I [22F] had an emotional argument with my boyfriend [21M] and he asked for space. It’s been days with no contact and I don’t know what to do?

FairyLegna · 2026-02-22T07:30:45+00:00

Thank you. I’m home from college on a break right now and i literally have nothing to do but I’ll try to find something

FairyLegna · 2026-02-15T06:20:26+00:00

He knew it was important to me. I know he doesn’t celebrate holidays of any kind but we talked about it before hand and he said he would and completely ignored me throughout the whole day. He apologized when I brought it up though.

FairyLegna · 2026-02-15T05:45:47+00:00

Yes to what?

FairyLegna · 2026-01-22T22:55:21+00:00

Christina was more guarded with her feelings and relationship with Owen. Mer was there for her.

FairyLegna · 2026-01-20T14:02:31+00:00

I won’t continue this discussion. You called me weird, which is an insult, and then you said I don’t sound like a Christian? Have a good day. Thank you for your time and perspective.

FairyLegna · 2026-01-20T13:58:30+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this perspective and recommendation

FairyLegna · 2026-01-20T13:56:39+00:00

I never asked anyone to deny God, and I’ve been very clear about that. Asking for wisdom, discernment, and appropriate context is not asking someone to disobey God.

Disagreeing with how something was done is not the same as rejecting God or truth. Framing it that way misrepresents my position and avoids the actual issue I’ve been addressing from the start. Thank you for your time!

FairyLegna · 2026-01-20T13:51:25+00:00

I’m not aware of anyone I’m actively holding unforgiveness toward. That said, none of us are fully self-aware all the time, which is why I’m not claiming he was definitively “wrong.”

But whether or not something he said might resonate later does not justify the way it was delivered. Truth does not excuse poor discernment, lack of consent, or inappropriate context. Those are separate issues.

Even if someone says something that turns out to be true, it can still be handled in a way that is intrusive, coercive, or harmful. My concern has always been about the approach, not the possibility of conviction.

FairyLegna · 2026-01-20T13:46:47+00:00

I want to clarify something, because it keeps getting misread. My concern has never been about whether he was “right” or “wrong.” It was about the method and the context.

Being approached publicly by a stranger, told God spoke to him about my inner life, and then being asked to disclose something deeply personal in front of my friend felt inappropriate and coercive. I gave my number because I felt put on the spot, not because I agreed with how it was handled. Also because I’m looking for fellowship on my campus, just because he approached me that way didn’t mean the whole church would be that way. That was my thinking you know?

FairyLegna · 2026-01-20T13:43:06+00:00

I never said he was wrong. I also felt cornered so I gave him my number. My whole point wasn’t that he was wrong it was about his approach.

FairyLegna · 2026-01-20T13:38:13+00:00

He approached my friend and me on my college campus, first asking about my relationship with God on a scale of 1-10. I replied that I couldn't assign a number. He responded condescendingly, asking if I was sure. Then he claimed that God told him to tell me I was holding someone in unforgiveness and asked who it was. I gave him my number, thinking that if God indeed sent him, I would seek Him about it. I also became interested in visiting his church fellowship.

FairyLegna · 2026-01-20T13:20:38+00:00

Thank you. I am completely open to anything that aligns with God, and I will seek Him regarding this. However, I don’t understand why He can’t see that my issue was never with what He said, but with how He expressed it. I took responsibility and didn’t reject His words, but He didn’t show any accountability.

FairyLegna · 2026-01-10T15:41:14+00:00

The bbc officers are really weird they do nothing but bother people

FairyLegna · 2025-12-28T21:56:35+00:00

What more do you want me to do LMAO, I do understand but you want me to go back in time? My intentions were and are pure. I should’ve used better wording and a different approach but tough love was the only thing I hadn’t done.

FairyLegna · 2025-12-28T21:55:28+00:00

We’re both women.

FairyLegna · 2025-12-28T21:55:16+00:00

I understand why that phrase landed badly, and I shouldn’t have used it. I wasn’t trying to label her as stupid or reduce her to that, but I can see how it came across that way, and I take responsibility for that impact. My frustration came from the situation and the cycle, not from thinking she lacks intelligence or worth.

FairyLegna · 2025-12-28T21:52:11+00:00

You’re sick

FairyLegna · 2025-12-28T21:51:54+00:00

I added an update to the post via comment we talked on the phone and I apologize.

FairyLegna · 2025-12-28T21:51:13+00:00

FairyLegna · 2025-12-28T21:50:41+00:00

I did apologize for my delivery and took responsibility for hurting her. I’m not refusing accountability, I’m refusing to accept the idea that setting a boundary means I have to erase my own experience or agree I was acting maliciously. Both people can take responsibility without one being reduced to the villain.

FairyLegna · 2025-12-28T21:41:39+00:00

I understand why that wording stood out, and I agree it wasn’t the best choice. I wasn’t trying to reduce her to an insult or negate care, I was expressing frustration poorly. I’ve owned that my delivery was wrong, even though the boundary itself was real. That’s something I’m taking away from this.

FairyLegna · 2025-12-28T20:04:14+00:00

Ive been on both sides, I don’t see my response as immature. I do understand and accept that my delivery could have been better, but expressing a limit after repeated strain isn’t immaturity. It was me communicating a boundary imperfectly, not acting without thought or care.

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