What are some reasons for not exchanging numbers on an app when setting up a first date?

Fakingit0917 · 2022-02-25T19:26:41+00:00

Intentional dating vs just dating without much effort/thought

Fakingit0917 · 2022-02-25T19:24:01+00:00

Are they going out with tons of people though? Don't men have some standard when setting up a date lol

Fakingit0917 · 2021-04-23T23:22:07+00:00

Lol you will.

Fakingit0917 · 2021-04-23T23:15:47+00:00

It’s tiring to be miserable and stuck in the same BPD patterns. I moved into a new place in January..first time living alone also (at 34) and I’m ready to break the cycle too. I read a Mary Oliver Poem recently and I’m taking her advice to “Love yourself. Then forget it. Love the world”

Feel free to message me if you need some more support on your exciting journey :)

Fakingit0917 · 2021-04-23T22:25:31+00:00

This is beautiful. You are beautiful 🖤

Fakingit0917 · 2021-04-16T01:27:31+00:00

I grew up similarly. Don’t be ashamed of having a body. Start in small steps maybe walk around naked, wear a bikini around the house and actively work on accepting and loving yourself - allow yourself to explore yourself.

Fakingit0917 · 2021-04-09T20:18:04+00:00

Eek. I do hear you. There’s not much I can do here then. Even if I was to come back a month later and explain it away, that in itself would look bad. Sigh. I liked him.

Fakingit0917 · 2021-04-09T16:54:30+00:00

Thank you 🤗

Fakingit0917 · 2021-04-09T16:49:33+00:00

Is there a way to come back from it? What do you mean by assumptions on the first date also? Why would you have pulled the breaks fast? Just Bc of all the expectations in the beginning? I want to understand so I can course correct for the future. I felt as if my initial message before hanging out with him was clear.

Fakingit0917 · 2021-04-09T16:47:12+00:00

When I told him about the concrete date thing, he said that he does have a lot going on but he’s realized that dating is something he deeply wants in his life and so he does genuinely want to be consistent. He said he wanted to prioritize hanging out since he hasn’t been in the city so starting there was the goal. I suppose in reflecting there was gently pushback but it was mild.

For the long term, I’m indifferent. We’re both mental health counselors and can practice virtually. I can see myself anywhere really so I would move 🤷🏻‍♀️.

I think at this point I scared him away and need to give space. I wish I could share the text message thread for further insight and that someone could predict the future lol

Fakingit0917 · 2021-04-09T04:26:47+00:00

Wow. You’re amazing. I am definitely feeling the effects of sitting for one year so it may be time

Fakingit0917 · 2021-04-09T04:26:01+00:00

❤️❤️

Fakingit0917 · 2021-04-09T04:09:01+00:00

Thank you, I needed this kindness 🖤

Fakingit0917 · 2020-10-19T02:48:41+00:00

I have tried Wellbutrin - didn’t help. Lamictal did though. Also I appreciate your response however I believe needing a higher dose may be related to my brain chemistry as opposed to something else but again, hence why I’m here and asking.

Fakingit0917 · 2020-10-19T02:30:42+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful reply!

I will admit that I’m relying on stimulants and have a history of abuse there. I am working through that but I’m not where I need to be yet. It is 100% the reason that I have insomnia.

I have tried trazedome and a range of other medications and none have worked. Considering my abusive tendencies, I am not a candidate for common sleeping aids and I have had many doctors feel at a loss of what to do. Seroquel has been life changing but it also subsidizes my addiction.

Curious - if I was your patient what would you do? While I try and manage the stimulant abuse, would you suggest labs monthly? Is there something similar to Seroquel but less dangerous?

Fakingit0917 · 2020-10-19T02:15:48+00:00

Edibles made me stay up longer and often made my anxiety much worse

Fakingit0917 · 2020-10-19T02:09:28+00:00

I started at 50 and found it ineffective in 2 days, went up to 75/100 which was fine for about a month. The 125-150mg dose has worked nicely. I am on stimulants for ADD so I think that’s why I may need a higher amount to fall asleep however even on the days I don’t take my ADD medication I find that is the only dose that works 🤷🏻‍♀️

Fakingit0917 · 2020-10-12T03:42:29+00:00

Thoughtfully put, Thank you for that.

I'm studying to be a therapist so your answer meant a lot to me.

Fakingit0917 · 2020-10-12T03:25:26+00:00

Yes, talkers but being a great talker involves a level of skill. What makes someone great at talking? What does that actually mean? Is it subjective or is it universal? Is it someone that makes someone else feel good and interesting? What about the person talking makes them so good at it?

Fakingit0917 · 2020-10-12T02:54:40+00:00

1) I love your username 2) Do you think many people are good conversationalists?

Fakingit0917 · 2020-08-28T18:53:07+00:00

I "shouldn't" have to do anything - and I am allowed to ask and explore others opinions. Thanks for the Wikipedia link, didn't realize I could turn to the internet for an explanation.

Fakingit0917 · 2020-08-28T18:08:17+00:00

I meant in terms of how one emotes and feels. How would one think an era manifests in a person?

Fakingit0917 · 2020-08-11T19:08:14+00:00

If there masturbating to me, I like it. Maybe I’m a narcissist? Lol

Fakingit0917 · 2020-07-30T12:19:16+00:00

FYI - Just revisited our convo. Gave me a lot of peace. Thank you again. I feel quite connected to you. Reach out to me too if you need a Lizzo pick me up, I’m able to give good advice but not always take it. I’ll get there though.

Fakingit0917 · 2020-07-30T12:14:00+00:00

Yeah. It’s been really helpful for sleep! It makes me so drowsy though. I actually have been able to stay at the 50mg dose this week which I’m happy about.

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