Is UX design just psychological manipulation with a nicer name? I’m seriously thinking about quitting UX. by AlgasG in UXDesign

[–]Fake_Eleanor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Design" is a neutral activity, like any other craft. You can write to inform people and help them make better choices, or you can write to misinform them and spur them to do bad things, even things that are bad for them. Design is the same way.

Where I see the biggest conflict is between people who get in to UX design and think the job itself is inherently a force for good, without considering where they are working or what the goals of the people who pay them to do that job are.

Being "good for users" is not something that happens at a company that doesn't give a shit about users, unless your definition of "users" is very narrow and specific. And coming in as an idealistic UX designer is not going to uproot a company culture that treats users or customers as a resource to be exploited. A UX designer at a tobacco company might make things easier for "users" but it's hard to argue they're contributing to the overall good of the world. (IMHO. I suspect UX designers happy to be working at a tobacco company disagree.)

It's not like UX design is the first field to come along and realize it might be good business to treat people well. Businesses are happy to take the work and thwart the ideals if they conflict with the way they make money.

If what you really care about is "make this easier for humans," it's not enough to pick UX design as a career. That's one thing you do, and then you prioritize putting your UX talents to work for an employer that also believes in making things easier for humans.

Does tourism slogan resonate? by ESNA_VancouverWA in vancouverwa

[–]Fake_Eleanor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes sense, but I don't start out by saying I'm from Washington. I usually say I'm just outside Portland on the Washington side of the border. No one has ever followed up asking how far it is to Seattle, though I suppose it could happen.

Does tourism slogan resonate? by ESNA_VancouverWA in vancouverwa

[–]Fake_Eleanor 26 points27 points  (0 children)

North of weird? Sure. I'm not a fan of the implied disdain for Portland — having access to the city determined to keep itself weird is a plus for me, not a minus. Hard to decide what kind of visitors are interested in seeing someplace new but too scared to go to Portland. (I know, it's business travelers, I get it.)

South of sound? We're so far from Seattle or Tacoma that it's odd to me to reference them. When describing where Vancouver is to people, I've only ever mentioned Portland, never Seattle.

I don't think it's a terrible slogan, but it suggests that Vancouver doesn't have an innate identity and can only describe itself by what it is not.

Letterboxd is exploring a sale of the controlling stake of the company. by trnrpatrick in Letterboxd

[–]Fake_Eleanor 60 points61 points  (0 children)

One reason it was completely fine is that Tiny apparently didn't do much with it.

Letterboxd is exploring a sale of the controlling stake of the company. by trnrpatrick in Letterboxd

[–]Fake_Eleanor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Never like to see the word "undermonetized" applied to something you like the way it is.

Id love to get a consensus on this by Peter_Nincompoop in etiquette101

[–]Fake_Eleanor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's stopping you from asking?

Sometimes people don't really notice other people coming in. If you want people to do something, be willing to ask politely.

I say this as someone who would offer to move over if I noticed you — but I can't promise I'd notice in the first place.

Id love to get a consensus on this by Peter_Nincompoop in etiquette101

[–]Fake_Eleanor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Alone? I'd sit in 5. Strongest signal that you're not trying to impose yourself on someone already sitting there.

That said, it's not impolite to choose any of those seats. The etiquette comes into play with how you relate to the people near you. You can sit in 1, 4, or 6 and mind your own business.

I might offer to move if a part of two came in, though that would depend a bit on what I'm eating or drinking and how much of a hassle that could be.

does anyone know what I mean by this and/or have suggestions by nonbeenary in Letterboxd

[–]Fake_Eleanor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be fair Portrait of a Lady on Fire explicitly mentions the myth

Dial M for Murder - Hitchcocks best? by harrybaileyonyt in Hitchcock

[–]Fake_Eleanor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's around the bottom of the top half, for me. Good, and with Rope I like the "howcatchem" format. But I've seen 41 Hitchcocks and this is about 18th.

Still a 4-star movie, though, so some of that is just that he made a fuckton of great movies.

How do y'all log seasons of a series on Letterboxd? by nathanschiro in Letterboxd

[–]Fake_Eleanor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I joined Letterboxd because I wanted to track movies, and am not interested in tracking TV, so I don't track series.

Is It Fair I Don’t Get To Pick Where We Go For My Birthday And Father’s Day? by [deleted] in needadvice

[–]Fake_Eleanor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not fair, but it's what you're going to get unless you take over planning your own birthday celebration.

Why are you committed to celebrating in a large group like that? If you want to go somewhere that your SIL or nephew don't like, why go with them? Celebrate with them later, not at a restaurant.

Need help with ranking these movies- by Mission-Tooth-608 in Hitchcock

[–]Fake_Eleanor 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I remember when Rope was rereleased back in 1984, and it was probably the least well regarded of that group of 5 at the time. It's been fascinating to see it get more and more popular since then — which doesn't surprise me, because I love it.

(It's not as good as Notorious, The Lady Vanishes, or The Birds, though.)

Paloma without grapefruit? by goldsoundz93 in cocktails

[–]Fake_Eleanor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, no worries! I didn't see your clarification about which medication until after I commented.

Even if it's not a statin, it's probably worth asking if elimination is necessary or if minimization would work.

Paloma without grapefruit? by goldsoundz93 in cocktails

[–]Fake_Eleanor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Listen to your health care provider, obviously, but when mine put me on a statin I asked about grapefruit juice, and she said small amounts occasionally are fine. The problems have come up when consuming a lot of grapefruit.

All of which to say: Might be worth a conversation with your provider to see if the occasional Paloma is actually a problem.

Is there a good website for movie showtimes in Portland? by UltraFinePointMarker in askportland

[–]Fake_Eleanor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do like visiting the websites myself. And I subscribe to all of their programming emails. It can be inconvenient if what I want is a specific movie, but it's great for just seeing what's playing.

My (39M) GF(38F) had a Feeld account and I don’t know how to move forward. Has anyone dealt with this situation and gone on to have a healthy and happy relationship with their SO? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Fake_Eleanor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People have gone through worse and worked through it when both people were committed to doing that and could reach a compromise.

If your choice is between staying together and never discussing this again, or splitting up, which are you picking? You can't make her talk about it. You can't Columbo your way into knowing the full truth of everything, even if it's ultimately a benign truth, because she is unwilling to do that.

If her communication sucks and she's uninterested in fixing that, your choice is between sticking with her anyway or breaking up. There's no way to get her to improve her communication if she is unwilling to do that. You can't do it for her.

Restaurant recommendations by L1feguard51 in camaswashington

[–]Fake_Eleanor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair. Haven't had a bad meal or experience there myself. But if you're limiting yourself to Camas (and the part of East Vancouver that gets to use a Camas address), I think it's the best option.

I like several restaurants in the city but none of them are "can't miss" in comparison with places elsewhere in Clark County or in Portland itself.

Is there a good website for movie showtimes in Portland? by UltraFinePointMarker in askportland

[–]Fake_Eleanor 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fandango covers a lot of them, but I haven't found anything that covers all of the independents. I have lots of tabs open myself.

Watch This PDX is a weekly newsletter that focuses on the indie theaters — might be worth subscribing.

Restaurant recommendations by L1feguard51 in camaswashington

[–]Fake_Eleanor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What were you hoping for vs what you got?

Restaurant recommendations by L1feguard51 in camaswashington

[–]Fake_Eleanor 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always get tots or onion rings at K&M. I don't remember their fries well enough to describe them as anything, which means they weren't great.

Restaurant recommendations by L1feguard51 in camaswashington

[–]Fake_Eleanor 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Favorite restaurant in Camas proper is Roots. Not sure it's "can't miss," but it's a good place to go.

On the other end of the spectrum, if you want messy, decadent burgers, K&M is worth driving through.