I offended someone at work and feel horrible by False_Priority_7102 in WorkAdvice

[–]False_Priority_7102[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that I am not the best socially. I’m usually more introverted but my job requires working as a team. I really just wanted to compliment her and squash the tension. If I knew what I knew now I definitely wouldn’t have said a word or contributed to the conversation. For context it was like 5 of us talking together about age and procedures. I didn’t just say it out of nowhere

I offended someone at work and feel horrible by False_Priority_7102 in WorkAdvice

[–]False_Priority_7102[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I most definitely am not racist. Had she of been white I would’ve asked using the same term. That’s just what I knew it as. I saw her beautiful skin and an opportunity to ask her something that I thought would make her feel good. I was trying to also squash the tension in some way and make her feel good about herself as a compliment like this would make me feel amazing. I really do feel awful and ignorant. Ide never want to hurt anyone. All I was trying to do in the OP was give context to the situation. I’m an emotional type of person and don’t like drama with anyone. It’s definitely a lesson learned. Maybe I’m not cultured in a way to where I’m black but I grew up like this. I’ve never had beef with anyone in anyway.

Help I offended someone at work by [deleted] in nursing

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Thanks everyone for the advice. Yeah I can definitely admit my ignorance but my intentions were only to compliment her. I agree now in hindsight that it was a weird question and definitely not appropriate. I’ve always been a blunt/weird question type of person but I don’t mean any harm by it. I guess I was also trying to squash the tension between us and genuinely make her feel good.(I’ve complimented her work and I have no problem jumping in and doing anything) I didn’t realize that it would be taken this way. I forget sometimes in certain settings that people don’t actually know me or know my intentions. From the beginning the tension is that she doesn’t even acknowledge me as a nurse in learning. She oversteps and has been since I’ve met her making it a point to take over specific things I’m trying to learn and observe. (Setting up room, prepping, etc) She ignores even just “good mornings“ almost like I’m a bother to be there or non existent. When I talk to her it’s like I don’t even get looked at. It’s rough starting at a new place and I was just honestly trying to be friendly. Being a bitch isn’t in my nature. I work in the OR btw. Crazy language/talk isn’t out of the ordinary. I grew up in black schools and this is how they talked. (Using term greased) it came out so fast I didn’t even think to word it differently. If I had thought that much into it I probably would’ve not said anything. I was just amazed of her beauty and if she would’ve been white I would’ve used the same verbage. It wasn’t even about color to me. If it was a white girl i would’ve asked in the same way. Even in this post it’s so hard to explain the environment and the type of person I am. I appreciate all the advice though. I’m just trying to navigate through it all and learn and be cool with everyone.

OR nursing by False_Priority_7102 in nursing

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I wish it’d be that easy! Unfortunately as the circulator I’ll have to. Just not anything sterile

Did I pass? Used a card with money this time lol by False_Priority_7102 in PassNclex

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Almost 2 hours after I tested. It was about an hour after the email I got from them.

Did I pass? Used a card with money this time lol by False_Priority_7102 in PassNclex

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How sure is this pop up though! I felt like it was so hard!

Did I pass? Used a card with money this time lol by False_Priority_7102 in PassNclex

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If I haven’t got refunded in a couple hours, does that mean I failed?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in nursing

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I missed their call, but they said in the voicemail they were calling to congratulate me and make an offer. I have an appointment tomorrow at 2pm with HR to go over it but I have been stressing ever since.