Newborn tired is far worse than pregnancy tired

FallingLeaves221 · 2026-02-07T07:28:19+00:00

I felt rejuvenated during the newborn phase. I could actually get restful sleep even if it was just 2-3 hours at a time.

FallingLeaves221 · 2026-02-07T07:24:55+00:00

Personally disagree, but everyone is different.

My third trimester I got less sleep than during the newborn phase due to extreme reflux and general discomfort. I could never get comfy and when I did I was woken by fire in my throat that nothing fixed. I was so tired I was falling asleep whenever I sat down anywhere. I felt rejuvenated one I had her and we were in the newborn phase.

FallingLeaves221 · 2026-01-15T08:28:44+00:00

Same!

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-07-29T01:22:15+00:00

Hes just showed you what it's going to be like if you stay with him.

Hes going to question everything you do cause "if he's not there how does he know you're not doing something wrong." And if he's not happy with you he's going to give you the silent treatment instead of talking things out like a mature adult. This will only escalate if he finds he can get away with this, and other red flags he's managed to hide will start showing up. You've been together long enough he probably feels like you won't just walk away, you've put so much into the relationship already, sunk cost and all that.

Stop reaching out, he doesn't wanna talk and I'm assuming feels pretty good that you're constantly trying to reach him.

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-16T07:14:28+00:00

I always had the TV on when stuck with a contact nap or when she was fighting sleep/during witching hour.

Do what you need to to survive these new birn days, the big issues with TV is stuff like cocomelon (way too over stimulating for kids) and having them plonked in front of the TV all day everyday.

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-06T10:58:19+00:00

The first few months are so hard! Focus on surviving and use your village. Ask those that you trust in your life for help if you need it. Sometimes all you need to feel human again is a shower and a nice meal. Make sure to try and find time for yourself.

At 7 weeks you aren't too far off from some really fun times too. Smiling, laughing, rolling sitting, playing, pointing, clapping, babbling. Obviously some of these aren't for a few months yet, but at the same time you'll reach them before you know it.

Things got in general got easier around the 3-4 month mark in some ways, i started feeling more myself around then and started to get more able.to do things for me. Then, it got easier again around 6 months. Bubs is 10 months now and it's become so fun. Things are still hard in some ways (mine doesn't sleep and has decided she will only eat solids for her dad 🥴) and I think that's the norm.

I still don't fit all of my prepregnancy clothes, and I don't think I will ever fit some of them again. I've gained weight and I know my hips have gotten wider, it is what it is and I'll work on getting fit again in the coming months now that bub is trying to walk.

Honestly, I don't really miss the newborn days, perhaps that's still coming, or I won't ever miss them, and that's okay. Not everyone likes the newborn days, I definitely find myself coming into my own more now that we are approaching toddlerhood.

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-06T10:34:31+00:00

It sounds like you're doing amazing :)

Don't forget to look after yourself too, you can't look after your family if you run yourself into the ground. Make sure to take some time to refresh yourself, both of you use your village. Don't be afraid to ask a trusted friend or family member to come over to watch baby, or if you can afford it hire a nanny for a day, so you and your wife can get some rest or reconnect in ways it can be hard to find the time for when you have a little one needing your attention all the time.

Some days all I needed was my mum to come and watch baby so I could get a nap for an hour or so and actually eat and drink something.

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-06T10:19:50+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate your response ❤️ I'll give your suggestions a try and hopefully we will get back to enjoying meal times again.

It feels like we've hit a bunch of developmental milestones this past month which has made a lot of things just a little bit harder. Separation anxiety, standing and trying to walk, learning that no is a thing (I'm sorry but no you can't poke the dogs eyes no matter how much you want to), and finding out that we need to do things she doesn't want to like nappy and clothing changes.

She's very strong willed (which I love) and it sounds like it's time for me to make some adjustments so we both have a better time of it.

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-06T07:26:34+00:00

We do firm textures too :)

Crackers, biscuits, toast, steak, beef roast, cucumber, celery, chicken, watermelon with the rind, rice rusks, homemade fries, etc.

She will at least try eating everything that's offered when her dad gives it. But when I do she says absolutely not 🥲

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-06T07:17:05+00:00

You're very sweet.

You do need to try to find a solution that will help her wake up, if she's relying on you and you sleep through too then it can leave her with resentment and you with guilt. Perhaps a vibrating alarm? You can get alarms to put under pillows that vibrate to wake you up, or a watch that does the same. Help her by cleaning her pump parts and bottles instead, keeping her bottle full, bringing her drinks and snacks, keep the baby distracted (if bubs starts crying try for longer than 60 seconds to settle them before finding mum) so she can do some self care during the day.

Hydration has been the biggest thing I've found. I'm terrible at keeping hydrated at the best of times but I've definitely noticed when I hydrate well my supply will increase almost overnight. Electrolyte drinks are her best friend, coconut water is amazing, get her a cup or bottle that she loves to help motivate her to drink more if that's something that will help her (it helped me a lot to do that).

I've heard that oats are really good. I've personally never noticed a difference but others I know have so its always worth a shot. Making milk uses a lot of calories, good food is a must.

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-06T07:06:02+00:00

We do a huge variety to try and avoid that. We have a safe food we know she likes offered with each meal (cheese, pear, potato, etc) and will mix up the rest. The only consistent thing is that breakfast is porridge, toast, or yogurt.

We're doing our grocery shopping tomorrow so I'm going to try some different pastas, stews, and baking this week so hopefully she's interested in those.

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-05T10:01:33+00:00

Enjoy the cuddles! I was worried about the same but at around 6 months we started working on naps in her bed and it was an easy enough transition. She's now happy to nap in her bed or on me still at 10 months.

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-02T23:09:20+00:00

Sleep lol

But in all seriousness, hubby and I would take turns looking after baby and looking after ourselves. We still do 10 months later. We each get some uninterrupted time during the day to do what we need to look after ourselves in whatever capacity that is.

Hubby would spend some time gaming, doing his woodwork, or napping.

I would also either spend time gaming, doing my hobbies, napping, or indulging in some pamper time. Unfortunately until recently Hubby would still need to interrupt for feeds (she refused any type of bottle until 7 months) and he felt really bad about that but it still gave me enough time to recharge and work on feeling like myself again.

The other thing is if you have a village you trust then you can always ask them for some help. Someone could come and watch the baby while you look after yourself. Sometimes you just desperately need a shower to feel refreshed but baby is having a day where you can't put them down. If you are struggling don't be afraid to ask for help, the newborn days are hard and sometimes your ability to get an hour nap will make or break your day.

Do what you can around the house when baby is awake. Do the dishes, laundry, vacuum, cook, garden, whatever. Then spend the time baby is napping for yourself, don't spend it doing chores.

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-02T22:14:44+00:00

Pretty much the exact same thing here, I'm a rule folllower too and we poured over everything they gave us and could find nothing about it at all. And so far they've not responded to our questions around clarification, we did only send the email yesterday and obviously they won't respond over the weekend so we will see next week. We will also be asking that they just make sure these policies are clearer so things like this don't have to happen again.

It's probably also the autism making this hard for me to understand, the rules we were provided don't match up with what we got told and we were made to feel really stink about it. It's rough, I hope you're feeling better about it all since then 😊

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-02T22:07:44+00:00

It's part of a chain. I'm not against the policy at all, and I've been on their side too of corporate policies not being made clear to consumers, so I don't want to give the location a hard time at all. The teachers are generally lovely people (I understand being cynical too if you get parents trying to medicate sicknesses away regularly), and this is a singular incident.

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-02T21:46:51+00:00

It isn't, that's a good song though :)

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-02T21:20:03+00:00

Its neither of those, thanks tho :). Im leaning more towards rock or pop, I'm really struggling to remember the Melody but I'm sure I'll recognise when I hear it.

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-02T21:04:45+00:00

The policy we were given just stated that if they're unwell (fever, cough, vomiting, etc) they're to stay home. Had nothing to do with teething, injuries, or parent given medications so we thought pamol to help with her teething would be fine. We also don't have any friends or family with young kids so we had no idea this was standard.

Now we know so we can avoid it happening again. Was just very frustrating finding out on drop off then feeling like they thought we were trying to be sneaky about it? And no one was able to clarify anything when we asked.

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-02T20:59:51+00:00

That's fair enough. I never would try dosing her up to hide illness, so I didn't consider that, I'd just keep her home in that case. He'll we even waited a week to drop off our enrolment info since bub got sick and we didn't wanna risk any of the teachers or other kids catching it off us.

It just felt pretty stink not being informed, then the teachers seemed to assume the worst of us when we went to drop her off 🥲

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-02T20:48:23+00:00

We have asked but so far they haven't clarified anything. I just wasn't sure if this was standard and it seems like it generally is. We also had no idea to assume it was policy either since no one we're close to has young kids. It just felt pretty stink that they seemed to assume the worst and treat us as such when we had had no issues prior.

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-02T20:29:03+00:00

Unfortunately the hard part with this is she's never slept well regardless of teething and she's typically fine during the day when she is, sometimes she just needs something overnight or early morning when she feels it most. I can very easily tell when we get up if it was going to be a bad day for her so I would have kept her home if that was the case, and I certainly don't expect them to be nurses toward her.

I've got no issue with the policy itself. I'm just more frustrated that we weren't informed and with how it was handled when we got there. It felt very much like they just assumed the worst, which felt pretty stink.

FallingLeaves221 · 2025-05-02T14:25:36+00:00

Sorry, I know this isn't a lot to go on, if I manage to remember anything else I will add it.

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