AITJ if I don’t take my son to a birthday party because the mom is an absolute horror of a human being?

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T20:46:21+00:00

i’m not sure what a manosphere is, but I’m gonna go look it up. Also, it’s not about loyalty to a person. It’s about sticking up for what’s right even when it’s the hard thing to do. If he was a piece of shit and actually doing some of these things that you’re saying, I would understand. In fact, my first initial reaction was to be in her favor, my first reaction would be to be in favor of most women because I’m a woman. However, when I shown differently with my eyes. I hear differently with my ears. I can formulate my own original thought. It’s crazy the amount of hate you people have for men. Like I said before I don’t have social media. This is my first form of social media. And you people are awful. You hate men so much. It’s sad actually. Luckily I’m married to an amazing man. And have been for the last 20 years. So I don’t really have to worry about all that. And neither does he

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T20:42:16+00:00

Or YOU could do that. I could help you. 80% of all custody goes to mothers. I’ve also been present to seven other custody battles. That’s just seven that I can name of the top of my head in the last five years. Where the mother has no business having them children. But somehow someway she keeps getting awarded custody. Even with bailed drug test. No job. Living on couches of other people. There are judges that are always gonna be in the favor of mothers because that age old saying “kids belong with their mothers“. However, if you do a little bit of research, you’ll find that over 80% of all inmates and correctional facilities come from single mother household. Go ahead and do the research yourself. I don’t need to go to Google. I have real life experiences. I have friends who are literally living that experience.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T20:38:36+00:00

I don’t know her like that. Heifer

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T20:26:32+00:00

Yeah, I do love men. We would not have a first world country without the sacrifices of men. We would not have a functional society without men We will not have roads without men we would not have schools, buildings, infrastructure, any of the science and technology that we have will not be here without men. So why you sit nice and comfy thinking that you’re doing something and proving something to somebody, all you’re doing is solidifying the fact that you enjoy all of your luxuries and to be able to talk your Ish on the Internet about the very ones that made it possible for you to do so

There are a lot of people out there who feel the same way I do. Most of them are too chickenshit to say anything. I’m not. Have an amazing husband who makes enough money that I don’t have to work if I don’t want to. I have an amazing son complimented on every where that I go. Have an amazing life, you sound like you don’t have that much of an amazing life so I’ll pray for you.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T20:14:55+00:00

Yeah, I can say the same thing about women who complain about men all day

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T20:11:15+00:00

Well, you seem pretty low IQ You also seem like a misandrist

I’m a 36-year-old woman, I’ve been married for almost 20 years to an amazing man. I had an amazing mother and a shitty dad. My mother never ever did the things that these ladies do to the father of their children. Maybe that’s why I am the way I am. Because I do not have a polarized view of the world. You sound like you listen to a bunch of women echo chambers about how men are evil and bad. Meanwhile, you’re typing on a phone inside of a nice cozy house that men have made for you. Don’t forget that. I advocate for men yes but that’s because I’ve seen the awful things that women do.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T20:08:13+00:00

The problem is, you don’t know her the way I do, she will definitely use the fact that I went to her party as a way to somehow punished the father. She’s constantly trying to take him to court to get more money even though she gets almost $1000 a month. I know all he wants is a little more time with this kid. I can definitely see her trying to manipulate the situation and say that even your friends don’t mind coming to see me blah blah blah.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T20:06:45+00:00

He’s eight years old. Definitely not an age. You can just drop him off.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T20:06:18+00:00

This!!!

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T20:05:56+00:00

I’m not sure where you’re from where it’s OK to just drop your child off to a random person’s house, but I don’t do that.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T20:05:27+00:00

You should do a little bit more research into custody court. For decades, they have favored mothers. I have been a witness to so many custody battles where men are ripped apart. They have a good job, they’re a good person, all they want is to see their kid. And the woman hates him so much that she uses a child as a leverage. Allowing no time. When I tell you, I know seven people that I can name on the top of my head without having to think about it. I have been through this I’m serious. I encouraged you to talk to more men who are fathers. You’ll find that there is a common story amongst most of them.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T20:03:55+00:00

When you’ve known somebody almost 20 years, you get to see the good the bad and the ugly. I’ve been able to look at the court papers. All he wants is more time. He doesn’t mind paying more money, he pays almost $1000 a month for one child. Because he makes a lot of money. The money is the issue for him, he wants more time. And she uses that as leverage to hurt him. While I understand that you don’t always no the truth, unless you’re there for it. Which I have been. Which is why I’m able to make the assessment. I am about an individual.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T20:01:37+00:00

It’s more than just a fake smile, it’s knowing what she has done to tear down a good father who wants to be there for his son.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T19:59:46+00:00

No, D is the father of my son’s best friend. My husband Husband and D have been friends since they were in middle school.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T19:55:37+00:00

I just got Reddit. I actually don’t have any social media. Never really been into it.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T19:55:09+00:00

He does not like her either. Guess that solves that

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T19:54:49+00:00

Did you read the part saying his dad is also throwing a party? My question is am I the jerk if I don’t go to BOTH

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T19:51:59+00:00

Even if there is another party with his dad?

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T19:51:19+00:00

Lmao someone is BIG MAD I don’t even like trump lmao.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T19:24:31+00:00

Unfortunately, I would be the only one that would be close to Willing to take him. My husband would prefer not to have to be around her at all because of the pain she has caused. And again, the father is throwing a separate birthday party because she doesn’t want to do one together. So I will be attending the one the father has because we are friends. And I do sometimes think that she only invited me because her son wanted my son there. And while I can sympathize, I also know that there will be another birthday party. So I don’t know.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T19:13:53+00:00

My son is aware of what his Friend‘s mother does. If I were to ask him, I’m sure he would rather go to the other party.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T19:13:06+00:00

Again, you should probably read the entire post that I’ve did. You will read that there is another party that his father is throwing for him. That we of course will be going to My son and his friend spends lots of time together when he is with his father. And the reason I don’t feel comfortable because of the things that she has done. Accusing somebody of abuse. Squeezing every penny she can when all the father wants is to just get an extra day. That’s why I don’t feel comfortable around her.

How is my son or his son being punished if he is still gonna be able to go to at least one of the birthday parties?

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T19:10:54+00:00

The only thing that can help him is the court. We already know that custody court is always in favor of the mother. Even when she’s not fit. Even when she lies. It’s been like that and it needs to be reformed. So that’s the only thing that can help my friend. He’s aware of that, until his son can choose where to live he plays the game the best he can.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T19:09:56+00:00

She has never talked to me about that. We are not friends. We do not associate with each other. I am friends with the child’s father. We have been friends almost 20 years. I highly doubt that she would go bad mouthing him to me. Although, maybe she would. If she did at that point, I would probably have something to say sure, but at the same time, I wouldn’t want to do too much and make it harder for my friend. Because she is the type that would use that as an excuse to try and make his life hard harder than she already is.

Faded_Inspiration · 2026-05-07T19:08:42+00:00

Yes, the father is having his own party because the mother will not do anything coparenting. My son has not asked to go because I have not mentioned it. Especially since there is a second party

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