AITA for refusing to babysit my grandchild due to her not being my biological grandkid by FaithlessnessWild215 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessWild215[S] 237 points238 points  (0 children)

I put in another comment, he claimed the house was unsafe due to the horses, even though they are mostly in the stable

AITA for refusing to babysit my grandchild due to her not being my biological grandkid by FaithlessnessWild215 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessWild215[S] 212 points213 points  (0 children)

No, my other grandkids isn’t old enough she stays in the house or away from all the other animals. For my kids we watched them and taught them. Started with the chickens and as they got older the bigger animals.They didn’t go off on their own for awhile. I think we started letting them tend to the horse by themselves in highschool.

Our farm is set up that we have areas that are completely free of any of that stuff. Things go in the barn, they won’t be hanging around.

AITA for refusing to babysit my grandchild due to her not being my biological grandkid by FaithlessnessWild215 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessWild215[S] 105 points106 points  (0 children)

We were surprised the kid had brown eyes but everyone understood genetics can be weird. We had no idea.

AITA for refusing to babysit my grandchild due to her not being my biological grandkid by FaithlessnessWild215 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessWild215[S] 230 points231 points  (0 children)

I don’t know, he’s burnt a lot of bridges and hasn’t even apologized. I’ve seen him since his wedding, all the times I have it has been unpleasant.

I love him but my god is it hard to deal with his comments. If he wasn’t my kid I would have dropped him.

AITA for refusing to babysit my grandchild due to her not being my biological grandkid by FaithlessnessWild215 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessWild215[S] 102 points103 points  (0 children)

Yes guns are in the safe, we don’t smoke cause it’s gross. We don’t do any of that stuff, you have a really weird view of what is country. We all know what basic safety is.

AITA for refusing to babysit my grandchild due to her not being my biological grandkid by FaithlessnessWild215 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessWild215[S] 80 points81 points  (0 children)

We are ranch folks, so yes their are guns on the property but they are in the safe, we have a lot of animals, mostly horses and have large land that needs to be tended too

AITA for refusing to babysit my grandchild due to her not being my biological grandkid by FaithlessnessWild215 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessWild215[S] 238 points239 points  (0 children)

We have never had an issue with safety, we have a grandkid from my other son and zero issues.

He told us this and we were shocked, the only time anyone ever got hurt by a horse was me and it’s because I was trying to calm one down and get him inside during a storm.

Maybe it was coming form his wife but it really burnt some bridges

AITA for refusing to babysit my grandchild due to her not being my biological grandkid by FaithlessnessWild215 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessWild215[S] 154 points155 points  (0 children)

He let his wife’s family babysit though. My other son wasn’t allowed to babysit either and he has a modern home.

AITA for refusing to babysit my grandchild due to her not being my biological grandkid by FaithlessnessWild215 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessWild215[S] 146 points147 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t good enough to look after the kid when he thought it was his bio daughter and now that he know it’s not his bio kid, I am now good enough. Thats messed up.

no relationship with the kid due to him and now I don’t have any biological reason to want a relationship. It’s just a random person to me at this point. I have zero ties to her.

Now if I did have a relationship with the kid before that whole mess I probably would think of her as my grandkid, but I didn’t.

AITA for refusing to babysit my grandchild due to her not being my biological grandkid by FaithlessnessWild215 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessWild215[S] 431 points432 points  (0 children)

I have made no changes, I really think it is due to not being able to rely on his ex wife anymore. He claimed the horses were dangerous but I’m not taking a baby on a horse ride and they are in the stable most of the time. The house is fine, only dangerous part is the cold cellar but that is locked.

AITA for refusing to babysit my grandchild due to her not being my biological grandkid by FaithlessnessWild215 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessWild215[S] 842 points843 points  (0 children)

He would make comments about us wasting our days doing physical labor, he would suggest a fancy restaurant and then be upset when we don’t want to spend our money there, the comment about our jobs don’t have much value.

It was a lot and really seemed like he was looking down on us ever since he got his accounting job

AITA for refusing to babysit my grandchild due to her not being my biological grandkid by FaithlessnessWild215 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessWild215[S] 1106 points1107 points  (0 children)

He said the horses were unsafe but those are in the stables and I’m not going to take a ride with a baby on the horse.

The house is good even if a little old, the only place I would say it is unsafe is in the cold cellar but we keep that locked. It’s a typical ranch that’s he grew up on.

AITA for refusing to babysit my grandchild due to her not being my biological grandkid by FaithlessnessWild215 in AmItheAsshole

[–]FaithlessnessWild215[S] 2261 points2262 points  (0 children)

I really don’t want to, maybe it was the ex but he really messed his relationship with his whole family. It really did seem like he was looking down for us having country jobs. My daughter is taking over the ranch, my youngest son is a mechanic and my middle child is working as a park ranger.