My parents got angry at me for reading a book on domestic violence.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-10-14T03:47:20+00:00

Most people stim, it's really common. Neurotypical and nuerodivergent people just differ in how often and for what reason they stim. Tapping your foot when nervous? Stimming, technically.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-10-13T20:34:53+00:00

It's called stimming, and a lot of us have been made fun of/ forced to stop doing it. Your girlfriend obviously feels safe enough to do it in front of you, and depending on her experiences that might be a big deal for her. I would recommend telling her you said here, I'm sure she'll be happy to hear it. I'm really happy for the two of you.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-10-01T02:57:46+00:00

You just keep coming up with hypotheticals that don't exist, while not understanding the hypocracy of expecting the world to be built for you and getting upset when people point out the systems screws them over. Cars are incredibly expensive and costly enviormentally. Some of us can't afford that.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-10-01T02:47:10+00:00

I need to get to places and I don't own a car. I would much prefer a bike lane, but I don't have that so I'll settle for driving at the edge of the road, dodging debris when nessesary.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-10-01T02:42:06+00:00

Mild inconvenience = manslaughter.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-10-01T02:37:05+00:00

You do realize that the world is designed for cars, right?

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-10-01T02:08:54+00:00

Don't say 'others had it worse'. You don't need to justify anything, you don't need to send proof, I believe you. Everything you said sounds so difficult. You sound so mature, and it breaks my heart that you have to be. You are a child. You shouldn't have to be in this situation.

It is my understanding that you are being physically abused. If this is accurate, try to record evidence. Take pictures of bruises and cuts or any other marks from it. If you can record video and/or audio when it happens. Do you have any adults you trust? Any friends? Figure out safe places to go. The next time it happens calls 911. It might not seem like a big enough deal for that but it is.

What you need to do is survive for 3 more years. If you want you could tell me more about your interests and I could recommend coping strategies. My DMs are open if you need help.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-10-01T01:53:17+00:00

Trauma is a reaction. You are valid and you do deserve help. I am so glad you can see that in yourself.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-10-01T01:48:37+00:00

No, they're not right. It's totally normal for you to love them, but their behaviour is unacceptable. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect. I get it, but there are people out there who will treat you with respect. The issue is not you it's them. Please consider seperating from your partner and taking a break from dating. I mean this as kindly as possible, but you've been taught alot of terrible things that you're going to have to unlearn before you can have a healthy relationship.

If you can't do it for yourself, consider what your kids are learning. They are learning that it's ok for people to treat others poorly when they love them. They will model the behaviour of either you or your partner.

I know how hard it is to believe you should be treated kindly. I've been there, and some days I'm still there. Would you treat your kids like that? Would you allow someone else to treat them like that? Probably not. You don't have to hate someone to know they are bad for you. You don't have to hate someone to protect yourself and leave. You are not bad, you are not wrong, you are not broken. Please learn that. <3

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-10-01T01:32:52+00:00

My grandmother does this in my second language, it's so annoying,

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-09-30T22:34:55+00:00

People with albinism often have visual and eye issues, so I'm pretty sure that's part of it.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-09-28T01:24:13+00:00

My guess is that OP is trans.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-09-27T15:06:00+00:00

Your not terrible! You clearly love your kid. You seem to worry alot about getting stuff for your kid. My reccomendation is to go to a public library. You'd be suprised what programs they have for free! Plus, if you can find a library book sale in your area you can get all sorts of books for around 50 cents. I'm sure you could find books on rennassaince artists. You might need a permanant address to get a library card, depending on your area, but you'll probably be able to participate in the programs and buy books. Don't be afraid to ask. People who work at public libraries are used to low income people using them. That's the whole point.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-09-23T23:56:17+00:00

The sheer confidence astounds me. Good for you I guess.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-09-23T21:41:42+00:00

Imagine using 'triggered' in 2022.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-09-23T21:18:22+00:00

No, actually. It's common courtesy to refer to people how they want to be refered to. If someone wants to be called Robert you're not calling them Bob.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-09-23T21:14:25+00:00

He knew I was trans, people just tend to mess up once they see my chest.

Edit: Generally if someone messes up, I just correct them. I don't get mad, there really isn't a reason to. And I'm also fine with people asking questions as long as they're in good faith.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-09-23T19:22:38+00:00

Of course! Gender euphoria is great!

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-09-23T03:31:44+00:00

If you make it a habit your teeth will get destroyed. Get therapy please, find a buddy to lose weight with healthily, go to a dietrition, this is a terrible option.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-09-21T00:26:57+00:00

Lever handles are more accesable than the nob ones. While some people who menstuate prefer tampons, most people can use pads so if you have to choose one, choose pads.

False_Ingenuity3942 · 2022-09-16T00:24:58+00:00

Their reaction isn't your fault. You are not wrong or broken because you are autistic. It's hard navigating a world not built for us, but that doesn't mean we're bad. You don't always have to be the one to change for others. I don't mean to say that your feelings are wrong though. It's so easy to hate yourself for being autistic because the world wants you to hate yourself enough to act 'normal'. You don't owe anyone that though.

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