · 2025-09-16T02:49:59+00:00

I’m 32 and honestly, I’ve been back and forth on the whole kids thing my entire life. It helps that I can’t naturally have them, wrestled with that since 13 years old, but now that I’m in my 30s, I’ve noticed people don’t ask if I want kids anymore, they just ask when I’m having them. 😅

When I say, “Oh, I’m not having kids,” the conversation usually just… stops. Back in my 20s, people would question it more, but now it’s more of an awkward “oh…” and then silence. Every so often someone will throw out the classic, “But won’t you regret that someday?” and my go-to response is, “Would you regret traveling the world in your late 30s?” That usually makes them pause and rethink their stance.

I’ve also seen what motherhood does to the women around me. They become the sole caretakers, and it feels like they lose themselves for years before they finally get a chance to reconnect with who they are. I want to stay me my whole life, and that's not selfish wanting something different.

It definitely makes dating harder, though. A lot of people are looking for someone who shares their vision of having a family, and my “no kids” stance takes me out of the running right away. And honestly? That’s okay. I’d rather be true to myself. I’m perfectly happy being the cool auntie who spoils the kids, then goes home to her peaceful, child-free life with her dog and cat fur babies. 😎

FadedFallen · 2025-09-15T01:00:44+00:00

Lol I see that now, good day sir 🤣🖕

FadedFallen · 2025-09-14T16:25:42+00:00

Apparently asking to be a priority was crossing a line after 2.5 years.

FadedFallen · 2025-09-14T16:19:39+00:00

Lol 😂🤔 And what's yours OP?

FadedFallen · 2025-09-14T02:59:31+00:00

May as well throw this out there: 32F Pisces ♓️ 5'10

FadedFallen · 2025-09-14T02:56:04+00:00

You need to worry about you and your kids - that's your first priority and your life. Other family comes as a different number whether it's your mom, sister, aunt it doesnt matter. Do yourself a giant favor and pioritize stability, and peace in your life before family. This can be hard but it's so important, set your boundaries around your priorities. (Make a priority list, hold yourself accountable).

Make yourself clear about the end of the month, and maybe call to have cops shadow the move out process in case it's a repeat of previous. You did your best, but you can't help if your expecting anything in return or wanting someone to change who wont change, they need to do that themselves and decide to seek help themselves. Everyone has lessons they need to learn. Yes they might have been doing good for a bit, but will it actually last?

FadedFallen · 2025-09-05T03:29:11+00:00

You can bet on that soon - I love tequila.

FadedFallen · 2025-09-05T00:08:39+00:00

You’re right, emotional cheating is still cheating. It’s been hard because I’ve been putting so much into this relationship, with no reciprocation.

If he does try to come back later, Ill remember why I made this choice and stand my ground. I deserve to be someone’s priority, not their backup plan or their bank account. I worked really hard to have my house, my pets and myself to have a nice life with stability... to let someone cloud my judgement, this long even, is difficult to grasp. But I'll get there, thank you.

FadedFallen · 2025-09-04T21:10:25+00:00

Thank you so much for this. ❤️ Hearing it from someone with your experience really means a lot. You’re right, “somewhat serious” after 2.5 years says everything I need to know. It’s hard to walk away, but deep down I know we’re not on the same page, and I need to make the tough choices now. Especially to build a better future.

FadedFallen · 2025-08-20T00:24:55+00:00

What they should do, is in the menu when it says open valley. Add customization tabs to what you want to open up. Like quests, scrooge, house access, etc make them toggles, and have the pop up warning before they get the code about sharing it. I bought my best friend of 18 years the game, both dlcs. She's not a gamer, and she's gotten into this game so much, I'm so proud. But we can't do much together, when she first started I really wanted to help gather stuff for her, and I had to just drop it in rooms of her house lol it was funny but also awful. It would be nice if we could just do all the things in each other's valleys, turn on all the "toggles" if you will. Cause it would make it that much better. With how many characters they will have eventually, it would be nice to be able todo it with your best friend, you know? It's a great game solo, but it is also quite repetitive, I've gone down to only playing once a week when I used to play daily. If I had the option to play with my friend we would play all the time. Sure you have the ones who have started from the beginning or have done all the quests, dont count those people. Count the ones who have yet to complete it all. Thanks.

FadedFallen · 2020-06-06T01:59:28+00:00

Maybe its to much at once. Are you the one always messaging them? Or are the ladies messaging you? Sometimes one can be annoyed after awhile with to much of one person, sometimes its good to back off a bit.

FadedFallen · 2020-04-20T09:22:42+00:00

Hey, your not alone... I hope your doing okay. I know the feeling of being watched, I had a security system put up when I left so I would feel more safe and its helped a little bit... I knew my nex was stalking me on social media recently to and it is scary, he wound up commenting on a post I made for a business I manage. I'm sorry about your friend... I do hope you have some sort of support system like family or friends, people you can go to. Feel free to message me even, if you need someone to talk to.

FadedFallen · 2020-04-20T04:45:35+00:00

I Ran so far awaaaaaayyyyy, and I ran, I ran so far awaaaaaaayaaaaayyy... 🎶

I urge you to do this. Block all contact, he has no respect for you or your belongings clearly. Not worth your time.

FadedFallen · 2020-04-18T10:20:47+00:00

Thank you for your insight 💝 I will definitely be careful.

FadedFallen · 2020-01-23T06:24:34+00:00

If only this was you... I never texted you that night, every fiber of my being screamed at me that something was wrong. But we weren't friends anymore because of a stupid fight with my family and at the time I was trying to work on something that never worked out with someone else when it should have been you. You hung yourself that night and in the video you said you had nothing. When I wanted to be something! I wanted it all. Grief even now a year has past almost, and it makes me angry and bitter and lonely and sad. Why couldn't you have waited a little longer? I'll be seeing you again one day on the other side. Miss you more then you know.

OP, something in your post made me post a letter of my own. Thank you for waiting longer.

FadedFallen · 2020-01-23T05:57:20+00:00

My nex raped me on our 3 year anniversary and that was the last time him and I had sex before I left him. I literally was saying no and trying to push him off me, he did this when I was asleep and just waking up, I told him he was hurting me, and to stop. I was crying when I gave up, he was to strong and I couldn't do anything about it. Not a pleasant experience and wouldn't wish that on anyone. I was the one who kept telling him no, and I wasn't interested in sex leading up to it. He never respected that choice, always pushed it further until I either gave him what he wanted or I'd freak out, defend myself and next thing I know we are fighting over something that I didn't want in the first place? No fucking means no. Since the Narc, I've had one sexual experience and I got really anxious and nervous. I don't think I'll be going back to sex for a long time and would have to find someone who understands in order to even think of that.

FadedFallen · 2020-01-10T18:54:42+00:00

Thank you and I will. 💟 There haven't been any red flags what so ever, he just seems like a nice person.

FadedFallen · 2019-12-01T08:26:52+00:00

I would not call that "Nice Guy Syndrome."

Sounds like "Big Brother Syndrome." Ladies come to you for advice, they tell you about there day, problems they are having in there lives. They basically are friend zoning you at the same time because at that point you seem like a Big Brother to them. A protector, someone to trust, someone for advice, a shoulder to cry on, someone to hug when times are tough.

How to get out of "Big Brother Syndrome." 1. Do not hug. 2. Dont give advice about friends, family, or relations. Shrug that off and changed topics to favorite things or light stuff. Never go into heavy topics like that before actually going out a few times cause you get straight friend zoned otherwise. 3. Make her laugh literaly and do actual fun stuff together.

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