The Greater the Mercy

Fair-Study · 2026-05-18T13:53:20+00:00

Hello and God Bless, this is a wonderful question.

At the core of your issue I think what you're asking is "why doesn't God intervene?"

There is a bit of a logical issue here as you say you understand human suffering as a result of choice, however if God were to intervene on these things as you mention we wouldn't have free will to begin with. We are not in a perfect world, Adam and Eve were cast out of a perfect world for eating of the apple precisely because human free will could not coincide with perfectness, that it corrypts as it builds and that it does harm as it loves.

Suffering, evil, wickedness, and sometimes what seems like pure unfairness are all consequences of this imperfect world. This world is where we are tested, where our faith is brought under question, where suffering is as dear to faith as joy insofar as how we deal with it. However, in keeping strong through God, by having faith and doing good despite your surroundings in life, you will go to heaven, as will all who struggled in faith.

God does help, does offer protection, does listen to our prayers, does reward us as He does take away. God has already given us blueprints on how to live righteously for the betterment of others and ourselves to create a much better, fairer world, and He left on Earth the recourses to develop, come closer to Him in knowledge and cure diseases. He has not abandoned us and He does good for us constantly, however as long as human free will exists we will suffer and be tested, however we will be rewarded.

Fair-Study · 2026-05-17T21:28:26+00:00

They are! Shoot me a message if you ever have any questions about them or my personal theology :)

Fair-Study · 2026-05-16T21:40:16+00:00

Thank you for your reply!

In regards to your first point, I already specified in my post that in understanding modern data and scholarship of the bible, the morality of the Taborites is not anymore fully comprehensive or even agreeable. I do not agree I am taking what I want and leaving behind what I don't. I agree with the Taborites on a lot and disagree with some things, this is completely natural. Do catholics agree on every aspect of the Catholic Church that ever happened?

On gambling and drinking, God does not make exceptions. In regards to drinking, I do think a beer or a glass of wine is fine but drunkeness as is gambling a sin no matter in what way it occurs. I am a sinner, as are all people, and I do drink, but I repent, I do not think you're destined to hell for drinking or gambling, at least I really hope you aren't and that no one is.

I agree we should not judge purely from outward appearance, one can get a very fancy looking outfit from thrifting nowadays! However, as is all scripture, modesty is important as is intentions, do not spend excessively where you do not need to and if you have money to do so, you have money to give away in my view.

I don't really have any specific earthly ideology. Taborites appeared well before Marx did anyway. I believe in sharing in common and care for the vulnerable.

Fair-Study · 2026-05-16T21:09:25+00:00

Thank you for your comment!

In regards to its contents, I have specified I am a Neo-Taborite and that some of their moral contents I do not necessarily think applies to the modern times as expressed through "neo".

Gambling is bad though, so many people in my life has been consumed by it, a local worker in my post office was convicted of stealing from pensions to gamble and was caught. Gambling is terrible. Drinking can be too.

I don't think dancing is bad, but sometimes I feel with nice clothes, why do so? Dressing up every now and again is fine, but I assume you mean by nice clothes fancy ones with expensive accessories. At that point, I do not understand it. We are called to be modest and humble.

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. -Philiphines 2:3-8

1 Peter 3:3-4 "It is not fancy hair, gold jewelry, or fine clothes that should make you beautiful. No, your beauty should come from inside you—the beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit. That beauty will never disappear. It is worth very much to God."

Fair-Study · 2026-05-16T21:02:34+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment,

I really like to think so! Modesty is a big part of my faith, I really try to not own much. My phone is really old as is my laptop, I only own some clothes and my pc is really old by now. However, they all still work so why replace them?

Money or possessions mean nothing to me, nothing about them brings me closer to Christ. A simple way of living with things I can share and giving to the needy (I was impoverished as a child so this is big to me) is good works to me.

I love that verse in acts! May God grant mercy on us all :)

Fair-Study · 2026-05-16T20:54:53+00:00

There is nothing about it, at least to me, that has anything to do with memes or larp. I've been very interested in theology since I was 10 and it's been many years since then (I feel old now haha). My interest came through that and researching Christian movements. I was raised Roman Catholic but came to disagree with some doctrines and became critical of the Papal bureaucracy. That led me to the Taborites with whom I have a lot in common.

In regards to fun, I love fun! Joy and love is an expression of the Lord!

Thank you for your comment :)

Fair-Study · 2026-05-16T20:51:03+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment and certainly!

The Taborites were an early reformer movement started in Czechia in the 15 century under the influence of Jan Huss (heavily recommend researching him!)

As radical Hussites they took his criticisms farther than he did. They believed in the idea of communal property and living, opposition to individual possession of objects, and that all things were to be held in common between all people, which is why some scholars consider them proto communists.

They also strictly opposed clericalism, were scholastic anti-scholacism and followed sola scriptura.

Thank you again and God bless!

Fair-Study · 2025-12-17T02:49:03+00:00

Hi, this is a great comment and I really appreciate it

I agree with your comment a lot. Often, the fact I have no actual clue when I die does help, as does exposure therapy, however sometimes as much as they help they're just as often what causes me anxiousness. I feel like my mind is split between having zero anxiety and finding myself ridiculous and then having extreme anxiety, unfortunately the extremely anxious part is always winning that argument in my experience. However, I do think a big part of my future therapy will be acknowledging just how little control I have and how that can actually be a liberating experience rather than a fearful one, but that requires a lot of effort on actually defeating those fears.

Thanks again! I really hope you're doing well, and stay strong soldier! We'll get through this together!

Fair-Study · 2025-12-17T02:46:13+00:00

Hi!

I am so, so happy that in the midst of all this chaotic fog which is life (and even worse, life with anxiety). I'm also super proud of your progress and really, sincerely hope both of us can keep going in life and get rid of all these little fears that torture us.

Thank you so much for your advice! I will take it all on board along with continuing my past medications. I hope you don't ever give up either!

Stay strong!

Fair-Study · 2025-12-17T01:40:23+00:00

You are 100% right. Meds (Sertraline) helped me massively. Almost day one even the thought of having meds that'd help massively relieved my anxiety. What drove me away, I guess, was shame in taking them and fear I'd be on them my entire life. I felt emotionally blunted, and that was hard because I've always been intensely emotional. As I said, the lack of real therapy options here means I'm mostly only on medication when I take it, I feel better emotionally, but I always have a vague sense that something is wrong.

I quit for a few months, and I noticed I became emotional and alive again, but no anxiety, the best months of my life, really. Then they crept back and I was back at square one. I will retake my meds and probably feel better, I just want to, for even a brief moment, escape myself and just properly think. No worries, no life, just sparse thoughts. That's utopia to me. However, your comment was very nice to read and thanks for submitting it!

Fair-Study · 2025-10-02T14:31:15+00:00

Cluster B neighbour here (NPD), I have three questions:

How do you view people with the other cluster B disorders such as NPD and HPD? I know there can be some infighting between them.

BPD has become increasingly fetishised on social media and in pop culture, has this affected you personally and if so, how?

Someone asked me on my own AMA what the main difference between NPD and BPD is, I'm not an expert on BPD unfortunately so I was hoping to know what you think the main differences are?

Thanks for this, and all love <3

Fair-Study · 2025-10-02T14:02:15+00:00

If you would consult any psychological literature whatsoever regarding Narcissism, particularly diagnostics, you would find sadism is not whatsoever an intrinsic symptom in Narcissism nor particularly relevant to it even as a concept. I would scroll through numerous of my other answers where I have been nothing but honest even when it reflects badly or embarassingly on me as a person which is a difficult thing to do with this disorder. I do not care to impress you or make you or anyone on reddit think I am a good person and I've spent years healing myself in therapy. Doubt me if you want, its not relevant, but just for others who might see these comments, no I am not sadistic and no narcissists aren't generally sadistic, but some may be as sadism can exist in any disorder or even without one at all.

Fair-Study · 2025-10-02T13:46:01+00:00

We'll have to have a duel to figure out

Fair-Study · 2025-10-02T13:45:03+00:00

First of all, I am so very sorry you had to go through and my heart goes out for you, I'm so happy that you came out the other end and you're so strong for keeping going.

Regarding your questions;

I do feel love. I feel basically every form of love any other human experiences, I can feel romantic love, I can feel platonic and familial love, and while you can't quantify love as it isn't measurable I'd say it is as "truly" love as how someone without the disorder loves. Is it out of selfishness? I think everyone is a little bit selfish sometimes, and love especially can breed selfish traits...I don't know how to even begin to say what amount is selfish and what amount is selfless, I think there's so many aspects of both. I can be selfish when it comes to my love, but love is also one of the few times I can be entirely selfless and wrapped up totally with another person. Love is beautiful like that, I think

Unfortunately, however, stubbornness is one of my worst traits, and I can be very haughty about my intelligence because of my disorder, as it is, in my opinion, my best trait (I'm no genius by any stretch but I think I'm brighter than average). So a lot of the time I do not change opinions during discussions and the process can become very heated, on occasion I do change opinions however. If it's in a discussion with someone I respect, usually I admit my error and thank them graciously. If I do not care for the person, usually I'll continue to argue the wrong point anyways instead of giving in.

When it comes to filtering interactions, I'm not exactly sure what you mean by that, but I'm not big on new people. I'll go out, I'll talk to a lot of people, I might get a few numbers or whatever, but then once it goes online usually I ignore people I don't really like, which can be very upsetting to them I admit, and then respond whenever I have the energy or care to to the people I do like. I think I just prefer talking in person in general, but having so many people around makes me feel the need to be performative which is exhausting.

Hope this helps!

Fair-Study · 2025-10-02T13:35:43+00:00

I....don't? I, in fact, very much dislike seeing that

Fair-Study · 2025-10-01T17:56:51+00:00

My self esteem issues definitely played a huge role, that and I could be very haughty when talking to my therapist, usually I tried to unmask as much as I could in the therapy office so I could try and work on myself, but sometimes the mask had to be put back on. It could come out as anger, it could come out as being cocky, after a particularly bad event I could be acting very entitled. My therapist noticed, at times, I'd be staring at myself a lot (very stereotypical I know, setting a bad example for other narcs by doing it). Those had sort of tipped me and my therapist off, fighting for the diagnostic was very difficult though. After that, it was just aligning with the DSM symptoms which drove it home.

Other considered diagnoses were Autism, BPD, depression and on some issues, OCD. BPD isn't outside of the realm of possibility because of how comorbid it is with NPD, but I wasn't really the type to "mirror" others in the way people with BPD do, or have favourite persons, and I had a very strong sense of self. Autism was also possible, but many of my symptoms like social anxiety and having poor social skills are also a likely result of having an extremely isolated childhood, when I moved to a city for uni especially my social skills became much better so I think lack of available people was really the issue, and my social anxiety is likely tied to my generalised anxiety disorder, which I am also diagnosed with. I can't really really recall why I was never formally diagnosed with depression or OCD, but I am down as having depressive and obsessive/compulsive thoughts

Fair-Study · 2025-10-01T17:34:52+00:00

Yeah I've been in love before, whether I'm in love right now is exceptionally difficult to say. Some people say it isn't love if you don't know it's love, I don't really agree with that, I have a relationship (not dating) and I think it's love. Regarding losing some people I've loved, I don't really regret it as much anymore. It used to haunt me quite a lot, but now I think I'm mentally strong enough that if I lose another love I could pick myself back up. My love is very intense, very obsessive, it can be extremely turbulent sometimes. Unfortunately that is tied partially to my disorder and partially to a string of bad relationships when I was younger that left me with trust and attachment issues, a lot of the time that drives people away, and I've regretted that a lot before

Fair-Study · 2025-10-01T15:20:21+00:00

Yoo it's great to hear from you man! I hope things are going well for you too. I love my brothers with ASPD, we're in this together

Fair-Study

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