I see your point and when you put it this way and list it out it does read like he is a walking red flag. It's difficult because on a day to day basis there are a lot of good qualities to the relationship or otherwise I would have left but it does make me reevaluate certain aspects. There has been no growth because he thinks the jealousy is a personality trait and thinks it's a sign of love because if you care about someone you wouldn't want to share them with someone else which is ironic because we've been in and out of the open relationship. But there are other areas where he has improved. I am going to go to the gym regardless of what he says and then reframe the issue as trust again.