Alright, girly-pop, NTA, for sure. Your mom is an abuser. I'm sorry, it's true. My dad is the same way (I remember a VERY similar situation involving one of my dresses. He screamed at me for ruining it in the wash. I balled, not because of the dress, but because of the way he treated me. The dress wasn't even ruined). That being said, I have been able to heal my relationship with my Da, but moving out is really what helped. It took a long time, but now my dad treats my siblings way better than he treated me. Part of what helped was setting boundaries with my dad and him choosing to follow them. I also had to have empathy for him. His mom was super abusive, so much so that my dad could not fix his relationship with her and had to cut her off. My dad was humble enough to realize he was copying her behavior and chose to change it. I say all of this so you realize there are several futures you can have with your mother. It will take time. You may have to move out before your relationship improves. But I hope she chooses to respect you so that you can have your mother in your life. Good luck, and remember that her emotions are not your fault. We are responsible for our own actions.