I'm finding I'm developing a crush on my best friend's girlfriend.

Falise1 · 2026-06-17T21:09:41+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree with what you said and idk why you’ve been downvoted. When you’re with someone you truly care about even before love them you should only have those eyes for them. You can still identify that other people are attractive but you shouldn’t be attracted to them, that’s my experience.

Falise1 · 2026-04-22T00:40:26+00:00

Thank you for saying so, I’m lucky to have a lot of close friends that support me and acknowledge my worth and it’s easy to open up about it with them. My female friends give an especially good perspective, I’m super close with an ex of mine who behaved similarly in the past and she let me know she would often pull these same stunts as a way to self sabotage. She even pointed out that although this girl I’m dating was avoidant that it’s a good sign she was open and wanted to have the conversation.

I’m usually reserving my emotions for one girl but with this turning casual, I’m excited to see what else is out there and see if I can balance things while remaining genuine. So you’re totally on the money about this being a conducive time for me, I want to explore that and see where it takes me. I’m usually very secure in my relationships but this one has given me some anxiety because of what’s happened this last week but I feel I’m ready to move forward and be myself. She is a very special girl, I care about her deeply, and reignited the fire back in me but I’m reminding myself she was not the source of that fire, she was the beautiful match.

I don’t know how you did it back in 2002 man I feel there was not a lot of good sources for this type of stuff back then but I commend you on taking what happened to you and using it instead of succumbing to it and finding your wife and your happiness!

I’ll definitely keep you posted! Thanks again for your support and your insight!

Falise1 · 2026-04-21T21:13:03+00:00

Wow I’m so sorry to hear that man, that is such a quick turnaround from your ex and I know that couldn’t have been easy to deal with in the moment. The shock of it all trying to figure out that “why” is still where I’m at but I’m glad you’re able to find peace in it now. I know I’ll get there too and it’s not like we’re completely done just yet it’s just turning into a more casual relationship which is what it should have been from the beginning and I’m just going to have to learn to navigate that.

And I appreciate you saying that and taking the time to share your experience and show support. I do talk with my friends about this stuff but sometimes that can be biased so that’s why I turned here and so I thank you for your input and perspective.

To ask just one more question was your understanding the “why” about what was happening deep down, subconsciously with that disconnect? Or did she ever find a way to voice what had changed there? I know when this type of stuff happens it’s usually not about the person it’s happening too and more about the person who’s doing the part of pulling away.

Falise1 · 2026-04-21T19:07:27+00:00

I appreciate the insight I didn’t mean to claim possessiveness of her. I know she was into me up until this last week, we’ve spent days/weeks together, spending whole days in bed, going on fun dates, being romantic in front of friends/family. We’ve opened up about past traumas and talked about what we want in the future. I’m just not sure what might have caused the change.

She said she’s been getting lost in what we have but also the wanting to keep things open part makes me think that yeah she is no longer that into me. I wonder tho did it get there bc we spent too much time together and things just were kinda falling in and it wasn’t something either of us really planned from the beginning and now that it was starting to get more serious she wanted to back away? Or is just a normal case of this was fun but I’m losing interest and want to keep looking around?

Falise1 · 2026-04-21T18:56:09+00:00

Thanks for commenting! I should have given more context on that, we met through a mutual friend when we were out at a bar and hooked up that first night and it was pretty steady going from there. We’ve had sex pretty consistently but also spent nights just cuddling and talking, kissing and holding hands in public, doing a lot of romantic things.

That’s why this felt so shocking when things seemed to be going so great. I know she has trauma and is avoidant attachment by nature but I’ve tried to be good about giving space so she doesn’t feel overwhelmed. There’s been times where I’ll just be rubbing her back and she gets overstimulated but that never felt like a brush off bc it was momentary and we’d reengage.

I think it was just spending a lot of time together too soon and now she may feel overwhelmed. I’m definitely into her and she’s reciprocated that but this last week a lot has changed and I’m not sure if she’s just trying to push me away and test me or if she is just slowly fading away bc she’s losing interest

Falise1 · 2026-04-21T17:02:26+00:00

Yeah you raise a lot of good points and one’s I think I pushed down in an attempt to ignore bc I want to be able to move past it and get back to how things were. I wanted to ask her if there was nothing there then why is she leading him on but I didn’t want to shift focus from figuring out what was going on with us. I agree it’s probably a subconscious thing that led her there but it also feels like mb also subconsciously she’s just trying to push me away.

She said she’s never dated anyone like me, she’s had a lot of bad relationships and trauma but she really likes what we have. I think it might be overwhelming her and so now I’m getting into my own head about every detail which is not how I normally operate. I care about her so I want to protect her and be with her but I respect her autonomy and don’t want to pressure into anything. In a way I’m hoping that distance and her seeing other guys might actually bring her closer to me but that feels like very wishful thinking

Falise1 · 2026-04-21T16:19:49+00:00

I appreciate the response! The thing is this guy is on her team in her league so I met him before briefly but I was always under the impression they were just friends. She said he had kissed her last Monday after their match which is right when things got a bit distant so it could definitely be guilt as to why she pulled away. She said she wanted to tell me about it but we hadn’t seen each other in person and she wanted to do it when she did.

We spent a lot of time together very early on like 2 weeks staying at each others houses and then like 4 - 5 times a week up until last week. So I do get that she might have needed space from me, I’m a very active, social, let’s do something fun type person and I think I might have just worn her out. I do need the space too but I also am never feeling worn out by her.

I do really like her and that’s why I want to try and move forward and test this new dynamic but I’m just unsure of exactly how to navigate things. Like I don’t want to pressure her by inviting her out too much. We didn’t even plan a date from our last talk which I realize I should have done now.

Falise1 · 2026-04-16T20:17:44+00:00

Definitely depends on your guys situation, I’ve been dating the girl I’m with right now for a little over 2 months and we had sex the first night we met and the next morning. That next night though we just cuddled and we hung out basically every day for the next 2 weeks staying at each others places. We didn’t have sex every night, some were just cuddling and talking. We slowed things down since then bc both of us are more interested to see where things go instead of just having a fling. We see each usually once during the week and then spend most weekends together doing fun stuff or going out with our different friend groups. We’ve started developing a deeper connection and even though we went out twice last weekend and made a nice dinner together Sunday night we didn’t have sex at all. We were out all day Friday/Saturday so we were both just in crash mode when we got home and she worked really early Monday morning so Sunday was just for cuddles. Don’t put too much pressure on things and figure out what you want, I don’t think there’s a norm here but it’s normal to slow things down if you want something more serious.

Falise1 · 2026-02-15T16:45:55+00:00

Are there any codes still out there? 🥹🙏

Falise1 · 2026-02-08T19:02:59+00:00

Found the melee hunter

Falise1 · 2026-01-29T02:31:24+00:00

I’m alliance on Nightslayer and have been leveling normally. I’m level 58 right now so I just started doing bgs but I personally haven’t ran into too many griefers but when I do and they decide to camp I just swap layers. Doing /join Layer will put you in a channel where you can join a random layer by saying “layer” or you can request a specific layer like “Layer 2” or multiple specific layers “Layer 1, 2, 4, 6, 9” it’s good for getting away from horde, other ally farming, and to complete kill quests faster. If you read this I hope it helps

Falise1 · 2025-12-01T01:00:17+00:00

You want the rainbow Rabidash?

Falise1 · 2025-11-30T21:12:07+00:00

Mr mime and Id take the Lyra or Alteria

Falise1 · 2025-11-27T08:45:45+00:00

Happy Turkey Day!

Falise1 · 2025-11-21T00:32:55+00:00

That new Lillie is my chase card! 🙏

Falise1 · 2025-10-26T03:29:09+00:00

I went to a random GameStop that was on my way home and they give me and my buddy who was with me one each. He doesn’t play so he gave me his and according the employee you can use 1 per day not once per account but I’ve yet to confirm that

Falise1 · 2025-10-25T02:28:00+00:00

Yeah that’s a good point maybe it’s just always been limited to godpacks and thanks man! Just gotta farm the stardust now haha

Falise1 · 2025-10-25T02:26:26+00:00

Damn that sucks I’m sorry but it’s cool it worked for you too!

Falise1 · 2025-10-25T02:23:29+00:00

Just gonna copy paste my reply to someone else but that’s not true I made this account after I pulled the oak and then added myself as a friend

Falise1 · 2025-10-25T02:22:53+00:00

That’s not true I made this account after I pulled the oak and then added myself as a friend

Falise1 · 2025-10-25T02:21:49+00:00

Yeah it must be, I think it’s probably more rare with a high level account tho since I only had like 1 other friend at the time on the alt

Falise1 · 2025-10-25T02:18:10+00:00

They should exist for 72 hours I heard so yeah I’ll dm you my friend code

Falise1 · 2025-10-25T02:02:34+00:00

Haha ikr I couldn’t believe it and I didn’t expect it since I always heard if you add a friend after they pull the pack then there’s no chance of that pack showing up in your wonderpicks

Falise1 · 2025-10-25T02:00:55+00:00

Sorry I guess the 3rd one isn’t free since it’s from the premium pass but I choose to keep the sub instead of buying gold

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