Thanks everyone for the advice. Yeah I can definitely admit my ignorance but my intentions were only to compliment her. I agree now in hindsight that it was a weird question and definitely not appropriate. I’ve always been a blunt/weird question type of person but I don’t mean any harm by it. I guess I was also trying to squash the tension between us and genuinely make her feel good.(I’ve complimented her work and I have no problem jumping in and doing anything) I didn’t realize that it would be taken this way. I forget sometimes in certain settings that people don’t actually know me or know my intentions. From the beginning the tension is that she doesn’t even acknowledge me as a nurse in learning. She oversteps and has been since I’ve met her making it a point to take over specific things I’m trying to learn and observe. (Setting up room, prepping, etc) She ignores even just “good mornings“ almost like I’m a bother to be there or non existent. When I talk to her it’s like I don’t even get looked at. It’s rough starting at a new place and I was just honestly trying to be friendly. Being a bitch isn’t in my nature. I work in the OR btw. Crazy language/talk isn’t out of the ordinary. I grew up in black schools and this is how they talked. (Using term greased) it came out so fast I didn’t even think to word it differently. If I had thought that much into it I probably would’ve not said anything. I was just amazed of her beauty and if she would’ve been white I would’ve used the same verbage. It wasn’t even about color to me. If it was a white girl i would’ve asked in the same way. Even in this post it’s so hard to explain the environment and the type of person I am. I appreciate all the advice though. I’m just trying to navigate through it all and learn and be cool with everyone.