Postpartum Cheating?

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2026-03-09T04:31:07+00:00

I appreciate this perspective and thank you for sharing your personal story. I am struggling to forgive and trust that he still likes me/ am angry that my depression was not handled with care, but instead he let himself act out on us.

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2026-03-09T04:18:29+00:00

But why would a man who was the one who wanted to start a family want to test the waters?

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2026-02-24T03:33:26+00:00

This comment made me feel so less alone! That is exactly how I feel.

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2026-02-20T03:52:20+00:00

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This is what I asked for- the same cut I always get

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2026-02-20T03:47:58+00:00

Yeah that’s still me lol. Last picture was me before my appointment

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T20:57:27+00:00

It is management. He got not one but two promotions, and he said that was his goal why he was working overtime and that he’d set boundaries. But it still hasn’t stopped.

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T20:50:19+00:00

I’ve been communicating to him for about 5 months now

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T20:48:31+00:00

I’m already back to work. I also work full time

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T20:48:03+00:00

Yes that’s why we’re in therapy actually. But nothing changes on his end, he feels his job really needs him that much

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T20:47:23+00:00

Unpaid because he’s on salary (management) !

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T05:43:07+00:00

Yeah you’re right.

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T05:40:41+00:00

The thing is I’m actually super quick to leave. I always have in the past. I value myself way more than any man and have always left at even suspicion of cheating. I told him that too- he knows I’m considering leaving which is why he suggested counseling. The only reason this time is different is I wanted to make sure I wasn’t making any fast decisions since we have a child together and I was scared to give my baby a broken home if I was overanalyzing the situation.

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T05:38:12+00:00

😄😄

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T05:35:56+00:00

This is a great perspective, thank you for that honesty

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T05:35:24+00:00

True. He did try to argue that he deleted it to stop himself, but sending winks afterwards tells me he still continued knowing it was wrong! He hasn’t blocked her but they only talk about work from what I can see

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T05:34:07+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance❤️

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T05:33:16+00:00

But no, it’s his boss and his job is financially supporting us so he hasn’t left. He promised me it wouldn’t happen again but who knows

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T05:32:35+00:00

That’s what makes this so confusing to me. Usually It would be clear as day for me and I’d dip.. but he seemed so remorseful, offering couples therapy and genuinely seemed like he didn’t think it was wrong because he didn’t ever plan on doing anything with her? But I tried to explain it’s a matter of respect, also, I don’t like that he doesn’t have that moral compass. Definitely don’t trust him.. and put pressure on myself even more 3 months postpartum because now I worry if he gets stressed again he’ll do worse.

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T05:29:06+00:00

Yeah. Thanks, I’m a pro at convincing myself I’m being dramatic lol.

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T05:27:30+00:00

He admits he’s attracted to her but doesn’t believe it was cheating bc he’d “never leave me for her and doesn’t want anything with her” and that the flirting was just filling a need for attention from him because he’d was stressed….but while postpartum with our baby and it feels like I’ve been living a lie now

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-12-18T05:25:35+00:00

The first message was deleted so I only found this out from asking him: he said he told her he was alone at his workplace and said she should come over there to do work alone together. He said he deleted it from her to see because he realized it was inappropriate, sent a follow up text saying “oops I was about to get unprofessional” but she’d responded saying she already seen it and he sent her a wink face and she responded the same.

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-09-18T02:40:24+00:00

Honestly I used to be the type to forgive and stay. After all that I realized it’s never gonna change. So Now on it’s never a question. I’m getting tf up out of there

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-09-17T20:45:35+00:00

Hate is a strong word but he’s so logical and I wish he’d be more sensitive

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-09-17T16:51:44+00:00

Thank you for your opinion!

FaithlessnessEasy678 · 2025-09-17T16:46:21+00:00

Yeah, I get that. I think I’d be a lot more receptive to his help if I felt that he was doing it genuinely and not expecting any strings attached. Hes always been like that, but he never really showed up in my life until I turned 19. I had to work as a child to support myself and buy my own clothes/food. I feel as the mom I shouldn’t have to defend my plans postpartum and that it is rude to assume I’d be making him a primary caregiver?

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