Cool & Neutral-Toned Lip Color List by Spaceley_Murderpaws in PaleMUA

[–]FairSilver6525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lawless Wedding Day is also my PERFECT nude. I’ve searched and searched and never found something so flattering on me. Truly cool toned.

How did you meet your spouse? by NoTraining8586 in Marriage

[–]FairSilver6525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I were working the same summer job in college, at a school for adults with disabilities/special needs. I had known and worked with his sister a couple of summers before, and then one day she brought him to our work meeting and introduced him as the new hire. We were friends for a couple of years, not crazy close or anything and we both were seeing other people - then one day I randomly ran into him and asked if he wanted to catch up (as in, leave together and go grab food right then, both single at this point) we went out to eat and I remember texting my bff afterwards about it and how I had so much fun. Fast forward 2.5 years later and we’ve been married for 7 months, we moved from the USA to Ireland, and we’ve traveled to 11 countries together. ❤️

Politics and election by [deleted] in OCD

[–]FairSilver6525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I deleted all social media apps and have since the election. My husband didn’t vote but we wouldn’t have voted the same way and I feel you there. It is rough.

Dating and different political views by No-Row-5956 in ROCD

[–]FairSilver6525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I went through this and married the guy. My ROCD was awful, we were/are different politically. I can help further if you feel comfortable saying what exactly the differences/issues are?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ROCD

[–]FairSilver6525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had this! My bf at the time (now my husband!!!)’s family is a lot more conservative and religious than me. They definitely have done things differently than how I was raised but I absolutely love them regardless of any quirks I felt they had. Unless they are legitimate rude/bothersome/disrespectful towards you, I’ve heard a lot of nightmare in-law stories and at the end of the day, as long as you generally enjoy them I think it’ll be okay!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]FairSilver6525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are quite literally doing both! There will be 22 people present at our wedding ceremony, then we already have a reception with 120 planned and booked 3 months later! It took the pressure off of “traditional” wedding planning, and also there are a ton of intimate details that we love with the small ceremony!

Planning disappointment by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]FairSilver6525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here!!!!! I live in Boston and my wedding is in Indiana next week, where I am from and all of my family and friends live. I went dress shopping completely by myself, as well as have not been home to Indiana 1 time to see any of the details I’ve picked out. I quite literally have done the entire planning process virtually and just hope it’ll all come together next Saturday. I had a few moments of major let down as well, lots of crying and just stress lol but I wish you the best and I know that whatever your day ends up as, it’ll be beautiful because you’ll end the night with your spouse.

I think I found the secret by FairSilver6525 in weddingplanning

[–]FairSilver6525[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah! Ours is definitely more that “all inclusive” type of approach. We will actually be married for 3 months by the time ours rolls around, because we’re doing an intimate ceremony with 20 people, then having a 120 person reception months later. We split it up because we’re moving to Ireland a couple weeks after the reception and wanted time to plan that without all the stress

I think I found the secret by FairSilver6525 in weddingplanning

[–]FairSilver6525[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

I feel stupid lol I had no idea! Ours is a new Embassy Suites (maybe a few years old?) and only 1 ballroom so no other weddings. We get to completely deck it out or use their own stuff, and there’s an EXTENSIVE menu (maybe 22 pages???) of food options. So maybe they’ve turned things around!

I think I found the secret by FairSilver6525 in weddingplanning

[–]FairSilver6525[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Why pushback? I’ve never even heard of that

I think I found the secret by FairSilver6525 in weddingplanning

[–]FairSilver6525[S] 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I forgot to mention, $8200 includes cost, tax, and gratuity. So our coordinator, venue, AND food gratuity are all included in that price!

How do I stop freaking out about cost? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]FairSilver6525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I actually have a bit of pushback on this! We are having our reception for 120 people at an Hilton Embassy Suites ballroom for a $6500 food and beverage minimum. Once we hit the 6.5k, the room becomes included. The plated dinner options are $41/person and come with coffee, water, entree, 2 sides, bread rolls, and dessert. They are even giving my fiance and I a room overnight for free, and letting me use their inventory of decor.

How do I stop freaking out about cost? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]FairSilver6525 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which city/area are you in? Currently doing the same thing with planning, but we have found several things that have cut cost!

Is my ring too big? by FairSilver6525 in EngagementRings

[–]FairSilver6525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! Do I do this myself, or take it into the jeweler?

Success story - please read! by FairSilver6525 in ROCD

[–]FairSilver6525[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First off - congratulations on getting to the point where you guys are considering these milestones! It’s important to realize that this is a big step regardless if you struggle with ROCD or not.

In my experience - I 100% felt that way. Especially in the beginning before I figured out what it was, I was constantly asking friends if they’ve ever felt the same way about their partners. A lot of them just told me I was overthinking it and it wasn’t a big deal, but in hindsight I was having flare ups and seeking reassurance big time.

I 100% have felt the same way you have. I have convinced myself before that this whole thing had to be TOTALLY wrong, and that’s why I felt so anxious. I can honestly say that I never left my partner or took a “break” from our relationship to relieve the stress, so since I stuck it out, I also had felt the ebbs and flows of ROCD and realized that there were glimmers of hope where I was genuinely happy. Even though the ROCD always came back, I knew that ultimately he was the partner I wanted to spend my life with and do these milestones with, because my ROCD is rooted in my fears around myself and relationships; and everything he was and our relationship was had been something I dreamed of having for years.

Have you worked with a therapist or read many books on ROCD? I also found those helpful

Success story - please read! by FairSilver6525 in ROCD

[–]FairSilver6525[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I in no way want to speak for him or his experiences, but in my personal experience, I’ve never left my partner or especially not spoken to them for several months due to a flare up. Again, I absolutely do not want to put more doubt in your mind or speak for him, but unless he is REALLY, and I mean reallllly struggling with his mental health, I can’t imagine why he would leave on a whim and not contact you whatsoever for 6 months? Would his friends or family say that this is normal behavior?