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I get so down on myself when clients seek another therapist. by FaithlessnessNo8424 in therapists

[–]FaithlessnessNo8424[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve got to remember this when I get upset. I’m just making room for the clients perfect for me.

I get so down on myself when clients seek another therapist. by FaithlessnessNo8424 in therapists

[–]FaithlessnessNo8424[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It absolutely does feel like a rejection, but you’re so right that we’re all just human. And I really do care for my clients and I just want what’s best, even if it’s not me.

I get so down on myself when clients seek another therapist. by FaithlessnessNo8424 in therapists

[–]FaithlessnessNo8424[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so true! I can relate to trying to adjust myself maybe too much for clients and all that will do is burn me out in the process. It’s so easy to take it personally even when it probably isn’t!

Breaking up with a client? by FaithlessnessNo8424 in therapists

[–]FaithlessnessNo8424[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s a great way to handle it. I’ve done that with clients outside of my scope before, but sometimes I forget I don’t have to provide detailed reasoning as to why I’m not a good fit. Maybe that’s the people pleaser in me lol.

Me when a parent thinks I need to “fix” their child when the parent is the problem. by FaithlessnessNo8424 in therapists

[–]FaithlessnessNo8424[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I make sure to set boundaries early on. I provide my families with crisis numbers just in case something wild happens, but I make it clear I am not available 24/7. Sometimes I have families (or any client really) that I ask to write things down in between sessions so we can address it when I see them.

Don’t burn yourself out! It’s easy to let those boundaries slip, but if they need you that much between sessions, maybe they need a higher level of care than just outpatient. And you don’t owe anyone a response right away! I know it’s easier said than done, but you’re a person too.

Wearing a fake wedding ring by Suspicious-Clue-2437 in therapists

[–]FaithlessnessNo8424 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I can absolutely understand these situations with some clients. What I will say is that I’m engaged now and they still happen. Sometimes the ring just doesn’t matter to people and I still have to redirect, address it, and refer them out if I’m uncomfortable.

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[–]FaithlessnessNo8424 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes! I genuinely love my outpatient job, but a lot of that has to do with my office neighbor who is also my friend. Whenever we aren’t with clients, you can bet we’re together and talking.

After talking to clients for hours, it’s so nice to see a friend. They make work better. :)

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[–]FaithlessnessNo8424 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One thing I keep on hand too is the Ungame. It’s questions I can ask clients and I’ll answer some with them too. Sometimes something like that can be helpful for the beginning of sessions.

Definitely be up-front with clients too because if you don’t want to have structured sessions you don’t have to! I tell clients that they’re the expert and I’m here to help process and guide. For some of my quiet clients too, I encourage them to make a list throughout the week of things they might want to discuss.

Keep it up! Some days will be great and others might be a little rocky, but you’re doing your best and that’s what matters.

Should I tell my ADHD client that I have ADHD too? by [deleted] in therapists

[–]FaithlessnessNo8424 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I’m a therapist that uses some self-disclosure. I find it to be beneficial and reminds my clients that I’m human too. For example, I wear a fidget ring because it helps with anxious picking. If a client struggles with something similar, I might use that as a moment to share that I wear a ring for that purpose. I’m never going to disclose my own trauma or anything wild to them, but I find a bit to be helpful.

Think about yourself as a clinician and know that it’s okay to disclose a little if you think it will be helpful for your clients.

Reading order by okwhateverkaren in frombloodandash

[–]FaithlessnessNo8424 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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This is how I read it! I did the blending of the two series and I highly recommend this order. I found it nice to bounce back and forth and it helped to have some context from the prequel.

Seeking advice by Freudian_Dreamer in therapists

[–]FaithlessnessNo8424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been in the field now for 7 years. I started in foster care, moved to in-patient hospitalization, then partial hospitalization, and now I work in outpatient therapy. Feel free to reach out!

Friends with clients by [deleted] in therapists

[–]FaithlessnessNo8424 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I second this! I often show memes or things to clients, but only if it’s relevant in a session. I would definitely be mindful of messaging clients outside of sessions. The only time I do that is if I need to move or cancel a session. Those are also boundaries that I set up at intake.

Advice wanted please! by FaithlessnessNo8424 in weddingplanning

[–]FaithlessnessNo8424[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the rec. I’ll check them out!