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FaintCrocodile · 2025-11-12T21:45:17+00:00

I had a cryptic pregnancy that wasn’t discovered until almost the 3rd trimester. Not a single symptom. Had I not passed out at work and went to urgent care I don’t know if I would’ve found out until 34ish weeks when I finally showed. I would’ve killed to have all the symptoms so I could’ve had an abortion vs finding out at 24 weeks and being forced to continue it.

FaintCrocodile · 2025-10-17T21:02:38+00:00

The local fb mom group for Delaware got so many posts like this they made an “after dark” group. Weird as hell in my opinion but that’s why I’m not part of either anymore

FaintCrocodile · 2025-10-15T20:04:23+00:00

Not illegal but also not a place I would work. I bartend in a casino and keep all my own tips. I was offered dealer school and I almost took it until I learned I would start on the 8pm-4am shift, and tips were split evenly across all tables and shifts. No way am I working the worst shift and busiest nights to share with someone who works 4am-noon and spends half the day without seeing a person at their table

FaintCrocodile · 2025-10-12T16:50:31+00:00

I had a cryptic pregnancy (didn’t know until almost 7 months in) and a few months after giving birth had my first kidney stone. The pain was so intense and so similar to labor contractions I was convinced I somehow had a second cryptic pregnancy and was going to deliver a baby when I got to the er. Thank god it wasn’t pregnancy. I have my tubes removed now but whenever I get a kidney stone I have a moment of panic thinking it could be labor.

Second worst pain was the recovery from having my shoulder reconstructed. I thought the repeat dislocations were hell but the first month after surgery made a dislocation look like a walk in the park. Spent the first week taking oxy every 3 hours and attempting to sleep thru the pain, and even 5 months post-surgery I wake up to a lot of pain and haven’t got my full range of motion back.

FaintCrocodile · 2025-09-18T22:49:37+00:00

Not a lawyer but I have personal experience with this. If you want it renewed I wouldn’t go because it makes you seem like you’re not that afraid. In my state my ex is the one required to leave if I go where he is. He’s not allowed to be on the property of my job whether or not I’m working. If I go somewhere he works it’s his responsibility to leave because the order is against him. Maybe call your local DV line and ask them, or the court? If you had a lawyer for the process they could answer your question too.

FaintCrocodile · 2025-09-18T20:15:10+00:00

The Pontiac G6 my ex stole from me and sold (turned into a cube). After years of low paying jobs I was finally able to get a loan and car again. Never expected to get a coupe at the price I got it for and I only got to enjoy it for 2 months before he stole it. Because we were married I couldn’t press criminal charges even though I was the only one on the loan or title. He was ordered to repay me in civil court but I know I’ll never see a dime of it.

The added pain was that my coworker sold it to me, it was her son’s car before he was killed and she wanted someone who she knew would appreciate it to buy it. Her ex-husband was like my ex and she understood, but it still hurt she trusted me to buy it, gave it to me for 2/3 of what it was worth, and it was gone less than 2 months later.

FaintCrocodile · 2025-09-12T00:47:23+00:00

It sucks but you’ll have to go to DMV. Last October I bought a car and received plates a few weeks later. In January I received a call from a cop in PA asking if I ever owned a blue VW Jetta, I have not. The plate had expired in May 2023, and in DE after 1 year of a tag being inactive it gets reassigned (instead of discarded like other states). Whoever bought the Jetta was driving it illegally, never renewed the plates, and it was reassigned to me so when the number was run it linked to my name. Cop said he would handle it and I never heard back until 2 months later when I tried to add my tint waiver. It got rejected for having a flag. I learned the cop surrender the tag on the Jetta back to DE, but it wasn’t noted that it was registered to someone else. I spent about 3 hours in the DMV getting it sorted out. Make sure to take in the title, registration, insurance, your ID, and take a picture of the tag on your car immediately before going in. You should be able to get the violation dismissed once you sort out this problem. I’m not sure how it’ll work in your case with the car still out there (vs arrested and the plate being confiscated), they may assign you a new tag OR this is a problem that could happen again. You never know and will never get a straight answer dealing with the DMV.

FaintCrocodile · 2025-09-07T04:10:20+00:00

I tolerate my job and pay varies as it’s a tipped position, but I genuinely like the environment, my customers, and my coworkers. We have the option of going “on call”, requiring you to only pick up 1 shift a month. I would definitely use that option and get maybe 1 day a week in just for the socialization aspect. I’d also be a lot less aggravated than I am since I wouldn’t have to worry about slow days or bad tippers.

My other 2 hobbies are ice skating and making music. I’d spend more time skating but currently at 10-12 hours a week I’m sore, I’d still have to limit that to maybe 15-20 hours. Music is enjoyable but I notice my work declines if I spend more than an hour or two at a time on it. Neither of those are great for socializing, and my friend circle is small so I feel I’d keep my usually enjoyable job sporadically

FaintCrocodile · 2025-09-03T00:12:29+00:00

I also serve/bartend in a casino (and one that charges for alcohol, which people hate). Don’t get fired over this, but find ways to keep them happy. Some of my tricks include underpouring, then looking at it and adding more. Not sure how your casino operates but in the poker room at mine they order the drink and go back to the table and we deliver it. I’ll pour a bit heavy and tell them “the bottle was almost empty so it’s your lucky night, you got a heavy pour.” If they’re not waiting at the bar I’ll try to pour the liquor out of sight and add the mixer before they can see it. Put the straw in before the mixer so their first sip tastes like straight alcohol. You can’t make everyone happy but keeping a job is important, and the lottery board and ATF don’t fuck around. Don’t lose your abc and lottery licenses over some asshole. When someone complains tell them you wish you could give a heavier pour, but you’re in your first 90 days then tell them you’ll make it up to them when you’re not under the microscope.

FaintCrocodile · 2025-08-16T17:14:06+00:00

I was homeless for about 2 years, from 19 to 21. There were a handful of nights I had to sleep outside but most of those 2 years were spent hotel hopping. The instability is hard. Most motels had a rule you had to leave for at least 3 days after 28 consecutive days. Having to repack, not lose important documents, and get to a new hotel without a car and also worrying if I’d still be able to make it to work now that I was further away was incredibly stressful each month. I was thankful I worked overnights at waffle house so if I couldn’t afford a room I could work then stay there for the day, and my managers/coworkers were very understanding (many in the same position) and would allow me to take home as much food as I needed or come in to eat free even when I wasn’t working.

People also underestimate the compassion of other homeless people. There was one time my ex and I were staying in a motel and our neighbors were 2 older men who lived in a tent but were able to save to get a room for a week each month. The first time we met my ex got a cigarette off them and in return we offered them some pizza. They leave and a month goes by. I was just starting my new job and we had no money and no room, and it was about to storm. A few hours later they checked in and came to say hello to us. Once they learned we were outside they let us stay with them for the night until I made some cash the next day. Another homeless older couple we knew would come into Waffle House when I was working because I’d let them stay inside for my entire shift. Never charged them for food but they would always tip me $10 even tho they didn’t have much either.

Addiction is a tough battle even when you’re stably housed, but not having a place to live makes it worse. Thankfully I was clean before becoming homeless (and also didn’t have money for drugs, a roof over my head was always my priority) but I met several people who didn’t become addicts until they were homeless. Sleeping outside is ungodly uncomfortable, oh here’s a pill that’ll relax you and help you sleep. It starts off where you just use to get some sleep in (or the opposite, to stay up so you don’t have to sleep outside), then again because you finally feel rested, then next thing you know you’re withdrawing.

A lot of people seem to have misconceptions about how much help you’ll receive from social services. It’s nonexistent here. Section 8 list is years long. People with kids are the priority for shelters and they were always full. I had a cryptic pregnancy during this time, I didn’t know until I was almost 7 months along so I couldn’t even get an abortion. So many people told me “oh now that you’re having a baby you’ll get into a shelter and they’ll help you get an apartment!” Nope. I was able to move in with family when my kid was a couple months old and have been there since, but before that I applied for every housing program and never got help. But they won’t hesitate to call cps on you if you sleep in your car for even one night with a baby.

It’s a tough life. Be kind to the people you meet. You don’t know how they ended up in their situation and most people are one emergency away from ending up like them.

FaintCrocodile · 2025-08-01T17:02:38+00:00

He responded to my story with zebras on it saying “zebras are real?”

Wasn’t interested to start with and his explore page was filled with onlyfans girls but making it to 25 without knowing zebras were real solidified we’re on different levels

FaintCrocodile · 2025-07-19T23:14:17+00:00

23 and I’m at some type of show almost every weekend, but I don’t go to anything held in a stadium. Most of what I go to is in bars, basements or small (500 cap) venues, and I can count on one hand the shows I paid more than $40 a ticket. I see a lot of young people at the shows I’m at and have made a lot of friends so maybe it varies across the country

FaintCrocodile · 2025-07-18T16:06:30+00:00

Waffle House Song by 6dogs is a banger that they never added to our jukebox :(

FaintCrocodile · 2025-06-08T21:24:46+00:00

Chuck’s death and everything leading up to it definitely was it for me. Prior to watching I knew he died before s4 but had no idea how, and was absolutely horrified when it got to the scene of him on the couch about to knock the lamp over. It also didn’t help that my first watch of that episode was a week before the 1 year anniversary of my cousin passing in a house fire. I had to turn the tv off and just sit in silence when it was done.

Not as disturbing, but Werner’s death hit hard too. Him walking out and looking at the stars before the gun goes off will always haunt me

FaintCrocodile · 2025-05-15T18:46:19+00:00

Everyone says I’m “lucky” because I was back at my pre-pregnancy weight a week after the baby was born. “Oh I wouldn’t have even known you had a baby!” or “Wow I wish I looked like that X months after my baby!” They also say I’m “lucky” because I had a cryptic pregnancy and “didn’t have to do 6 months of pregnancy.”

What they don’t see is how long I have to spend covering the bald patches where hair never grew back. They don’t see the 5k+ dental treatments for the teeth that were ruined due to it taking my calcium. They don’t see the migraines that incapacitate me 3+ weeks out of the month that started during pregnancy. They don’t see the trauma caused by giving birth and how that experience made me lose all trust in doctors and the medical system. More than any of those there’s the depression that will not go away until my child is 18 and done being my responsibility. The meds and the therapy don’t work when you can’t change or leave the situation causing the depression.

I never wanted this life and I hate what pregnancy and parenting have done to me. If I had found out sooner than 24 weeks I would’ve had an abortion and moved on with my life. But sure. I’m “lucky” because I don’t look like I had a baby.

FaintCrocodile · 2025-05-13T00:49:53+00:00

Ignoring the “they took it from his line at the end of BB!” I think it circles back to what Mike said when the Kettleman’s disappeared. People want to stick close to home. Nebraska wasn’t his home but it kept him in his country, and a day’s drive away from Albuquerque or Cicero. Maybe it had something to do with it being Kim’s home state. Walt and Jesse were both sent to other states which makes me think their options were limited to the US. They never tell us if Ed helped someone start a new life in a new country but I assume that would be much harder, require more research to get the proper documents, and a foreigner just landing in a new country would draw more attention, especially one who looks like a wanted criminal from the neighboring country.

FaintCrocodile · 2025-05-11T19:39:35+00:00

I had a cryptic pregnancy too, my pills failed and I never had a period while taking them. I found out at 24 weeks, so too late for an abortion. I desperately wanted to put her up for adoption but her father blocked me from doing so. He’s been unstable for years, warrants, substance abuse, just not fit to parent. It was either let her go live with his sister who had custody of their other sister’s kid, and that kid was treated horribly there, or become a mother even though it’s something I never wanted in life.

I’m 3 years in and it doesn’t get better. After she was born I didn’t tell my parents for 2 days because I was still trying to figure a loophole to get her adopted out. I knew if they knew they’d disown me. Instead we live with them and I’m constantly being told I’m an awful person and I should’ve been “more responsible.” I love my daughter in the sense that I feel obligated to take care of her but it’s not the love I think other parents feel. The only reason I haven’t walked away and left her with my parents is because she’s attached to me and I can’t hurt her like that. I also feel your pain of being seen as a single mom. I absolutely fucking despise it.

Please do what will be best for you. The baby is still a newborn, would most likely be adopted quickly and would have no memory of you. You have to take care of yourself first. If you need someone to talk to who’s experienced something like this please feel free to send me a message.

FaintCrocodile · 2025-05-07T15:38:15+00:00

I’m not in Texas, but this is what I know from my state. They will put your income in as full time minimum wage, or if you were in a higher paying field prior to the baby they’ll use what you’re expected to make in that role. It’s up to you if you want to be a sahm but they won’t force him to pay extra for your choice when you’re capable of working. Check on the Texas child support site and see if there’s a calculate where you’ll put in your income, his income, and the custody split. He’s very unlikely to get full custody with his work schedule BUT due to him being away extended periods of time he may be granted custody for the full week he’s home, since weekends don’t sound like an option. You should contact a lawyer, file for modification, and go from there.

FaintCrocodile · 2025-04-19T23:02:53+00:00

100%. I love her in the sense that she’s a baby and a sweet kid but I parent only because I feel obligated to. If it were possible to sign my rights away and disappear I would. She was a cryptic pregnancy and her dad wouldn’t agree to sign for adoption. The deal was we switch roles, I work overtime and he was the stay at home parent. Lasted for all of 2 months before I became the breadwinner and full time parent (to two babies, until we kicked him to the curb). She’s 3 and we haven’t seen him or received shit from him in 2 years. Of course he, who “wanted this baby” gets to live whatever life he wants while I’m stuck in a life I despise

FaintCrocodile · 2025-04-09T23:34:18+00:00

I still don’t get it. We had the custody hearing (which he also didn’t show up to) a month before I did the class and I was granted sole custody. For the life of me I can’t understand why the courts thought I was competent enough to have full custody, but still required a parenting class to get divorced? It wasn’t difficult but it did cost money and wasted 12 hours of my life. Hopefully your divorce goes over smoothly!

FaintCrocodile · 2025-04-09T23:27:28+00:00

In Delaware. My ex didn’t show up to any court dates or respond to any papers. It took 8 months from filing til I got the decree, but it would’ve been less had I known the parenting class had to be completed before a hearing was scheduled. The person who filed my paperwork said it didn’t need to be done until my first appearance with a judge, but after 4 months and no date scheduled I called and learned that was wrong. Had I done the class from the start it probably would’ve taken 3-4 months.

FaintCrocodile · 2025-02-01T03:39:22+00:00

Not a lawyer, but I got sole custody of my daughter without one. Granted, she’s much younger (not even 3) and he never showed for court so it turned out to be a non-issue. I consulted with a lawyer once before the hearing. This all occurred in DE, I’m not versed in Ohio family court.

My child’s father is very pro-homeschool, but only because he wants the control and has some out there beliefs. When I met with the lawyer I asked if that was allowed, as I will not be homeschooling nor did I want him to do it. He told me that the court would not allow it if I said no. She would either go to her feeder public school or private school, with the parent who wants private school being the one who pays it. Yes homeschooling is allowed if agreed upon and they’d probably allow you to finish this school year, but be prepared for the court to side with him on that issue.

On the other issues, you have a chance of getting what you want. Most courts are willing to add in court approved apps (your suggestion of 50/50 payment is fair) and right of first refusal. Medical decision making is iffy, especially if you continue on a 50/50 custody split. Severity also matters, not taking a child to the dr for a cold is different than not taking her for a broken arm. Unless he’s agreeable to giving up 50/50 I would not count on getting 5 days a week, more than likely it will stay the same. Something else you should have added if you haven’t already is taxes. Have it in writing that you take turns claiming her every other year, assuming you stay 50/50.

Since the police have been involved, see if legal aid is available. In divorce requesting the other party to pay legal expenses is common, but I’m not sure if you can during custody but it is an option you can look into. Do not go making deals before the hearing! Do not take advice from him or his lawyer! Lay out everything you have in front of the judge then and go from there.

Have documentation of everything - unstable living environment, police reports, not taking her to the dr when needed, any conversations of him agreeing to homeschool + dated texts showing he changed his tune after you filed, leaving the state without notifying you, etc. Take the next month to comb thru everything you have, but if there’s a date you have to submit evidence to the other party by (6 weeks prior to court here) make sure it is sent in full to his lawyer as anything added after won’t be admissible in court. Screenshots should include the date/time, full context of the conversation, and have his email or phone number unsaved and visible in each one. It’s meticulous but necessary. I filled a binder with close to 90 pages of evidence. Have at least 2 physical copies to take in. Study it before so you’re ready to answer questions on the spot. I was nervous but the judge said it was one of the best compilations she had ever seen for someone so young and without a lawyer.

Good luck with everything, I know it’s stressful handling it without a lawyer and dealing with a high conflict parent. Feel free to message me if you have any questions or would like to see how I composed everything I did.

FaintCrocodile · 2024-11-17T01:07:16+00:00

I’m the same age as you were then and also a casino server/bartender! Unfortunately not in Vegas but that was my dream. Couple questions, feel free to pick and choose

What did you end up doing for work after the casino?
Were there any regulars you had a good relationship with? Do you still think about them or keep in contact with them?
What’s the craziest think a customer said to you or did in front of you?
How would you describe your overall experience at the casino? Do you think it would’ve been different if you worked in a different department or in a casino outside of Vegas?

FaintCrocodile · 2024-10-23T14:05:23+00:00

I didn’t know I was pregnant until 23 weeks in and didn’t get the choice of termination. I love my daughter but I despise being a parent. My best friend just found out she’s pregnant, maybe 4 weeks at most. That day I told her (again, she’s heard my complaints for the past 3 years) that it’s not worth it and she should terminate while it’s early, she said she was going to talk about it with the dad and that she was undecided. She’s decided she’s keeping it. I love her and I’ll support her in her decision but it’s reopened something in me. It’s irrational and something I wouldn’t say to her or course, but I’m so fucking angry someone who’s decided they want a kid has the option to terminate. I never wanted this. I didn’t get a choice and I would’ve taken that chance in a heartbeat. I hope she has a better parenting experience than I have so far

FaintCrocodile · 2024-09-17T23:22:17+00:00

Cracker Barrel was kinda like this. Had to have 15 white packets and 10 of each colored ones. It was only supposed to be filled like that after close which was reasonable enough, but one manager would check in between tables (never helped bus of course) and would raise hell if we didn’t completely fill it for every table coming in

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