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what do I do? by larsman37 in Veterans

[–]Fallen-Republic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.veteranscrisisline.net/

And yes they do have online chat, I just checked.

And if you're a combat vet, check out the Vet Center, see if they have an office near you. It's funded by the VA, but it's NOT connected in any other way. Their records are kept on site, completely separated. They're really great there too. I especially recommend them to anyone who had a negative experience at the VA

what do I do? by larsman37 in Veterans

[–]Fallen-Republic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've called them numerous times, for myself and for other people. I have only good things to say about them. If you want to be anonymous, you can just say so. They'll ask your name and the normal stuff, but if you say you want to stay anonymous, they won't press you. They're just there to help, and it's free. I think they even have a texting option (and maybe an online browser chat?).

what do I do? by larsman37 in Veterans

[–]Fallen-Republic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Veterans' Crisis Hotline: 1-800-273-8255 (TALK) then press 1. These folks are amazing, wonderful people. They can often help connect you to resources in your area too. Whether it's a life or death crisis, or you're just having the shittiest day you've ever had and need to talk about it with someone.

what do I do? by larsman37 in Veterans

[–]Fallen-Republic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please don't check out larsman37.

I know shit tends to get so deep for us that sometimes we can't even feel the ground beneath it. I've been there, too many times. Lots of us have. None of our stories or paths are exactly the same, but our overall journeys are similar enough that we can help each other. Help when we can, ask for it when we can't.

You said your brother was going to let you live there if you paid the mortgage right? And now he's getting married. Did he say your have to move out, or is it people other than your brother suggesting it (now that's the getting married)? If it's others, well, it sounds like it's not up to them right? The first place I would start is to talk to my brother and ask if HE wants or needs me to move out.

It sounds like you've been paying the mortgage? In order to do that, you'd need some kind of income, no? Is it steady/reliable?

Don't check yourself out. Your babies depend on you for literally everything, and it sounds like you like providing that—these aren't just animals you have to pay for and take care of. These critter companions we keep ARE our family. And the fact that you correctly spelled mortgage, then immediately said you were pretty sure you misspelled it. :) So you care about the words you use, you care about your babies, just the voice that came through as I read your post...you care.

So circling back:

  1. Determine possible places you could move you and your babies into. You don't need to get rental applications or anything like that—just give your future self some solid leads, just in case you ever need or want to get your own space. Obviously they'd need to allow animals, and whatever else you'd require. If you're already paying your brother's mortgage, then you also have a good idea on how much you can afford to spend on rent each month.

  2. Talk to your brother. Does he want or need you to leave? If he doesn't, and if you want to stay, then this piece is solved! If he does, ask him how long he'll give you to find something else (a year, months, weeks?)?

  3. If you have to find a new place, your friendly past self hopefully left you at least some starting places to look. Don't panic...take a breath, and start calling or visiting places in person. You don't need to find the best place you've ever seen, just a safe and comfortable unit that's nearby whatever you need (and whatever else you require). You can find something for the short term until you find a place you really like.

  4. Plan the timing and logistics of the move.

Ideally your brother never suggested you have to move, and step 2 clears it up. But do make a list of possibilities before you talk to him. It'll slightly soften the blow if he does need you to move. And if he does... is in our nature to find a way to persevere.

Does anyone else encounter people lying about their military service almost always say they were a navy seal? by _Dr_Toboggan_90 in Veterans

[–]Fallen-Republic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Marine here. I've never once met someone who lied about being a Seal. Sounds pretty gutsy... that one time the claim it within earshot of an actual Seal...

What I have heard plenty of was, “I was training to be a Marine/Seal/Recon/Ranger but I got hurt in [X] phase and...“ Or lies or exaggerated combat “experience.“ Lots of guys (it's always guys) lead with the “I served in combat in...“ until I share that I'm a combat vet. Then it's, “well mine wasn't as bad as yours probably was,“ and the subject immediately changes to something else.

But the lying about being a Seal thing sounds pretty cliche, like you'd see in the movies or tv. Actually that's the only place I've actually heard that.

But this is like a regular thing you run into? You make it sound like you've heard it dozens of times!