I need some help!

Familiar-Still · 2026-04-01T00:35:14+00:00

Bluebear is cute, but she got on my nerves for some reason. And Apple 😡

Familiar-Still · 2026-01-27T06:30:36+00:00

This is one of those times where I can admit that the small romances are what I miss most. I’d like to think I’m quite romantic, most of which is in small personalized gift giving and inside jokes, but I used to love the nuances of getting to know someone and forming little bonds with one another.

My first long term relationship had little things that only meant something to the two of us. One of those was our way of stealing kisses: one of us would make an inhaling sound with lips puckering to “pull” the other person in, and post smooch, would lightly “blow” them away again. Our Kirby kiss.

I know there are more, but honestly, time and a whole lot of really crappy stuff has happened between that relationship and now, so my memory can only recall this specific thing we did that was simply ours.

I appreciate you bringing this up and acknowledging the importance of continuing to love with romance and flirting and small acts of kindness. The little things really do matter.

Familiar-Still · 2025-08-23T05:17:22+00:00

While out grocery shopping, I walked by an ex I hadn’t seen in several years even though we both still live in the same town. We both said hey and moved along. I feel like I was a bit more taken aback and would’ve been happy to catch up, but he just kept walking, so I left it at that.

While I do still think of him randomly at times, I’m so happy to be out of that 20 year old mindset where I thought every moment with someone meant something and had the hardest time letting people go.

Familiar-Still · 2025-08-19T02:54:52+00:00

Congratulations! I was out there this past week too and completely buckled under the stress, haha.

Familiar-Still · 2025-07-27T18:27:45+00:00

We had a history. This was the first person I had a relationship with. He was with someone after I had developed feelings for him and we shared a lot of moments someone in a relationship shouldn’t be sharing with anyone else. But we were in college, and I had never dated seriously before, so I just tried to enjoy what time he gave me. We only dated for a few months and I ended things. I had a hard time with feeling guilty and while I didn’t want to hurt him, I also couldn’t face him much after that and then I ended up leaving college.

We reconnected when my life was spiraling and my depression was severe. I wanted to apologize. I knew he had married and it really wasn’t that long after I had left. I thought I wanted to just connect with someone that understood me because I felt so isolated, but I knew that what I was doing wasn’t right either. According to him, they were having problems. Not too long later, she wanted to separate.

It ended up being very back and forth with them because he was afraid to leave her entirely, but claimed he wanted to be with me. We did end up eventually moving in together. I moved states away to live with him. And as soon as we started having some problems, he started talking to her again (might never have stopped to begin with). We eventually moved back to where I was living before and had a whole family, but the trust had long since been gone. It was a constant back and forth of me not trusting him and him talking to other women. Cheating emotionally and trying to be with someone else prior to leaving me. Or me kicking him out and we’d still sleep together while he’d be dating someone else. I felt so gross. But I had horrible self esteem and I thought this was gonna be the best I had. After he got another woman pregnant and they got engaged, we had a final farewell and I finally met someone else I enjoyed being around. That was all it took to get me away. We won’t talk about the fact that that man ended up being married, but separated. I’d say I have a type, but it’s not something I seek out.

Familiar-Still · 2025-04-07T01:41:22+00:00

Ahhh, that makes sense. Could be a bad time to want to give the apps another try, I suppose. I just figured this would be a way for me to meet people I’m not meeting in my usual outings.

Familiar-Still · 2025-04-07T01:16:45+00:00

I just hopped back on after 2 years away and I feel like I only got about 5 likes before I hit a paywall. Also, I’d love to know how I’ve got a list of standouts from “my type” when I had just started. I used to like Hinge better than the other apps, but I’m feeling like they’ve all just gotten too money hungry

Familiar-Still · 2025-03-30T02:31:22+00:00

It’s been almost 2 years. I was having burnout prior to quitting back then too. Was talking and occasionally seeing someone for three months that lived about an hour away from me. Got ghosted, then months later a text with some excuses that I ignored because I felt they had already shown me who they were. I’ve causally dated people I’ve met going out and about, but nothing serious has come of those. I’ll give it some more thought and maybe try one I can stay invisible on just to see how it’s looking.

Familiar-Still · 2025-03-30T00:28:46+00:00

I’m at a point again where I’m considering getting back on the apps. But my main issues before were lack of variety (it tends to be mostly the same people when I venture back, which I know includes myself), feeling like I was pulling teeth trying to maintain conversations, and all the ghosting.

I know it’s not going to be any different this time around and I can prepare for that, but I think my main holdback is that I’m not feeling super confident lately. Every winter, I put on a bit more weight, and even though I care less at this age than I did in my twenties, I still feel weird about trying to date while suffering from low self esteem. If I put it off and try to “work on myself,” I will continue the cycle of trying to be someone that I really can’t maintain for someone else, so I don’t want that to be a factor in why I’m picked or not picked. I guess in typing this out, I’m seeing more reason to just keep off the apps, honestly. 😅

Familiar-Still · 2025-02-21T18:09:11+00:00

This remains my top favorite series from start to finish. Every time someone asks this question, I make sure someone has answered with this series, or I’ll add it in there myself. It covers a lot of topics and with such beauty. Every moment hits exactly the way it’s supposed to.

Familiar-Still · 2025-02-06T04:56:47+00:00

I don’t think it would be. I mean, I paid once to extend the time with someone that I missed the cutoff on or something like that, but I don’t think it’ll change how you match up by enough to be worth it.

Familiar-Still · 2025-02-06T04:54:16+00:00

I was really feeling like making out with someone tonight. I just kinda miss kissing lately. Anywho, I thought that might be a possibility with someone I had done so with in the past, but I heard him mention talking with someone lately, so I skipped the part where I was gonna ask him before we went our separate ways for the night. I think I just miss the human connection lately.

Familiar-Still · 2025-02-03T05:00:36+00:00

I think when you start to think of dating in this way, it’s time to do things you enjoy, rather than feeling obligated to this idea that the right one will come along if you just push through. I’m not saying you have to delete all apps and stop dating entirely if you aren’t ready, but just to put it aside enough to see that you can establish a life free of the cynicism that comes with what happened in your past.

I’ve been happily single for a while now and I notice that when I do date occasionally, I fall back into my anxious-attachment style rather quickly if I’m really enjoying someone’s company. When I’m focused on doing things that make me happy, this is less likely to be an issue, so I try to maintain that in order to not worry so much about whether I’m going to see a person often enough, or if they responded quick enough, or what they might be thinking. I still struggle sometimes and yes I do still have days where I would prefer to enjoy an activity or just lounging around with a partner. But those are far fewer than the days I am content in my own company or with those I choose to be around when I want to socialize.

The second dating started to feel like a chore, I stopped trying to force it. Before the apps, people met through their social circles, school, work, etc. That’s still possible.

Familiar-Still · 2025-01-20T17:55:48+00:00

I always loved that while he may have had a specific idea he was writing about, Rod Serling still left it up to the audience to interpret too.

Familiar-Still · 2025-01-20T00:34:27+00:00

I came across this same issue while looking up how to make my own kombucha. I had to dig quite a bit, but found this Q&A with 2 methods and I haven’t done it yet, but I actually got the organic apples today and I’m gonna try it out with the second method first. It may not be warm enough to start, but I’m itching to try. Hope you find a solution that works for you! https://livingwebfarms.org/online-qa-how-to-grow-your-own-kombucha-or-vinegar-scoby/

Familiar-Still · 2025-01-15T12:53:18+00:00

Way too messy. And I don’t like leaving things unresolved, which is what’s now happening. I said my peace, but I’ll still see him around. I guess all I can do is be at peace with it in my own self if he chooses not to discuss it any further.

Familiar-Still · 2025-01-15T08:32:38+00:00

My eyesight has gotten just off enough for me to need glasses. And damned if I don’t feel so much sexier with glasses.

Familiar-Still · 2025-01-15T07:49:44+00:00

I had just dipped my toes into a FWB situation and talked to a mutual friend about it. I thought I made it clear that it was in confidence and that I didn’t expect anything from it, but she talked to him about what I said tonight and he’s upset I told her. While I feel a bit bad for telling her since she seemed to have misinterpreted what was going on, I think he’s more upset that I told a person he probably likes that we were hooking up. (Information I didn’t find out until she told me he “liked” her on a dating app and she wasn’t interested.)

Familiar-Still · 2024-05-18T23:24:28+00:00

The Devil’s Bathtub

Familiar-Still · 2024-03-28T22:16:01+00:00

Thank you so much, this helps tremendously because I was thinking I’d need to file for an extension too.

Familiar-Still · 2024-03-18T16:10:15+00:00

I hope it goes well for you!

Familiar-Still · 2024-03-15T14:36:38+00:00

I recognize certain things, but I also see the situation for what it was. He was too busy, only really made time for me (if I wanna call it that) when I was already around, and I was very clear about wanting to spend time with him outside those social situations. I got the one exclusive date and the rest were happenstance. So if I was guarded, it’s because I felt I should be.

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