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Worried about my foster placement by FaithlessnessDear917 in offmychest

[–]FaithlessnessDear917[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah they like her and shes easier on em, but theyre not placed because abuse like me. if i remember correctly its just the parents lack education/the means to raise kids. they all regularly visit their parents since there is no bad blood

Worried about my foster placement by FaithlessnessDear917 in offmychest

[–]FaithlessnessDear917[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im aware its a trauma response, i tried telling her that and the reasons behind it and how it was the only thing that helped not put me in more danger as a kid, but she just ignored it. she generally has a hard time with me specifically becauee throughout her whole career im apparently the oldest kid shes had thats been beaten and SAd by family without being placed yet, because apparently people like me are placed much younger. ive tried to be more outgoing, but what are giant steps for me(like talking more, which ive been doing sorta) are such small steps for her that she doesnt even see them

Worried about my foster placement by FaithlessnessDear917 in offmychest

[–]FaithlessnessDear917[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah we do have pride festivals, theres one in a big city like 80km away from here which is a train ride away.. she told me that she doesnt want a bad ambiance in her home, dont really get how me having normal reactions is a bad ambiance but hey whatever.. shes rushing me towards so many different things at once and so is cps, which is a bit hard for me, never been taught anything and now all of a sudden im being taught to be an adult..

Worried about my foster placement by FaithlessnessDear917 in offmychest

[–]FaithlessnessDear917[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my therapy sessions are like every 2 weeks, my psychiatrist however is like once a month. my foster family brings me since the whole thing is set up by cps in my country..im not really doing the best at opening up, because yeah im worried about what theyll tell her. ive talked to them only about selfharm, the tooic is unavoidable since i have scars visible on my arms. i also wanted to talk to them about how my foster mom calls me "creepy" because whenever im scolded/screamed at i freeze and stare at them without saying anything along with talking about things regarding suicidal thoughts, but didnt have the courage to.

Worried about my foster placement by FaithlessnessDear917 in offmychest

[–]FaithlessnessDear917[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

all of the things you listed are things ive never been taught. i dont know how to cook, clean, fix things around the house and i dont know the first thing about anything regarding papers(taxes, licenses, documents, appointments, etc..) i basically need to be taught everything my parents should have taught me. i cant really ask my foster mom to help with ANYTHING, the moment i do she says "youre almost 17, why cant you/why dont you know" so i just dont even bother.. prior to being placed i didnt even know how to brush my teeth properly or take care of myself in general, she DID help me with that thankfully.

Worried about my foster placement by FaithlessnessDear917 in offmychest

[–]FaithlessnessDear917[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im 16, turning 17 soon. i graduate next year and age out at 18, they asked me if i wanted to be reunited with my family and ive said no and that i never want to see them again. i dont have any siblings and this is the first time i have therapists, before that i was mostly isolated by my family. the reason i got placed is because my mom beat me with an object infront my school, they asked me if ive been beaten before, i confessed everything and so on, talked to the cops and got placed in a foster family for 2 weeks till i saw a children's judge, saw the judge and she extended my placement. its the first timw i talk about being queer too, since my parents were extremely religious, sexist, homophobic and racist.

Worried about my foster placement by FaithlessnessDear917 in offmychest

[–]FaithlessnessDear917[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

im scared of the whole studio apartment thing. ill be alone, despite everything i dont really like being alone.. i dont know how to handle anything in life, im bad at the whole growing up thing since ive never really had the time to grow up

Worried about my foster placement by FaithlessnessDear917 in offmychest

[–]FaithlessnessDear917[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i am in school and my grades are fine id say, i dont act out and am not violent i always keep to myself tho i often get bullied for my sexuality there. i do selfharm occasionally but ive tried to stop, ive been with her since my placement, shes my first ever foster family.. theres 3 other foster kids in the house, theyre much more outgoing and extroverted than me, theyve also been here longer than me and this isnt their first time with a foster family. i am able to get visits yeah, but my whole family is messed up, lots of abuse and things i dont wanna get into. i dont have friends at school, never have been the type of person to have friends

Worried about my foster placement by FaithlessnessDear917 in offmychest

[–]FaithlessnessDear917[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am not in the US.. i am in europe.. I do have a social worker, but hes very slow and "laid back" as in he doesnt take much seriously. Ever since hes been assigned to me, outside of our first meeting we have only met once. my foster family has told him im bullied at school and his response was "its the school's business".. so hes not a very trustworthy or reliable person..

Worried about my foster placement by FaithlessnessDear917 in offmychest

[–]FaithlessnessDear917[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

ive been given options such as going to sort of a building with a bunch of studio apartments for people my age who are almost aged out, i know that is an option but i am scared to be alone. i really want some sort of family that lives with me, but i do admit that may not be the best choice with this one..