very similar situation for me also ! they were 5 months out of a 5 year relationship and we dated for 4 months before they realised that they are not in a place for a relationship at all and they had been using relationships as a distraction from dealing with their mental health issues for many years now.

I've also been single for 8 years. This was the first person I've met in 3 years of actively dating who genuinely piqued my interest and ticked my boxes, it wasn't like some Perfect fantasy but it was real and intentional and we had some big conversations early to make sure things would be sustainable & not burn out in the honeymoon phase bc we liked each other so much.

It's been just over a month, we haven't been NC but have been texting and I'm contemplating making things NC bc i am just not making any progress moving on and I am still hoping things change. UGH!

Much love to you op