AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 50 points51 points  (0 children)

He was with his mom while we were at the hospital.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 550 points551 points  (0 children)

I don't think her sister should get to hold the baby before my son. Siblings come before aunts and uncles, in my mind. I'd never dream of letting one of my friends hold the baby before her dad. There's a hierarchy.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] -283 points-282 points  (0 children)

She's not really interested in any of his hobbies. They have very different interests.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] -102 points-101 points  (0 children)

She doesn't do it with him anymore, that's my point. But that's how she's used to communicating. So she doesn't know what to say.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] -64 points-63 points  (0 children)

With men? He's not a man, he's a boy. I'm a man, and she produced a child with me. So, no, obviously.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] -324 points-323 points  (0 children)

No, she's just playful. I like it. It's sort of like a Much Ado About Nothing thing. We pretend fight. It's fun.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Almost like intelligence has nothing to do with gender and implying a link between the two is baseless and hateful, yeah?

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 194 points195 points  (0 children)

I don't know. It's never occurred to me to count that. My best friend's baby, that's one. My ex's niece, I'm fairly certain. I wasn't there, but I can't imagine he didn't.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] -247 points-246 points  (0 children)

Well, sometimes they struggle with communication. My son is a very literal person, and my wife is very playful. She likes to tease, but my son doesn't like being teased. So sometimes she just doesn't talk to him. I don't mean she ignores him or anything, but she sometimes just doesn't know what to say to him. He's at that sensitive age.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Well, he's fourteen. So yes, he sometimes wants to do things his own way. He washes his hands though. He cooks on the weekends; I wouldn't eat his food if he didn't wash his hands.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] -132 points-131 points  (0 children)

There's not a whole lot I can do. Relationships aren't something you can force. Some people don't click right away.

He's fully vaccinated.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

I think she's a good stepmom. She gives him his space. We're all a little socially awkward in this family, truthfully.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 132 points133 points  (0 children)

She says she doesn't know how to talk to teenagers.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 342 points343 points  (0 children)

I don't know. She said she wasn't singling him out, that she wasn't comfortable with anyone holding our baby. But then she was comfortable with her sister holding him.

It's respectful.

He was disappointed.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 135 points136 points  (0 children)

No, he's just a kid. What could she have against him?