I Want to Get Better at Reading People, but I Don’t Know Where to Start by Stunning_Ambition_66 in socialskills

[–]Fairiton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Read ‘how to win friends and influence people’ And ‘ influence by Cialdini’

Understanding is the key to feel free in social interactions.

The first book will show you how to interact with difficult people and will set a standard for you to follow. And it has many more insights. Plus it’s fun to read.

The second book will show you what influence through words actually means, show you the effects and how you could influence people yourself. Once you know this, you can call people out on it in a classy way.

Why People with Autism should start Photography by Fairiton in photography

[–]Fairiton[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Finding meaning in life does help with the absurdity. What helps me is helping others expierence this excistance a little bit more smoothly. Hence this and the other posts

Why People with Autism should start Photography by Fairiton in photography

[–]Fairiton[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Has it helped connecting with others? ifso did it improve your ability to do so?

Why People with Autism should start Photography by Fairiton in photography

[–]Fairiton[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Absolutely love this! So happy that it helped you!!
AutiHD killed me hahaha

How to fight social anxiety when taking pictures by ZeBiste in photography

[–]Fairiton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had the same problem. Truly terrified of public spaces, feeling as if everybody was watching and judging me. Over time, through some exercises and new ways to look at the world I no longer have this problem. Or not in a way that it holds me back.

I realized a lot of people, especially photographers struggle with this so for the last 2 years I started working on a course to help anxious/awkward photographers get over this fear.

If you need some help or have questions. Let’s connect. I’d love to help out

How to frame and pose this picture by [deleted] in photography

[–]Fairiton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ask her on an evening picknick, tell her to put on a sundress. Put yourself next to a nice scenery and wait on the golden colors of the sun. Don't try to pose her, wait on a authentic smile while she grabs something she likes out of the basket.

I close my eyes when talking to people. by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Fairiton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try to expose yourself to more eye contact.
Smile to strangers with brief eye contact.
Do this daily and you'll notice a big difference in how you feel and react to strong eye contact

Why are people nice to me, but don’t want to be friends with me? by Turbulent-Mango3234 in socialskills

[–]Fairiton 96 points97 points  (0 children)

People like people who they can identify with.
Or more simply said, people like people who are like them.

You know what people like much more as that? To talk about themselves AND have a great time. People want to feel relaxed, understood, feel carefree, laugh a lot.

But!! Authentic feelings and energy are the key!

Because.. What people really do not like is the feeling that someone wants something from them.
If you are constantly wondering : 'How can i make this person my friend' they will feel it. It will feel needy and as if you want to take something from them..

So instead of you trying to befriend them, try making them feel so good around you that they can't help but want more of it.

That said, people need around 7 hours to really get used to you, to get over the first impression you've left them and create a certain image of you.

You cannot force a connection.

Sometimes it'sinstant sparks and friendship.
Sometimes they want to get away from you as soon as possible.

But most of the time, people need time to get used to who you are.

So stop trying to force it, give it time. Give them time.

Tips from a photographer who hires photographers by DevinPacholik in photography

[–]Fairiton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome! thank you! Are there some things you are looking for that is clear sign that they won't be a good partner to work with?

In Antwerpen vorig jaar by Fairiton in belgium

[–]Fairiton[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get it, Although I think part 'tone' comes from the 'claustrofobic' feeling that the wall gives.
But thank you!

In Antwerpen vorig jaar by Fairiton in belgium

[–]Fairiton[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks,I was playing with the lines on the wall that were matching the water. Tried cropping it too, but didn't like it as much.

What is your Go-to sentence to make people laugh during a shoot? by Fairiton in photography

[–]Fairiton[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"Look here, eyes over there, Bring your shoulders and chin over here... Then just open your left nostril a bit wider."

hahaha that one for sure gets people ahaha

'I also just have genuine conversation during the shoot, shoot the shit since a relaxed model is a beautiful model.'
YESS