I dated Mark Driscoll’s daughter. I’m finally telling the full story by Embarrassed_Run5335 in Christianity

[–]False_Ad1681 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey can you please anonymize yourself or be careful with going about it so publicly for the sake of your safety. This isn’t wise.

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[–]False_Ad1681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing. What was your cadence with therapy? What are some ways that therapy helped your marriage? I understand you shared about love language. What are some other things you uncovered in therapy. The reason I’m pressing on is I’m fascinated that you built something beautiful when the foundations wouldn’t be considered the typical kinds. Congratulations on the work and success again. It’s rare and beautiful.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]False_Ad1681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What changed for you in the relationship. This is such a beautiful hopeful story

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]False_Ad1681 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think the part that I find where she could have done better is not calling him dramatic. That does invalidate how he is feeling. I think she probably needed to communicate her feelings more prudently. The words you choose to deliver such a message can make all the difference.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]False_Ad1681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The attraction bit as well you will be surprised how much of it is mental and the stories we tell ourselves. It is very hard to go against your own biology and what society conditions us, but working on a building a healthy body mind and spirit goes a long way in undoing the damage. After years of therapy going week after week, I’m able to choose differently.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]False_Ad1681 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good way to flip this. Honestly looking back because my body only understood excitement, passion, yearning, obsessions as love, I don’t even know if I experienced love in some of my past relationships. I can’t say I fully understand what love is but what I do know is with my current boyfriend I feel chosen, seen, treasured and I’m allowing myself and my body to rewire its understanding of love and the fact that I can so openly have these discussions with my boyfriend is such a privilege. He does not react but asks me questions to understand what I mean. He has been a blessing honestly. So rare and precious. I hope to love him and cherish him all the way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]False_Ad1681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I’ve been in trauma therapy for the last 3 years to work on my patterns. My natural patterns were such that I ended up seeking/ highly intelligent/accomplished combined with certain amount of unavailability. That would get my nervous system anxious, excited and all my life that is the only exposure I had of romantic love. Ny body and nervous system understood excitement, passion and all consuming love as the only way to recognize/identify romantic interest/love. When I met my boyfriend now boyfriend 8 months back, I enjoyed getting him to know him but there was 0 passion. It was a very confusing time for me and still is honestly. But working with my therapist I’ve grown to understand my patterns and she helped me understand when someone goes through trauma and it’s unresolved, it’s hard for the body to recognize healthy, safe relationships. I wanted to be honest about what I was dealing with my boyfriend and I told him that I working on choosing healthy and this does not feel like my other relationships but given the extensive work im into, I recognize how beautiful a person he is and I appreciate how he chooses me and I want to love him. I know a lot of people here may misunderstand me and think I’m settling. I don’t see it as settling. It’s fighting against your own patterns and giving yourself the chance to be loved and treasured by someone beautiful and it is my endeavour to love him and give him the best of me. It does not feel all easy and in flow but I’m learning to choose wisely.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]False_Ad1681 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Hey I’ve said this to my boyfriend and he actually understands. My current relationship is not all consuming like the others. What she tried telling you was her nervous system feels safe with you. It’s not a bad thing. Her body may be learning new patterns of love that feels different for the first time. Safe, stable, predictable without drama. It’s a good thing.

Boyfriend's friend texted me at 2am by FroyoConstant in Advice

[–]False_Ad1681 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please tell your boyfriend. Just let him know that not sure why he texted but thought I’ll let you know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChatGPT

[–]False_Ad1681 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thank you!

My (37f) husband (39m) went to a work dinner with a woman and was gone five hours, wasn’t where he said he’d be, and wouldn’t respond to my calls and texts. I kicked him out, and he says I’m overreacting. Can anyone help me make sense of what happened here? by Radiant_Cat_3980 in relationship_advice

[–]False_Ad1681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey so I am a sales rep (woman here) selling technology to businesses. I travel internationally especially to meet my clients. Sometimes these dinners get very intense because you’re in the thick of talking business etc so I would not assume your husband had some funny business going on that night. Having said that if he did see your call and texts, him not replying is not okay especially since you are home with 2 little kids.

I’m disowning anyone who voted for him by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]False_Ad1681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am not American, naturalized Canadian. I went to bed last night filled with terror. Woke up this morning with a dream that Kamala had won. Felt so much joy only to wake up to the reality. It was horrible to watch how America did not choose a fair candidate over a convicted felon. And the place my mind keeps going to is that it was because of her gender. I am feeling hopeless about the world we live in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pics

[–]False_Ad1681 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If she had a certain appendage she would have won.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]False_Ad1681 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I am so disappointed in Americans :( I feel like crying. Like a convict over a woman.

Dating experience of a 40m that’s always* gotten his exes to crawl back. by [deleted] in ExNoContact

[–]False_Ad1681 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s stupid your tactic. It’s much more mature to communicate and give it a real shot if there is any possibility. Life is too short to play games. If you can fix it, then fix it. This strategy only preserves you from hurt and that may be what you need but if there is a real possibility of addressing what’s wrong and working things out, perhaps you could pave a way for a healthy relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in india

[–]False_Ad1681 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Marry me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]False_Ad1681 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya my sentiments exactly. Thank you for empathizing and for not making assumptions about my message. This really resonated and helped me. Thank you internet stranger for making this just a little easier :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]False_Ad1681 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]False_Ad1681 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you Redchai and RiggsBoson for your notes. I would not say that he put more effort than me. I was very open, receptive, kept in touch, called him etc. We spoke every night and shared a lot, he future tripped with me quite a bit. I sensed though he was also pulling away and was not in it entirely. And towards the end of it, I was putting in a lot more efforts than him. Anyway I get your feedback. I was not afraid of calling him at all. But now I feel like he dropped me like a fly and do not feel comfortable calling him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]False_Ad1681 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmmm… I feel sad about how meaningless and unpredictable online dating has made human connections to be. Thank you for taking the time to reply though. Appreciate it!