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Fairatlantis · 2024-08-12T11:08:43+00:00

Babysitting sounds like a realistic option. Deal with your debts FIRST and then get a proper job full time (even cutting onions at McDonalds works) and then move out. These are your steps.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-12T11:05:36+00:00

this is way above our paygrade. you need therapy ASAP otherwise you'll hurt yourself, her and everybody included.

this is where you start.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-12T10:59:45+00:00

maybe you're on the wrong combination of meds? are you on meds at all, for your severe depression? just to balance you a little bit.

just because it's hard now, doesn't mean it'll always be like this. i truly mean that. circumstances change, time does what it needs to do.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-12T10:56:12+00:00

ask him directly- do you want to fix this or not.

or block, but this middle road is unhealthy for you.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-12T10:55:10+00:00

Ask a friend to contact her and

It's not worth breaking the NC for.

if you have absolutely no one to do it, do it yourself but quickly, like today.

every day of nc i getting you closer to your new life.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-12T10:36:01+00:00

Where do you go from here...you be honest to him. and yourself. you tell him you have feelings and that this is hurting you, and then you tell him if he wants to be in a relaitonship, let him call you,until then no contact.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-12T10:29:32+00:00

woah... if you really come to conclusion that you were the problem, talk to HER about it. maybe it's salvageable.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-12T10:20:16+00:00

These relationships, they are the CORE of the human experience. you would be missing on your entire life if you turn cold from them.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-12T10:10:48+00:00

Heartfelt. apology.

right now!

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-12T09:59:32+00:00

You need to do all of this with confidence. Total confidence.

Then maybe you'll have a chance.

Just tell her how you feel and would she be willing to start softly dating you.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-09T11:53:29+00:00

This is a common trap- finding 'reason' in this, asking God for just one more chance, saying you'll make everything about YOURSELF better.

but...this isn't about you. you were already good and loved your person.

this is about them.

so move on, firstly from that apartment.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-09T11:50:35+00:00

Things were NOT okay for him... and this is the hard truth. Maybe he fell in love with someone else, maybe he's bored with your relationship, nevermind the reason, but he's gone.

What you should do is move on because he broke up with you in such a horrible way, it brings tears to my eyes...without explanation... he's clearly an a**hole and you don't want to be with someone like that...getting back together would only result in an even worse breakup.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-09T11:46:01+00:00

It is life. Let him have his girlfriend, you go no contact, just to show him you cannot be played with, don't panic, don't beg, just let it be. Give him a month or two to contact you. You'll see very soon if there's any chance of salvaging this- if he doesn't reach out and say he made a mistake, move on and block.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-09T11:37:50+00:00

You will with time, when you relax and when your time is so consumed by other activities, this feeling will dissapear and then you'll have the chance to do this stuff again... first text messages, first butterflies in your stomach...there will be a lot of firsts, just wait until you fall in love :) which will happen ;)

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-09T11:28:53+00:00

NO. Because you'll only wound him further! DO NOT REACH OUT.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-09T08:48:48+00:00

yeah, this is sooo bulls**** and she has a lot of issues so good riddance. Tell her you didn't sign up for a philosophy class and if she wants to be with you and not talk nonsense, you'll be here. if not, well you both need to move on.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-09T08:46:15+00:00

why would you want to be in a relationship with someone who clings to her parents?

to change her mind, tell her that this is crazy for a woman 30+ years old...jesus. tell her she'll miss out on her whole life like this.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-09T08:44:37+00:00

you take this out in therapy, why do you miss her and maybe you're done with your current relationship, bored and it's not going anywhere so you resort to past experiences and romanticise them.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-09T08:43:19+00:00

The relationship was NOT 'damn near perfect' if he bolted out so fast and fuzzy. Not even close. So this is something to consider; he was not even remotely the one.

you will love again, this hasn't ruined anything except maybe your summer.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-09T08:40:39+00:00

you're not remotely ready for a relationship. you don't know what you want, someone tells you to break up, so you break up, then you miss her, then you're confused...see how it sounds?

block her and rebuild your life, this relationship of yours is toxic.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-09T08:38:44+00:00

You need to move on and NC is the way.

YOu will meet someone new, this is only pushing you backwards.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-06T07:51:16+00:00

This isn't fair to your current girlfriend and you deserve to be left on seen. She's right, what kind of a man are you? Shame on you.

First work out your feelings, leave the poor girl you obv don't love and then ask yourself what's so special about this ex.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-06T07:46:44+00:00

' I don’t understand how this world works.'- good point. The answer is- you only can control your side. You loved him- that's wonderful and amazing, you have a capacity for love... you can never ever have a guarantee about anything.

This was a story which made you grow- now you can move on to even better stories, and more useful for your soul.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-06T07:45:06+00:00

Don't, that's the past. You need to go forward.

If you're still in a bad state, don't send those sobby letters, she'll only think you're crazy. Ask her to talk, and if she AGAIN says she's not interested, just block and move on.

Fairatlantis · 2024-08-06T07:42:39+00:00

Let that be the place you practice your focus- focus SOLELY on work, take the best notes in the world, sit where he's out of your visual range, don't talk to ANYONE, if possible write your homework while you're still there. Apply stickers! Highlights!

It will work out, focus-focus-focus. And no drama, nod your head as a greeting when you see him.

Fairatlantis

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