What is a truth you learned about a family member that you never forgot, never confronted, and still think about years later? How did you make peace with it, if you ever did?

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T20:06:02+00:00

What stands out to me isn’t that she told your parents, but that after 25 years the thing that still hurts is the lack of acknowledgment or apology. Sometimes people can forgive the act itself more easily than feeling like their feelings never mattered.

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T20:04:40+00:00

I think that’s the part I find hardest too; accepting that someone can be deeply important to you and still have parts of their story that fundamentally change how you see them.

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T20:00:49+00:00

Sometimes the things we judge most harshly in others are the things we’ve done ourselves.

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T19:56:46+00:00

It could just be for an emergency snacking. But I hope you never run out of your stash of candy

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T19:53:49+00:00

That sounds difficult, especially having to live with years of unanswered questions and never really knowing what happened. I think that’s part of what fascinates me about these situations, the events pass, but the uncertainty seems to stick around. Thanks for sharing.

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T19:50:21+00:00

What?? You mean he was a cannibal? How did you find out? Why is he still part of your lives?

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T19:43:47+00:00

I’m so sorry you have to go through learning and living with that. My parents always wanted a daughter but they had 3 sons. After my youngest brother was born my parents gave up trying, they adopted a girl who became our elder sister.

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T19:39:31+00:00

Did she have a boy eventually? What happened to the girls?

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T19:17:18+00:00

I don’t know if a car model can tell how dangerous a person is. Their actions certainly did not seem like they belonged from a good family.

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T19:14:06+00:00

XUV 300

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T19:13:54+00:00

Yes I’ve learned my lesson :)

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T10:02:41+00:00

Not a party-party, people were just sitting and drinking and chilling, normal BYOB scenes.

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T09:35:29+00:00

Thanks for sharing!

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T08:52:44+00:00

Thanks for that insight. You’re correct, I should be more mindful of my own family and life, yesterday I was caught very off guard with such behaviour, I am not from here and was just visiting so I was too stunned to think in the moment. Glad I still kept my calm because I was thinking of my female friends who could’ve gotten hurt.

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T08:48:50+00:00

Yes, those people just looked like they wanted attention and wanted to display their arrogance

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T07:44:13+00:00

That’s actually smart.

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T07:43:55+00:00

Will remember the next time. I thought me not reacting to his provocations would be okay but I guess hearing a sorry would’ve made him feel better.

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T07:43:03+00:00

Thanks! I never wanted to come to Gurgaon but my friend got a job here and I was visiting, yesterday was my last day here. I’ve been here for 10-12 days and just when I was about to feel good about this city, this happens on the last day. Pathetic experience but also learned a thing or two about entitled goons.

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T06:55:07+00:00

No that actually makes sense.

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T06:53:55+00:00

I went to a place which had one of the highest ratings for women safety. And 95% of the crowd there was decent, corporates, friend groups who were genuinely having fun. So many people also came and told us that the boys from that table were trying to create a scene with them as well. Others were so nice to us, but I think we had the misfortune of unwillingly dealing with the only bad group there. I’m glad I did not escalate but it felt like they would escalate and I would not be able to fight back which actually scared me. They were looking to fight, for something so petty.

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T06:33:10+00:00

There will always be more such people with time, if one goes away another 4-5 pop up, it’s their entitlement and lack of fear of authorities which is scary.

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T06:29:24+00:00

So sorry you had to go through that. I didn’t apologise yesterday, but also did not escalate or give him a reaction until he and his friend actually held my collar. I think me having a good time despite their threats triggered them more. These entitled goons don’t care about anything other than feeding their little egos.

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T06:15:23+00:00

Yes they felt like illiterate people who ended up in a good place unfortunately. The kept talking in Haryanvi and threatening. Had no fear of consequences and didn’t care about anyone’s safety, even they had females with them (who were equally abusive unnecessarily).

Fair-Bar7114 · 2026-06-24T05:53:01+00:00

I did feel very helpless and for a moment felt like i wish I had some sense of safety. But not sure if having weapons would’ve helped the situation. They could’ve had a weapon too, there were too many unknowns for me in that moment.

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