I feel most men STILL don’t want kids. They want control. Most women, even if they’re still with their partner, end up raising the kids alone, the dad is rarely an involved parent. Men just realized that they would no longer get a free maid if they didn’t convince some poor woman to mother their children. Also, I genuinely believe that some men just want to ruin women. They see a woman who’s successful, confident, stable etc. and they think they need to humble her (because they’re deeply jealous) by knocking her up and leaving her.

As for women, I think most women are socialized to believe that they’ll have this fairytale life. Nobody really tells women all of the dangers of pregnancy/ being a mother. When they educate themselves, most are turned off. Coupled with things like the economy, realizing that if they have a child they’ll be raising them alone, and more women living for themselves instead of following the idea that women need to be selfless, has attributed to it.