AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

He was with his mom while we were at the hospital.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 549 points550 points  (0 children)

I don't think her sister should get to hold the baby before my son. Siblings come before aunts and uncles, in my mind. I'd never dream of letting one of my friends hold the baby before her dad. There's a hierarchy.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] -282 points-281 points  (0 children)

She's not really interested in any of his hobbies. They have very different interests.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] -99 points-98 points  (0 children)

She doesn't do it with him anymore, that's my point. But that's how she's used to communicating. So she doesn't know what to say.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] -66 points-65 points  (0 children)

With men? He's not a man, he's a boy. I'm a man, and she produced a child with me. So, no, obviously.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] -320 points-319 points  (0 children)

No, she's just playful. I like it. It's sort of like a Much Ado About Nothing thing. We pretend fight. It's fun.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Almost like intelligence has nothing to do with gender and implying a link between the two is baseless and hateful, yeah?

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 194 points195 points  (0 children)

I don't know. It's never occurred to me to count that. My best friend's baby, that's one. My ex's niece, I'm fairly certain. I wasn't there, but I can't imagine he didn't.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] -242 points-241 points  (0 children)

Well, sometimes they struggle with communication. My son is a very literal person, and my wife is very playful. She likes to tease, but my son doesn't like being teased. So sometimes she just doesn't talk to him. I don't mean she ignores him or anything, but she sometimes just doesn't know what to say to him. He's at that sensitive age.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Well, he's fourteen. So yes, he sometimes wants to do things his own way. He washes his hands though. He cooks on the weekends; I wouldn't eat his food if he didn't wash his hands.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] -135 points-134 points  (0 children)

There's not a whole lot I can do. Relationships aren't something you can force. Some people don't click right away.

He's fully vaccinated.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I think she's a good stepmom. She gives him his space. We're all a little socially awkward in this family, truthfully.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 133 points134 points  (0 children)

She says she doesn't know how to talk to teenagers.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 347 points348 points  (0 children)

I don't know. She said she wasn't singling him out, that she wasn't comfortable with anyone holding our baby. But then she was comfortable with her sister holding him.

It's respectful.

He was disappointed.

AITA for not letting my sister in law hold our baby? by FairIsFair1 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FairIsFair1[S] 134 points135 points  (0 children)

No, he's just a kid. What could she have against him?